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Old 01-09-2017, 05:16 PM
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Re: African grey does not like us :(

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The way to every parrots heart is thru the belly ( just like us guys, right?).
Find her special favorite treat - its usually some kind of nut or seed. And that becomes your way in. She only gets it from you, and only as a positive re-enforcement. SO when she lets you pick her up - treat. , she lets you scratch her head - treat. Once she has associated you with good things, she will be more agreeable to train to do things like step up on command. That takes awhile for any parrot to do it 100% of the time, if ever. Be consistant, use the same words when you want her to step up, I say to Salty 'Up Up' . He does it maybe 80% of the time, some times he just dont want to! Like other folks have said, go at your parrots pace, not yours. You may take 2 steps forward, 1-1/2 steps back . ANd if there is a set back, try to figure it out from her side because its never the fault of the parrot. You invited her in, she did not choose to be there.

Greys are notorious for being sensitive to surroundings and mood. Even what you have on - I've read about some greys that will hate a certain color or different glasses or who knows what. Your the big brain there, you have to figure it out. This board and the sub forums are INDESPENSIBLE in helping there. Use the search button. Ask questions, like you have been. SHe sounds like a nice bird, waiting to assure herself that everything is safe. WHat's her name by the way??
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Old 01-09-2017, 06:05 PM
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Re: African grey does not like us :(

the oven mitts is why you have a hand problem I would think. they don't like gloves if they did then we would all use em instead of a towel when needed.don't be in a hurry you have to let her go at her own pace and that is in babysteps. I'm only a year into this game myself and it can be discourging at times but don't let it. every babystep you make will make your bonding with her much stronger and it will also give you a great feeling of satisfaction that you took it a little further.these forums are the key to the info you seek just keep asking and searching out what you need.
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Re: African grey does not like us :(

Can you whistle a little? Mine picked it up and it's a good charmer. Mine did Andy Griffith theme song, horse racing bugle call, ambulance siren. Silly talk like a cartoon character. I read never to stare at a parrot/bird. Like you could just be with her sitting and wait for her and sounds like she'll have no problem with it....time is on your side!
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Re: African grey does not like us :(

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Can you whistle a little? Mine picked it up and it's a good charmer. Mine did Andy Griffith theme song, horse racing bugle call, ambulance siren. Silly talk like a cartoon character. I read never to stare at a parrot/bird. Like you could just be with her sitting and wait for her and sounds like she'll have no problem with it....time is on your side!
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Re: African grey does not like us :(

I adopted my Grey Jasper from a rescue. I followed Al's advice and just bribed him and kept bribing him. I didn't ask anything from him. I just talked him and gave him treats. A lot of treats, every 20 minutes or so. If she's afraid and won't take them from your hand, then drop them in a dish through the bars. I just kept giving him treats asking nothing in return. Then one day, much sooner than I thought, he figured out I wasn't so bad. He stopped being totally afraid. I kept up the treats. Little by little, I gained his friendship. I'm still working on trying to figure him out but it hasn't been that long. He actually let me pet him today for the first time. Usually, he'll bend his head down and I'll go in to pet him. He'll nibble my fingers. Not hard but still I didn't get what I thought I was going to get. Today, he bent his head down and started chewing on my shirt and I went in to pet him. He didn't try to nibble my fingers. I'd say that's progress.

At first, he would fly off, and step up to let me return him to his cage. I thought progress! But someone told me that he was just wanting a ride back to his safe place and would tolerate me long enough to get back.

Good luck, have patience. It's worth it!
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Re: African grey does not like us :(

Sounds exactly like my bird for example if I put her next to me on the couch she would climb all over me but I know it's just so I can take her back to the cage, I hear of people having trouble getting their bird back to the cage but it's the opposite for me! To top it off I got her as a recently weaned baby so realistically it should of been easier to bond, last time I ever will buy anything from a pet store.
I've pretty much been with with her 24/7 for 3months now and don't know when if ever she will warm up..
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I'm going to disagree. Maybe not a stick per se, but I used his perch from his small cage for my grey to get him out of his cage if he showed signs of wanting to bite, like for cleaning the cage or to move him for vacuuming floor. OR you can just leave him and wait for a better time. If you're willing to get bitten you can keep persisting with pauses in between, calmness and continuing to talk gently. I did train two Amazons who were very, very resistant to get on my hand this way. But with pauses and breaks in between.
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I wish I had joined this forum way sooner, especially for nutrition, but everything else. I would tell any new bird owner, saddle up and ride over to parrotforums.com and at a gallop!!!
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Re: African grey does not like us :(

@ ADZ - parrots vary so much by individual. Some are easy going and will accept change, new things/people/food readily. And some are on the other side of the coin, and can be as stubborn as an old tree root. It's not unusual on here to read about a parrot taking months and months to accomplish something ( stepping up, eating new food, not biting, accepting scratches, you name it ), a few a year. And a very very few just never make it to that other side of the coin. Patience, patience and more patience with your Bella will pay off eventually. Just bribe the living daylights out of her, BE CONSISTENT in what and how you ask for things, and proceed at Bella's chozen pace. I am sure one day she will surprize you.
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I eat all the chop I can
If Daddy don't finish
I'll eat all his spinach
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Re: African grey does not like us :(

I am more stubborn than her so don't worry I'm not giving up I just get fustrated some day's.
Today she has done something new which was preening my nails and arm hair a little, I don't exactly know if that's a step forward or back coz she could just be trying to hurt me lol and she tolerated (not enjoy) me handling her abit more than usual!
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