No more Good Mornings

Giggleagain

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I adopted Sweet Pea / Mr. Peabody (yes he had two names) 3 years and 30 days ago when he was on the way to being euthanized. I managed to bring him back from the brink of death once. Twice. Three times, or was it four?

He was a bird anyone could have loved. He talked. He laughed. He loved company. He never bit. He expressed his displeasure by only gentle nipping and verbal protest, and he was not displeased often.

BUT:
He was a self-mutilator. In these 3 years we did everything that could be done for him, many times over. Today, I failed.

Today, he won.


Heartbroken and hurting for him.

Sweet Pea's Mom
 

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Sorry to read about Swe'pea, you sure did all you could. I made a donation in his name to Cornell vet college, to be used exclusively for parrot related studies and programs. Poor boy, I hope in his next trip he is happier.
 

Soyajam

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I'm sorry for your loss - I think you did everything you could, so please don't consider it a failure.
Consider it a roaring success - you gave Sweet Pea (body) a loving home for 3 years when he might not have had it at all.

My thoughts are with you.
 

SailBoat

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Thank-you for providing Sweet Pea a wonderful extended life! Each day was an additional moment in which he knew he was Loved Deeply!

It is difficult to understand the thinking of a self-mutilator. Over the years, I have come to understand it is not an effort to cause their passing, but a torment, which is out of their control. For if they knew, that the end result was to loose being with those who love him. He would not chose that path. Sadly, they just have no understanding of the results.

Live in the joy of knowing that he felt the deep Love and now waits happily for you!

Deep Warm Feather Hugs and Prays!
 

Jen5200

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So sorry for your loss. It sounds like you gave him a wonderful life while he was with you and I’m sure he knew how much you loved him.
 

MooshieBird

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I am sorry for your loss. I will say that it seems to me that you rescued him and gave him years of love and care and that is in no way a failure. Thank you for what you did for him and what you continue to do for all your rescues.
 

LauraC

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So sorry for your loss. The pain is deep when we lose our feathered friends as they become more than that...they are members of the family.

RIP Sweer Pea.
 

Scott

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RIP Gandalf and Big Bird, you are missed.
My deepest condolences for your loss of Sweet Pea. Your compassion greatly extended his life, and he gave so much love in return.
 
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Thank-you for providing Sweet Pea a wonderful extended life! Each day was an additional moment in which he knew he was Loved Deeply!

It is difficult to understand the thinking of a self-mutilator. Over the years, I have come to understand it is not an effort to cause their passing, but a torment, which is out of their control. For if they knew, that the end result was to loose being with those who love him. He would not chose that path. Sadly, they just have no understanding of the results.

Live in the joy of knowing that he felt the deep Love and now waits happily for you!

Deep Warm Feather Hugs and Prays!

Thank you so much for your words. I couldn't agree with you more! I always felt as if I was prolonging his suffering instead of offering him release. He had many good weeks, were he lived without a collar, then slashed himself again - so badly that he almost bled out. It took weeks to bring him back to normal. My vet was wonderful throughout, I can't begin to thank him. I haven't told him yet, I don't know how :( I am just so convinced that we shouldn't breed these wild birds and expect them to be happy with us. Specially not those that live in colonies, like Quakers do. Sweet Pea always felt best when we had a party. The more, the merrier he became.... I hope he found a huge Quaker colony where he is now. I hope to go to Quaker heaven one day :)
 
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Thank you all for your condolences and your kind words. You touch my heart and I knew I could find a bit of comfort with my parront friends. Everybody else I know can't understand that I am mourning an "insignificant bird". I love you all!
 

Jferrand526

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I’m so sorry about Sweet Pea. You gave him a better life than he would’ve ever had. You did everything for him and you loved him dearly, that is not a failure, that is a success. I’m so sorry for your loss and I know Sweet Pea knew how much you loved him too
 

Jottlebot

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I'm so sorry to hear about your lovely boy. What a heartbreaking thing to deal with. You're so brave to have managed such a tragic behaviour for so long. I'm so sorry for your loss x
 

Kentuckienne

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Thank-you for providing Sweet Pea a wonderful extended life! Each day was an additional moment in which he knew he was Loved Deeply!

It is difficult to understand the thinking of a self-mutilator. Over the years, I have come to understand it is not an effort to cause their passing, but a torment, which is out of their control. For if they knew, that the end result was to loose being with those who love him. He would not chose that path. Sadly, they just have no understanding of the results.

Live in the joy of knowing that he felt the deep Love and now waits happily for you!

Deep Warm Feather Hugs and Prays!

Thank you so much for your words. I couldn't agree with you more! I always felt as if I was prolonging his suffering instead of offering him release. He had many good weeks, were he lived without a collar, then slashed himself again - so badly that he almost bled out. It took weeks to bring him back to normal. My vet was wonderful throughout, I can't begin to thank him. I haven't told him yet, I don't know how :( I am just so convinced that we shouldn't breed these wild birds and expect them to be happy with us. Specially not those that live in colonies, like Quakers do. Sweet Pea always felt best when we had a party. The more, the merrier he became.... I hope he found a huge Quaker colony where he is now. I hope to go to Quaker heaven one day :)
You hit the nail on the head. We can't cure them of these behaviors because the only cure is having a flock, and we can't give them that. I understand that plucking and mutilation are never seen in the wild, so they sure look like a side effect of captivity. I'm so sorry you lost him after all this time and love.
 

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