She hates me lol

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We just got a Blue Fronted yesterday and she seriously hates me. She was super comfortable at first with me and pretty much everyone I think until she realized that her parents are gome and she is not stuck here. She hardly makes noise or comes out of her cage, she doesnt want me close to her but she is interested in the kids kind of... if they domt give her like "I want to be near you" attention.... is there any way to train her out of this behavior and earn her affection over time? Or do Amazons pretty much pick one person and forsake all others for life? Am I doomed? Lol!
 
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This is her :)
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Congratulations on your new re-home birdie!!
There is a blue sticky thread at the top of the Amazon forum by Sailboat, I love Amazon's ( I think) it's a great read full of good stuff!
This is a link to an article about stress in parrots I found good stuff in it. Also it's ok, these are early days. Sure they are upset and mourning their last home and life. Who wouldn't? Give her time. Get a digital kitchen scale at Walmart or such that can weigh in grams. Good to track weights, plus she looks a tad thin in the picture, beauty though!
https://lafeber.com/pet-birds/stress-reduction-for-parrot-companions/
 

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Remember that they need a reason to trust Humans! Which translates into those who provide that reason is likely going to be able to develop a relationship with the Amazon. Once they have a reason to trust a Human, the door opens.

Try reading the huge Thread near the top of the Amazon Forum, highlighted in light blue, which is titled: Why I Love Amazons ...

Also, within the Amazon Forum are many Threads that ask and receive answers for the questions that you ask.

Amazons can create a family wide relationship or limit their activity to a single individual. How extensive the relationships develop is more dependent on Humans creating the environment to foster the relationships.

So, she doesn't hate you, she simply doesn't trust you yet...

FYI: Thank you for your comments, good friend!
 
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Thank you guys! I'm seriously so in love with her its unreal. We are so blessed on how this all came together and I really want to learn how to earn her trust and love. The last home she was in, the people with knock her off her perch with a stick if they wanted to hold her and looks like they almost never cleaned her cage. I will definitely read that article tonight! Any and all information is MORE than welcome [emoji7][emoji7][emoji3059][emoji3059]
 

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Be patient with your bird! She is probably so confused by the changes, Unser of her new environment and missing her old family. It can take a long time for a parrot to warm up to a new family. It took our rescue amazon months to settle in, several more months to make progress with my husband and a good year and a half before he started to trust me (even longer before he liked me). We’ve had him nearly 11 years now and those days are long gone. He is very bonded to us and a member of our family in every way. It just takes time, and with as long as these birds live, you have all the time she needs to earn her trust. No rush.
 

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Please understand that most Amazons that are coming out of an abusive environment are very slow to trust and require several weeks just to be out and around. Your girl is out and about already!

As she feels the Love, you will see the changes in her day by day. Understand there will be down days and that it is just fine. Just start over again with providing reasons for her to Trust you!

Vantage Point:
It is Always the Fault of the Human.
It is Never the Fault of the Amazon.
When you view her behavior from this Vantage Point, you will more quickly see what you are doing wrong and correct it.

Also read, the other highlighted Thread near the top of the Amazon Forum titled Understanding Amazon Body Language. After all, Amazon are very busy communicating with us! We only need to learn and continue to learn their Language. You are only seeing a small part of the World around you. Once you learn to hear their commends on the World around us, you will become aware of just how much you are missing.
FYI: Consider reading this Thread while sitting next to your girl. By reading it out loud, you learn the 'foundation' of her language, while she is learning to trust you. I commonly read this Thread to my Amazon at least several times a year as a reminder to myself the need to hear what he is telling me and for him to know that time with him is important to me. Your reading this several times a week is well worth your time.

The I Love Amazons - ... Thread is HUGE, the ability to read that complete Thread in a single night is a likewise HUGE undertaking. Better to take it in bites.
 
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Thanks again :) we figured out she was too cold in the first room she was in so we moved her to the living room where the kids, TV, and other pets often are, as well as the fire place. This is more of what she was use to. She started spinning in circles and talking a bit and came out of her cage for a while, she hung upside down on and off for about a half an hour or so too. She seems to like attention and getting talked to with lovey words and affection. Shes already gettin more comfortable with my hands being around but touching is a HUGE nono with her. She will take food right out of my hand, I offered her some gluten free cauliflower and lentil noodles and she was all about that! She seems very forgiving after I go too far and make her uncomfortable. Trying to contain my excitement and take it slow, but she is responding nicely and better than anticipated. Day 1 she came out of her carrier and let us carry her around and that was rather surprising. She didn't allow us to pet her, but she liked perching on us more than her tree stand or anywhere else. Once I brought her cage in, everything changed- I think that's when she realized this wasn't a vacation with a nice stranger, but something a bit more serious.
 

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Very happy to hear that she is opening up so quickly...

FYI: Cages, especially if it came with her can be filled with memories both good and bad, plus other emotions and ownership, like it being her private place. In any case, she is opening up and will continue over the days and weeks ahead.

Enjoy!
 

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Welcome and be welcomed. What is her name?

Amazons love to be in the 'thick' of family life. so she is in a good spot now. The only thing you must watch for is that she gets enough quiet sleep time being in such a place. Parrots need 10-12 hours of quiet dark sleep time, its very important for their health and good nature too. At home here, Salty hits the sack at 10PM and is uncovered at 10AM. Sack time means no TV, loud noises or people skuffling about, especially if she cannot see what is making the noise. If this is not possible, consider a separate sleep cage in a quiet bedroom.

Saliboat is one of our leading Amazon gurus here onParrot Forums,and his advice is so well worth regarding and we are lucky to have his input onall things Amazon!!

Good luck with your newest family member.
 
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Welcome and be welcomed. What is her name?

Amazons love to be in the 'thick' of family life. so she is in a good spot now. The only thing you must watch for is that she gets enough quiet sleep time being in such a place. Parrots need 10-12 hours of quiet dark sleep time, its very important for their health and good nature too. At home here, Salty hits the sack at 10PM and is uncovered at 10AM. Sack time means no TV, loud noises or people skuffling about, especially if she cannot see what is making the noise. If this is not possible, consider a separate sleep cage in a quiet bedroom.

Saliboat is one of our leading Amazon gurus here onParrot Forums,and his advice is so well worth regarding and we are lucky to have his input onall things Amazon!!

Good luck with your newest family member.
Thank you! She didn't get good sleep last night, but usually kids are in bed by 9 and the house gets quite as soon as they stop yelling at me from the bedroom lol! The fire place comes on so the lighting varies. She doesnt have a sack yet, shes not use to having one. She puts herself to bed and at our house is the first time shes ever experienced a closed cage other than when shes in trouble. I just cant let the cats have at herz I dont think they would, but I dont trust them at all. I will be moving my whole house around for her so she has warmth, dark, and quiet very soon. I just have to figure out how
 

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