I Lost My Venus

Taw5106

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I haven't been on in a while. Life and work took over, but on Friday 3/2/18, I lost my beautiful female Ekkie Venus. She had been sick since I got her, we knew this. She was a regular at her vet, and as much as we treated and worked on her, my Husband and I lost her. I was working and found her dead, rigor had started setting in so any effort I started was lost, that hurt my Husband and I more.

That's her vet history, she was my morning coffee buddy. No she was not allowed to drink coffee, but while I drank mine, she had a cup of fresh food and a spoon to eat and play with. She loved her spoons.

She was a devoted egg layer, we tried to curb that, no success there. She wanted to be a Mommie. If you look at past posts you will see this battle.

It took me some time to share this, I miss her so much, my Husband misses her so much too, he broke down. We both have been crying, it's been so hard. We laid her to rest Friday night (3/2/18) around 10:00 PM CST. Husband dug a grave, I took forever to place her in the grave. I didn't want to let her go.

I miss my baby and friend so much. For those with fids and losing them SUPER HUGS!!!!
 

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I am so very sorry. My eyes are wet. I am so sorry. Please share with us as much as you like, as often as you like. I'm very happy you decided to tell us. I know the community here will truly feel your pain.
You took wonderful care of that bird, and she passed loved and safe and treasured.
Thank you, again, for sharing.

P.S. I felt like I knew that bird. I always loved seeing how much you treasured her.
 

Violet_Diva

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I'm so so sorry for your loss of Venus. I often read about her and admired her cheeky spoon loving character. Just reading your post was heart-wrenching, my eyes filled up and my throat began stinging almost instantly. I can't imagine how hard it was for you both losing her. Thank-you for sharing Venus with us all. Sending you ekkie love from me and my flock xxxXxxx
 

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I am so sorry. I was wondering about you the other day. Not that I'm on here as much as I used to be but I still remember you and your fids.
It is so hard when they die.
Go ahead and cry. Eventually you will feel better.
I lost Rudy last June 2017 and I didn't tell very many people. It hurt too much. This past January I was able to get another female ekkie. I didn't think that I ever could but eventually one comes along and steals your heart.
 

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Oh wow Tracey. I was really hoping for an update, last we heard you were battening. Down for a hurricane. This was not the update I was hoping for. My heart is breaking here, Venus was an ekkie I looked up to. I’m so very sorry :(
 

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I am heartbroken to hear of your loss. May this Parrot Pray be of help dear friend.

“All of us feel such deep sadness when our Parrot friends die, and because they are Animals and not Humans, we are at a loss for words. Often, it is only other Parrot owners who can understand the depth of the loss that we feel with this complex, loyal, and loving creature. Resulting from such a loss, I have placed feelings and emotions into words and found verse to console the loss of my Cleo and since her, other sweet Amazons, in turn; I hope it will speak for both of you.” - Steven


You left this world so quickly. I can hardly comprehend your leaving. Yet there, in my hands, your still body rested — no longer your home. So much I have learned, so much you have taught, your purpose a full measure beyond your size. Comprehensions of your loss still a mist but yet, I know you are whole and happy - now beyond Rainbow Bridge. And so busy you must be upon your blue /red wings, guiding angles to those of us yet to cross. With in my ear, I still hear you, those special sweet sounds of comfort and contentment:


“Do not stand by my grave and weep my sweet friend.
I am not here. I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am the diamond glint on snow.
I am the gentle summer rain.
When you wake in the morning hush, I am the swift uplifting rush of quiet birds in circling flight.
I am the soft starlight at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry my sweet friend.
I am not there. I did not die.”

My pray for you my beloved Yenus:

“May your body nourish this earth.
May your soul find release and contentment.
May you fly high and free upon wings of spirit.
Rest in peace my little sweetheart.”


The love and tender warmth of you is a un-full-fill-able void.
I do so much thank-you for creating a space for another, a special place next to yours’.


Based on a Segment located in Parrot Forums, Amazon Forum, I Love Amazons - ... Thread.
In remembrance of Cleo, (Estimated) Spring 1959 - May 2003

Steven (SailBoat)
 

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I am so sorry to hear this! I know how much Venus was loved, and what amazing care you took of her. I am so very sorry for your loss.
 

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RIP Gandalf and Big Bird, you are missed.
My deepest condolences for your loss of Venus. You were the very best and most dedicated parront she could have desired. May her beautiful memories comfort you and your husband.
 

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Oh my that is sad news. I know you love you fids so much. If you dont mind ,, I would be pleased to make a donation in Venus name to the Cornell Univ Vet College, the be used exclusively for parrot related studies and programs, I would be my please to memorialize Venus like that. Remember all the nice breakfasts wwith her, and Venus willl not fade
 
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Thank you all for the love. My Husband and I are missing her so much and your responses moved us to tears again tonight. I personally miss my morning coffee buddy, the last few days feel lonely. Buddy our 27 yo Amazon and Buzz our 3 yo African Grey don’t do mornings out of their food bowls, but they offer comfort in a different way. Thank you for the love.


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so sorry to hear about Venus' passing

If it offers any solace you know now she no longer has to fight her illness and she can truly rest now and get caught up on some much needed birding wherever her spirit has gone to
 

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I'm so sorry, my heart is breaking for you. You gave her the best life possible, and we will all miss her.
 

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As hard as it is to bury our loved ones, it is a real benefit for closure.

I've been in your position, many times over the years, and it never gets easier.

I have a little graveyard on my property, and each grave has a small marker that I made. Some are stone, some are brass, some are wood, but all should last as long as I am likely to. When I dig a grave and lay one of my little ones to rest, it affects me deeply. I remember the exact details of each and every time, and I still grieve over every one. Even the first grave I dug for my first dog, some 35 years ago, and the deep sorrow I felt laying him to rest, wrapped in my son's baby blanket, is burned into my memory. Still, the act of lovingly laying them to rest is one of ultimate love and respect, something I MUST do.

But, it gives me a little bit of comfort to visit my lost friends & tend their little graves. I don't really know why - no one really knows if we will ever really meet with our lost ones again in another life, but if we do, I want them to know they were always important, always loved, and never forgotten.

Fly joyous and free forever, little Venus, and know you were loved beyond measure. That is really all any of us can hope for in life.
 
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Oh, Trace! I'm just now seeing this!

I am so sorry for your loss. I am still in shock, here. You and I have spoken quite a bit about your fids, and Venus in particular, so I feel like I know her. Sweet Venus. Know that your loss is a loss for every one of us. She was such a treasured part of this community. This family.

I know there are no words that will ease your pain right now, There is naught for that but the passage of time. But what I found helpful for me when I lost Bixby, and Suzie before him, was to focus more on the joy they brought to my life than the sadness they brought with their passing. Because in the balance of things, the gift of joy they have given us far outweighs the price paid in grief.

And remember also that you made her happy in her all-too-brief life. You were as much of a gift to her as she was to you. Never lose sight of how she lived. Those times she traveled out and about with you. The morning coffee one-on-one moments. Her rather special and enduring love for your ear. Those are the memories that you want to keep with you and cherish forever. It's a part of her that will never leave you.

Sending you lots of hugs that I only wish I could deliver in person.
 

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My sincerest condolences. She has joined the rainbow of birds at the Rainbow Bridge, and is healthy there at least, and will be flying to greet you when you arrive, some distant day.
 

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