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Old 04-24-2018, 01:44 AM
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Time to admit it: Kizzy is almost certainly lost for good.

I really don't know what to do. I feel mostly dead inside.

My gut feeling is that she died the night she flew out. She couldn't see in the dark and didn't know where to land. She would have been flying erratically. Any owls in the area would have noticed. She might have landed on the ground and become prey of all kinds of roaming critters in the area.

I think the reward would have been enough to entice someone to give her back. If someone has her, she's not even my bird anymore. Who knows what she's been doing, what she learned, what kind of diet she's been on. It would take the entire reward to rehabilitate her. If I find her, I'm just going to take her. No reward. But I really don't think she's even alive.

She would have been 1 year old on May 1st.

RIP, Kizzy. I failed you.
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Old 04-24-2018, 02:35 AM
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Re: Time to admit it: Kizzy is almost certainly lost for good.

Bless you - accidents happen, we all look back at different events in our lives and wish we had done it differently. This was one of those dreadful mishaps totally unintentional and forever regretted.
We all recognise situations where we would have done something differently if only we had a second chance but the sad truth is that we have to learn and move on, possibly with a heavy heart but with determination to remember what went wrong.
I have thought of you often. You have been extremely generous in sharing your pain and my heart goes out to you but you have now begun to turn a corner which will let you move.
Do you know anyone locally who also keeps a bird who would let you visit or even bring it to visit you? I don't know if you will take another bird to love, I hope you do, but I feel certain that if you could just contemplate giving another the great love that you gave to Kizzy you would heal so much more quickly. It won't be the same but happiness can return even though it is in different circumstances. Take care, keep in touch and knowing that you are on the mend will make us happy too.
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Old 04-24-2018, 06:35 AM
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Re: Time to admit it: Kizzy is almost certainly lost for good.

You did not fail Kizzy! You have done everything in your power to find her, and I know if doing some impossible task would bring her back, you would do whatever without question.
As much as we love our pets/animals we sometimes think we are in control of the situation and that’s just an illusion we like to believe. They are animals and they act independently from us. You loved Kizzy, took care of her and gave her what she needed, whether months or years that is the best she could have had. Don’t let the things you could have done differently fill you with guilt and grief. Forgive yourself, you did not fail Kizzy.
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Old 04-24-2018, 07:34 AM
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Re: Time to admit it: Kizzy is almost certainly lost for good.

Much of what you stated above is true and healthy acceptance of conditions beyond your control. But dont for 1 minute feel that you failed Kizzy, not when you owned her, not when she escaped, not in your efforts to find her. It is natural to think like that but those thoughts are not healthy ones. I think you have gone to great lengths to recover her, and the reason there has been no response is because your assessment above is likely correct.
But I am going to wait to place my donation to Cornell for awhile.
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Old 04-24-2018, 08:22 AM
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Re: Time to admit it: Kizzy is almost certainly lost for good.

Yes, it is probably time to grieve for your loss of Kizzy. I know people like to "have faith" forever, but the reality is it is unlikely she will return. Grieve for her loss, but do not beat yourself up over it. You did NOT fail her. You allowed her to do what birds are meant to do- fly and provided her with a wonderful, loving home in her time with you. As Taprock mentioned, our pets are independent of us and they do not always react as we hope they will.

I sincerely hope, in due time, you will be willing to open your home to another parrot. You are an excellent bird owner and while another bird will never replace Kizzy, you have a lot to offer another bird, who will undoubtedly thrive in your care. Perhaps a rescue bird this time. Sometimes when people rescue an animal, the animal helps rescue them instead.

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Old 04-24-2018, 08:52 AM
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Re: Time to admit it: Kizzy is almost certainly lost for good.

The hardest part of all this is not knowing. For this I am truly sorry. I hope you can learn to forgive yourself for this, take your time to grieve and in time I hope you can learn to turn that loss into love for another bird.
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Re: Time to admit it: Kizzy is almost certainly lost for good.

I too, am sorry your bird flew out. I know the feeling having a bird fly away, thankfully ours flew only a short distance and then waited on the ground for my husband to come pick her up. She flew because he was using a pick-ax outside, hit a water pipe and scared the xxx out of her.
It sounds like you loved this bird so I know one day you will have love enough to take on another one. The loss of a dear pet is the same as any family member, take the time you need then take a leap forward.
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Old 04-26-2018, 12:48 AM
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Re: Time to admit it: Kizzy is almost certainly lost for good.

Hi Ladyhawk

There have been miracles and you can hope for one.
Almost coincidentally, the google newsfeed showed this nice story on an Amazon(looks like an Orange winged Amazon to me) that landed up on a gardener.

https://www.breakingnews.ie/discover...er-839204.html

Hope you find Kizzy to in a similar way.

cheers

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Old 04-26-2018, 05:38 PM
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Re: Time to admit it: Kizzy is almost certainly lost for good.

I have no words to help you deal with your pain. As mentioned above, DONT FEEL LIKE YOU FAILED KIZZY! You went above and beyond,in raising her,and training her and loving her,and your attempts in finding her.
My heart aches for you honestly..In time this will pass. Remember we are family here and care deeply about our big and little feathered family,and for each other.


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Re: Time to admit it: Kizzy is almost certainly lost for good.

You don't know that for sure, animals have a way of surprising us. Have you tried looking at parrot stores, ad, or anyplace where somebody might try to sell her?
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