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Old 04-08-2020, 07:33 AM
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Old member but can't find my account. Anyways in 2009 I took in a rehome aggressive Caique. We worked together and he bonded and we were great....for 9 years... Then we took in another rehome. Only for about a month but during that time my Skittles just lost it. One day i was taking him off a lamp (cause he decided he wanted to be there). I carried him from the lamp back to his counter top perch so my daughter could play with him. 2 inches from the perch he latched on. Hard. Had to put him upside down on his back on the ground to let go.

Bleeding I washed my hand and picked him up again, this time to his cage to show him that was not okay as I've done in the past when he nipped. Never been ripped up before. Then he went nuts, ripping my skin. Again I had to upside down remove him and shake to get him to stop.

From that day I his owner, his mom, heck the one he'd try to make babies on my leg, I was his enemy. And now my step daughter is his person. I could live with that but I feed him every morning, and he tries to kill me. I give him his normal treats when good and talk to him and say goodbye when i leave like normal but he just screams back.

When we realized Skittles also hated this new bird that was in the home but he was never in contact with we told the owners it was not working out. I thought my birdie would come back to me...but he didn't. It gets worse and worse every day.

Yesterday my step daughter was cleaning his cage out and he refused to go back in, she got scared. So my husband got him but he started to latch on but stopped. If anyone is holding him and I so much as walk by his wings are up and he attacks.

I ended up pregnant and had the baby a year ago (mind you I've been working on rebuilding my trust with him now for 2 years). He hates the baby as much as he hates me and if he sees him he tries to attack him.

We can't bring Skittles out now unless it's quiet and everyone else is out of the house and I'm no where in site.

This morning I went to do our normal feeding routine and he went through the bowl door to latch on and drew blood. I picked him up with a perch and laid him back in his cage. No Drama, no running attack which is good but the desire to murder me and the baby is getting to the point no one trusts him.

He's always been aggressive and a screamer but now I'm his trigger.

Apart from re-homing I don't know what to do. He's obviously a danger to me that's okay, as long as my daughter can still play with him but even she is starting to get scared. He's about 15 years old now. This all started 2 years ago. The baby is now walking and we don't let him in that room but one day...one day he could escape and i'm terrified he will lose a finger to his bird.

Anyway....I want my buddy back or I want him to have a home that can play with him, i'm worried he may not recover and always be an attack bird.

He's fed a rather expensive mix of foods from Bird Paradise (their house blends since i got him, so for about the 11 years) plus we make toys for him and buy him tons to tear up in the cage. He gets food we have cooking when we make noodles etc. His cage is huge, made for a macaw really, we have window perches, sand java perches etc but all he wants to do is get down from everything and find me to kill me or the baby.

My husband wants to re-home him, he said it was an issue getting an aggressive consignment bird to start with but when i was the one playing with him all was fine, he doesn't like the screaming and he no longer trusts the bird enough to play with him. I don't think he will find a good home as an aggressive bird, but getting stuck in his cage isn't great either if my daughter gets too scared to play with him.

I miss my bird...

I've read everything I can on devil birds and chances of recovery but it's been two years, no help, it's just getting worse.
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Old 04-08-2020, 11:23 AM
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Re: HELP! My buddy hates me!

Welcome to you and Skittles, thanks for a thorough introduction. I don't know the typical caique personality, so my observations are going to be rather generic.

Appears his baseline personality is aggressive, but the second rehome triggered a lasting hostility. Typically parrots will calm down after an explosive episode, seems a "switch" was flipped. If you have access to a certified avian vet, a "well check" including labs will determine whether an underlying physical condition is partially responsible. (many vets in the U.S. are open during the COVID epidemic)

Dietary issues may be a factor. Does he eat fresh veggies and fruits in addition to Bird Paradise blend? Is the mix rich with high-fat seeds such as sunflower and safflower?

You can attempt to "reset" the relationship by focusing on bonding and building trust. Some of the techniques to bond and build trust may prove helpful. A good starting point is to hang out next to his cage, reading and talking to him. Tips for Bonding and Building Trust
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Old 04-08-2020, 11:30 AM
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Re: HELP! My buddy hates me!

Thanks for the feedback. Their blend has no fatty seeds at all, it's a pretty terrific food and i get the added peppers and fruits added. He gets home cooked foods from us but no regular fruit schedule since we don't keep much fruit in the house (fruit flies are the death of me from his "soup" he makes in his water daily). More so pastas and veggies and cooked bird foods I get with his food shipments. Because he won't let me give him much he takes it throws it to the ground I have to have someone else give him his foods so he will actually eat them.

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I moved my work from home area to be in the room adjacent to him for now so he can hear me (maybe 10 feet from his cage but to side wall), if he hears me talk he screams during my conference calls. I'm hoping this works in another week for me to move my desk in his actual view not just listening area. We have also moved our sewing area next to him too but he just gets really mad when i'm there and waits for me to stand and charges the cage.

I'll work on a wellness check for Skittles for testing. He had all the normal stuff done for diseases back when we got him but no blood work since.
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Re: HELP! My buddy hates me!

Seems we can rule out high-fat diet as contributor to aggression!

Another tactic is to clip his wings. Generally a controversial topic, but a proven technique to attempt taming of aggression. He will be immediately aware - or at first attempt to fly. I favor bilateral as opposed to single wing clip. Resorted to clipping with one of my closely bonded Goffins. She was untenable so I took her for a well-check. Vet suggested clipping as attitude adjustment, and it worked well. No need for repeat! In Skittles case, the behavior is far more entrenched, but worth a try.
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Re: HELP! My buddy hates me!

I have a bird issue almost just like yours only mines going on for around 10years give or take. my blue was my friend. then about after six years or so I took in another parrot a female (blue is a male) One fateful day i usually had him give a kiss when i put him on the play stand when i didn't read his body language and he bit down on both lips... terrified i smacked and he landed on the floor screaming... picked him up with a stick and set him back on the stand and game over since then he has wanted to rip me up every time i get to close. the female angel is my bud and him and her have bonded so if I re-home it has to both of them together SO I know your pain
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Re: HELP! My buddy hates me!

Quote: Originally Posted by Scott View Post
Seems we can rule out high-fat diet as contributor to aggression!

Another tactic is to clip his wings. Generally a controversial topic, but a proven technique to attempt taming of aggression. He will be immediately aware - or at first attempt to fly. I favor bilateral as opposed to single wing clip. Resorted to clipping with one of my closely bonded Goffins. She was untenable so I took her for a well-check. Vet suggested clipping as attitude adjustment, and it worked well. No need for repeat! In Skittles case, the behavior is far more entrenched, but worth a try.
He has never actually figured out how to fly , more of a flap and crash sort of thing but it's definitely worth a try. Thanks!
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Quote: Originally Posted by moon1964 View Post
I have a bird issue almost just like yours only mines going on for around 10years give or take. my blue was my friend. then about after six years or so I took in another parrot a female (blue is a male) One fateful day i usually had him give a kiss when i put him on the play stand when i didn't read his body language and he bit down on both lips... terrified i smacked and he landed on the floor screaming... picked him up with a stick and set him back on the stand and game over since then he has wanted to rip me up every time i get to close. the female angel is my bud and him and her have bonded so if I re-home it has to both of them together SO I know your pain
Oh noooo ...i really don't want to see him this angry for that long. Can you even handle your bird anymore or a solid no? Skittles is a male and the bird we tried to take in was a female as well so i think that's what set him off. Just wish i could fix it.
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Attachment 24221UPDATE:

Doing some of the clicker training as I walk up to him at this cage. He's resorted to jumping to attack now but will take treats from me once we complete each click training and I get to the cage door. (training from the recommendation above)

My step daughter has been bringing him out to the window next to my work station and her work area for homeschooling. He plays there and eyes me up. Only once has he dropped down to try and get closer to me. We tried a little clicker training here as well.

Just some progress, bird likes me no more though just yet.

Haven't gotten a new vet yet, had to put down a tumor ridden kitty last week so that's been a bit of the focus for the kids . 3 years and two surgeries and the mast cell tumors completely took over

I've called the groomer to see how they are taking birds during covid for wings and nails so i can get that done this week.
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Re: HELP! My buddy hates me!

I would check out BirdTricks on Youtube or Instagram. They are really helpful and might be able to help you a lot more ( They are really really nice and give awesome advice/training tips)
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Re: HELP! My buddy hates me!

I've read in several places that Caiques can loose it if a second bird is introduced after the first bird has been established in the household, to the point of killing the new one. More than one story on this happening, and my all bird store contacts say the same thing.
At least you are making some progress.

This is another reason why I caution people about getting or taking in a second parrot. It can so backfire.
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