Parrot Forum Header Left  
Go Back   Parrot Forum - Parrot Owner's Community > Community > Bereavement

Bereavement Bereave for our lost pets

Reply
 
LinkBack Thread Tools Display Modes
  #1 (permalink)  
Old 02-05-2020, 09:59 AM
Aspie_Aviphile's Avatar
Senior Member
Parrots:
Bo, Indian Ringneck; RIP Biddy, budgie, departed 2nd Sept 2018 <3
Join Date: Jul 2018
Location: England
Thanks: 388
Thanked 232 Times in 97 Posts
Aspie_Aviphile is on a distinguished road
Desperately need to talk to someone

Please could anyone who understands the depth of love we have for parrots please talk to me about the tragedy I just experienced, and which was a mixture of freak accident and horrible judgment by me. I don't know how I'm going to move on from this and want to make sense of what he probably was thinking afterwards and if he knew I was there and loved him when he passed. If anyone has good understanding of parrot psychology and reasoning. Please could someone talk to me via Skype or by regular phone (I'm in England but would do the calling if it can't be Skype for some reason).

Sorry I cant bring myself to type out what happened. Especially if anyone has specific experience with IRN psychology that would be even better. Thank you very much in advance.
Reply With Quote
The Following 6 Users Say Thank You to Aspie_Aviphile For This Useful Post:
Billdore (02-06-2020), Flboy (02-05-2020), LaManuka  (02-05-2020), Laurasea Supporting Member (02-05-2020), SailBoat Supporting Member (02-05-2020), Scott  (02-06-2020)
  #2 (permalink)  
Old 02-05-2020, 01:47 PM
Laurasea's Avatar
Supporting Member
Parrots:
Neptune blue quaker (MIA), Ta-dah GCC female, Penny quaker female, Pikachu quaker unknown, Orbit quaker unknown, 3 parakeets males, Burt The Burd GCC RIP
Join Date: Aug 2018
Location: USA
Thanks: 23,687
Thanked 21,083 Times in 6,870 Posts
Laurasea is on a distinguished road
Re: Desperately need to talk to someone

Chamomile tea contains ingredients proven to soothe nerves.

Doing yoga can reslse emotions trapped in your body.

Meditate it's a powerful thing.

Excerise, moving the body helps move the mind.

Engage in an activity that requires focus, perhaps art, poetry, music, or dance, cross stiching, puzzles.

Find a way to give back. Volunteer, help a freind, read for the blind, visit a home for the elderly, walk dogs at shelter, pick up Garbage at a park, lake, beach , or in your neighborhood..do some for wildlife, plant flowers for pollinator, plant a berry bush for birds, put up a nest box.

When you find yourself in circular negative thought, make an effort to stop yourself.

If you practice religion, vist and ask for prayers and a blessing.

Find small projects around the home and tackle them one at a time.

Get up early and go somewhere pretty to watch the sunrise. Take time to watch the sunsets. I find sunrise so moving.

Bake some cookies, or brownies, take them to your job to shared, or to a nursing home, or to a friend.

Acknowledge that you made mistakes, I too have made mistakes. I post here as a way of atoning. Find a way to atone. Giving back in anyway can make you feel balanced. Rember you are more good than bad.

You are not alone, we care, there are many people in your life who care.

Much love to you my friend.
__________________
"When you want to help people, you tell them the truth. When you want to help yourself, you tell them what they want to hear. "Thomas Sowell

Last edited by Laurasea; 02-05-2020 at 02:01 PM.
Reply With Quote
The Following 9 Users Say Thank You to Laurasea For This Useful Post:
1oldparroter (02-05-2020), Aspie_Aviphile (02-06-2020), Billdore (02-06-2020), Flboy (02-05-2020), Jen5200 Supporting Member (02-05-2020), LaManuka  (02-05-2020), SailBoat Supporting Member (02-05-2020), Scott  (02-06-2020), texsize Supporting Member (02-05-2020)
  #3 (permalink)  
Old 02-05-2020, 02:10 PM
SailBoat's Avatar
Supporting Member
Parrots:
DYH Amazon
Join Date: Jul 2015
Location: Western, Michigan
Thanks: 52,701
Thanked 31,795 Times in 10,727 Posts
SailBoat will become famous soon enough
Re: Desperately need to talk to someone

If you find the following helpful, I will be happy to Skype with you.

FYI: I believe that it is always, appropriate to develop a comfort regarding a first communication and to that end, I would recommend that you contact one of the Moderators first to determine /confirm that I'm real and trustworthy.

We have long been a home that older Amazons came to be loved and recover from serious ill, abuse, and abandonment. The reality of Loving this special group of Amazons is that they tend to pass far too early, our goal is that they know abiding Love and in turn created wonderful forever homes in our hearts.

I offer you this Segment (Pray): “Passing of a Feathered Friend,”


As this Thread may likely exist far beyond my involvement in All Things Amazon. I believe that like the leading Segment of this Thread, a lasting testimony (Pray) to the Amazons that have shared our home, expanded our Love, and Understanding of Amazons should be part of this work.

It is not an issue of not wanting to visit and more importantly providing words of support as part of the Bereavement Forum, but my own difficultly in fully facing our many losses over the years. It is a reality of what we have committed ourselves too and each loss returns us to that clarity. When one opens their home to the very sick and very poorly cared for, losses are part of the commitment. I ask not forgiveness, but understanding of not often enough in sharing your grief. For those of you who loss a Loving Feather Family Member, I offer you this Pray “Passing of a Feathered Friend,” that we provide our Loved Ones!

This Segment is Rated: To be Read in the company of close Friends and Family.


May Pease find and stand with you as part of your loss my friends…




Passing of a Feathered Friend
Provided By: Steven (SailBoat), November 2016


“All of us feel such deep sadness when our Parrot friends die, and because they are Animals and not Humans, we are at a loss for words. Often, it is only other Parrot owners who can understand the depth of the loss that we feel with this complex, loyal, and loving creature. Resulting from such a loss, I have placed feelings and emotions into words and found verse to console the loss of my Cleo and since her, other sweet Amazons, in turn; I hope it will speak for all of you.” - Steven


You left this world so quickly. I can hardly comprehend your leaving. Yet there, in my hands, your still body rested — no longer your home. So much I have learned, so much you have taught, your purpose a full measure beyond your size. Comprehensions of your loss still a mist but yet, I know you are whole and happy - now beyond Rainbow Bridge. And so busy you must be upon your green wings, guiding angles to those of us yet to cross. With in my ear, I still hear you, those special sweet sounds of comfort and contentment:


“Do not stand by my grave and weep my friend.
I am not here. I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am the diamond glint on snow.
I am the gentle summer rain.
When you wake in the morning hush, I am the swift uplifting rush of quiet birds in circling flight.
I am the soft starlight at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry my friend.
I am not there. I did not die.”

My pray for you my beloved feathered friend:

“May your body nourish this earth.
May your soul find release and contentment.
May you fly high and free upon wings of spirit.
Rest in peace little green one.”

The love and tender warmth of you is a un-full-fill-able void.
I do so much thank-you for creating a space for another, a special place next to yours’.

In remembrance of Cleo, (Estimated) Spring 1959 - May 2003

Amazon’s Have More Love!

Sources: Cheyenne Warrior Blessing, The Amazona Society’s Forum, Steven (SailBoat)
__________________


In each Morning's early light; there is a promise, an Amazon makes!
Reply With Quote
The Following 11 Users Say Thank You to SailBoat For This Useful Post:
1oldparroter (02-05-2020), Aspie_Aviphile (02-06-2020), Billdore (02-06-2020), Flboy (02-05-2020), fuad (02-16-2020), Jen5200 Supporting Member (02-05-2020), LaManuka  (02-05-2020), Laurasea Supporting Member (02-05-2020), Scott  (02-06-2020), texsize Supporting Member (02-05-2020), wrench13 Supporting Member (02-05-2020)
  #4 (permalink)  
Old 02-05-2020, 03:37 PM
wrench13's Avatar
Supporting Member
Parrots:
Yellow Shoulder Amazon, Salty
Join Date: Nov 2015
Location: Isle of Long, NY
Thanks: 1,569
Thanked 15,396 Times in 5,576 Posts
wrench13 will become famous soon enough
Re: Desperately need to talk to someone

We all know how you feel and share in your sorrow and pain.
__________________
See ALL Salty's Parrot trick videos on our CaptNiceGuy Channel:
https://m.youtube.com/user/captniceg...8ZwKHVY_AsI%3D
AL & Salty - hard at work.

Follow Salty's 127 page lifestory thread:
http://www.parrotforums.com/amazons/...now-salty.html

The Crew:
Salty - Yellow Shoulder Amazon (YSA) - hatched 8/15/15
Tinker - Cairn terrier, 4/15/08
Geri - Blonde haired Queens wife, birthday 4/25/19??
Reply With Quote
The Following 8 Users Say Thank You to wrench13 For This Useful Post:
1oldparroter (02-05-2020), Aspie_Aviphile (02-06-2020), Billdore (02-06-2020), Flboy (02-05-2020), Jen5200 Supporting Member (02-05-2020), LaManuka  (02-05-2020), SailBoat Supporting Member (02-05-2020), Scott  (02-06-2020)
  #5 (permalink)  
Old 02-05-2020, 04:02 PM
Jen5200's Avatar
Supporting Member
Parrots:
Baby - Sun Conure; Tango - GCC; Bindi - Sun Conure; Stanley - Pineapple GCC; Screamer “Scree” - Cockatiel; Tee - Pineapple GCC
Join Date: Mar 2017
Location: Washington State
Thanks: 4,056
Thanked 4,481 Times in 1,540 Posts
Jen5200 is on a distinguished road
Re: Desperately need to talk to someone

I’m so sorry for your loss - hugs to you.
__________________
Jen
Baby (Sun conure adopted in 2016, hatched approx 2011, female)
Tango (GCC adopted in 2016, hatched approx 2014, female)
Bindi (Sun conure adopted Jan 2018, hatched approx 2011, female)
Screamer (Cockatiel adopted April 2018, hatched approx 2012, female)
Stanley (Pineapple GCC adopted Aug 2018, hatched approx 2014, male)
Tee (Pineapple GCC adopted Jul 2019, hatched approx 2015, female)
Jimmy (Cockatiel adopted Jan 2021, age 21?, male)
Reply With Quote
The Following 8 Users Say Thank You to Jen5200 For This Useful Post:
1oldparroter (02-05-2020), Aspie_Aviphile (02-06-2020), Billdore (02-06-2020), Flboy (02-05-2020), LaManuka  (02-05-2020), Laurasea Supporting Member (02-05-2020), SailBoat Supporting Member (02-05-2020), Scott  (02-06-2020)
  #6 (permalink)  
Old 02-05-2020, 04:47 PM
itzjbean's Avatar
Supporting Member
Parrots:
4 cockatiels
Join Date: Jan 2017
Location: Iowa, USA
Thanks: 3,098
Thanked 4,319 Times in 1,849 Posts
itzjbean is on a distinguished road
Re: Desperately need to talk to someone

I'm so sorry for your loss.

If it makes you feel any better, we have heard it all here so don't feel like you will be judged or ridiculed. Accident happen, and all we can do it learn from it so it won't happen again. And I really do mean we've heard it all -- freak accidents by ceiling fan, windows, wax, oil, ovens, other pets fatally injuring birds including other birds, rats, snakes, dogs and cats. We really do understand. This is a judgement free zone and most of us have experienced loss in the same way. I lost one of my hens last year and found her dead sitting on her eggs. Just broke my heart but sadly it just happens sometimes.

We support you!
__________________
- Jackie, Boo Rue , Ash & Ember

See more of my flock on Instagram!

Last edited by itzjbean; 02-05-2020 at 04:50 PM.
Reply With Quote
The Following 8 Users Say Thank You to itzjbean For This Useful Post:
1oldparroter (02-05-2020), Aspie_Aviphile (02-06-2020), Billdore (02-06-2020), Flboy (02-05-2020), LaManuka  (02-05-2020), Laurasea Supporting Member (02-05-2020), SailBoat Supporting Member (02-05-2020), Scott  (02-06-2020)
  #7 (permalink)  
Old 02-05-2020, 05:05 PM
LaManuka's Avatar
Super Moderator
Parrots:
Fang (9yo (ab)normal grey cockatiel), HRH Crown Princess Lilly Pilly (purple-crowned lorikeet gotcha date 28 Oct 2018) & Valentino (budgie, gotcha date 14 Feb 2019 at approx 6mo)
Join Date: Aug 2018
Location: Brisbane, Australia
Thanks: 18,933
Thanked 25,411 Times in 6,440 Posts
LaManuka is on a distinguished road
Re: Desperately need to talk to someone

I’m so very sorry to hear about your loss through what must have been a terrible accident. I know how important your birds are to you and to lose one in these circumstances is devastating. In many ways they are so resilient yet so fragile and as much as we try to be careful in every conceivable way sometimes the unthinkable happens. It is now 534 days since I lost my heart-bird Baci and although I can give the outward impression that I’m functioning i still cannot speak or write about him without dissolving into a crying mess.

All I can say to you is that you can get through this. You must try to be kind to yourself even though you may feel you are to blame, but we know you and certainly will not blame you. For many of us our birds are better than family because they love us unconditionally and do not judge, so it’s just that much harder when we lose them. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other and never be afraid to reach out for help, your forum family will always be here for you. I’m sending the warmest of feathered hugs to you.
__________________


"Words speak us more than we speak them.” Hercule Poirot (He may be fictional, but he’s my favourite “Belgian upstart”!)
Reply With Quote
The Following 8 Users Say Thank You to LaManuka For This Useful Post:
1oldparroter (02-05-2020), Aspie_Aviphile (02-06-2020), Billdore (02-06-2020), Flboy (02-05-2020), Laurasea Supporting Member (02-05-2020), SailBoat Supporting Member (02-05-2020), Scott  (02-06-2020), texsize Supporting Member (02-05-2020)
  #8 (permalink)  
Old 02-05-2020, 08:01 PM
Flboy's Avatar
Senior Member
Parrots:
JoJo, 'Special' GCC, Bongo, Cinnamon GCC(wife's)
Join Date: Dec 2014
Location: Greater Orlando area, Florida
Thanks: 16,447
Thanked 13,792 Times in 6,157 Posts
Flboy is on a distinguished road
Re: Desperately need to talk to someone

I am so sorry for your nightmare! The pain does lessen over time!
__________________
..David..
Reply With Quote
The Following 6 Users Say Thank You to Flboy For This Useful Post:
1oldparroter (02-05-2020), Aspie_Aviphile (02-06-2020), Billdore (02-06-2020), Laurasea Supporting Member (02-05-2020), SailBoat Supporting Member (02-05-2020), Scott  (02-06-2020)
  #9 (permalink)  
Old 02-06-2020, 01:27 AM
Scott's Avatar
Super Moderator
Parrots:
Goffins: Gabby, Abby, Squeaky, Peanut, Popcorn / Citron: Alice / Eclectus: Angel /Timneh Grey: ET / Blue Fronted Amazon: Gonzo / RIP Gandalf and Big Bird, you are missed.
Join Date: Aug 2010
Location: San Diego, California USA, Earth, Milky Way Galaxy
Thanks: 113,827
Thanked 58,360 Times in 19,377 Posts
Scott will become famous soon enough
Re: Desperately need to talk to someone

My deepest condolences for a tragic loss. You need not specify the details, know you are in company of many with similar experience. Please do not confine your feelings, express them to trusted listeners. Grieving has no timeline or specific end. When the bright memories of your alexandrine overshadow despair, great progress will have been accomplished. We never forget.....
__________________
Reply With Quote
The Following 5 Users Say Thank You to Scott For This Useful Post:
1oldparroter (02-08-2020), Aspie_Aviphile (02-06-2020), LaManuka  (02-06-2020), Laurasea Supporting Member (02-06-2020), SailBoat Supporting Member (02-06-2020)
  #10 (permalink)  
Old 02-08-2020, 03:50 PM
Laurasea's Avatar
Supporting Member
Parrots:
Neptune blue quaker (MIA), Ta-dah GCC female, Penny quaker female, Pikachu quaker unknown, Orbit quaker unknown, 3 parakeets males, Burt The Burd GCC RIP
Join Date: Aug 2018
Location: USA
Thanks: 23,687
Thanked 21,083 Times in 6,870 Posts
Laurasea is on a distinguished road
Re: Desperately need to talk to someone

Aspi Aviphile,
How are you do today? We haven't heard back from you.

You are in my thoughts and prayers.
My phone is still broke, and I don't have internet, or I'd offer to chat.
__________________
"When you want to help people, you tell them the truth. When you want to help yourself, you tell them what they want to hear. "Thomas Sowell
Reply With Quote
The Following 5 Users Say Thank You to Laurasea For This Useful Post:
1oldparroter (02-08-2020), Aspie_Aviphile (02-08-2020), LaManuka  (02-08-2020), noodles123 (02-08-2020), Scott  (02-09-2020)
Reply

Lower Navigation
Go Back   Parrot Forum - Parrot Owner's Community > Community > Bereavement

Thread Tools
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are On


Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
Desperately Need Help!!! Budgie sick? WorriedMama Budgies/Parakeets 9 11-16-2019 12:58 PM
Desperately need help with sexually charged Toos Symonne Cockatoos 9 02-11-2018 12:36 AM
HELP desperately needed with a screamer FlyingKite Behavioral 10 10-06-2016 10:38 PM
Desperately needing advice!!! Chelle General Parrot Information 6 04-26-2014 11:28 AM
Need advice desperately :) Ilovemygrey Congo & Timneh Greys 3 06-09-2013 09:42 AM



Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.7
Copyright ©2000 - 2021, vBulletin Solutions, Inc.