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I'm new to the forum, but I've been lurking on here for months as I've researched and thought over which bird was right for me. Ultimately, because of my housing situation (an apartment) and just generally falling in love with them, I adopted a congo grey named Arya yesterday. She's my first parrot, and I am filled with questions, so I'm sorry if this is really long!
I tried to research as much as I could before I picked her up, but reading things and living things are very different. I like her, and I think she's warming up to me, but we're still having some issues. I know it's only been a day or so, but I want to be doing everything right from day one to prevent more issues later on.
Background on Arya: I got her from someone who has owned birds for 15+ years and is very meticulous about their care. He's an older man who was retired but then was elected mayor and no longer has time for all of his birds. He's keeping the older greys, but he was selling his babies, which is how I ended up with Arya. She was very well taken care of, and she is not yet 1 year old. Her hatch date was November 10, 2012.
Now, for my questions! When I first brought her home, we had some immediate issues. She didn't want to get in her cage, so I didn't push it. I let her explore, but she wouldn't let me near her. If she thought I was invading her bubble, she scurried away pretty quickly, so I tried to not bother her and let her adjust, but as it got later, I needed her to be in her cage for the night because I didn't want her to get hurt while I slept.
I turned the lights out and decided to watch a little TV and see if she calmed down enough for me to put her up for the night, and to my surprise, she glided over to me once it was dark. She immediately crawled up my shirt and made her way to the top of my head. She scratched me a little on the way and was nipping at my neck, but I took it as a sign of affection and tried to put her in her cage while she was on me. That didn't work out. She got upset, she bit me pretty hard, and I had to pick her up with a towel to get her in her cage.
This morning, I opened her cage and left it up to her when to come out. It took her a few hours, but she finally came out and made her way to the top of the cage. She didn't move away when I got near her, she let me give her grapes, but I could tell she was still scared of me. A couple hours ago, she started flapping like crazy on top of her cage at the edge and looking right at me. I took it to mean she wanted down but was afraid because she knows her wings are clipped (her other owners doing, not mine), so I went to offer her my arm. She refused to take it, but she kept insistently flapping every time I walked away, so I decided to use some training techniques I saw. I got a peanut and offered it to her if she would climb up on my arm. Twice she hopped up, got the treat, and immediately hopped off, but on the third time, she stayed. She let me carry her to my couch, she had some grapes, but then, she did the same thing as last night. She climbed up and behind my head and then onto my head and made a big deal out of getting down. When she got off my head, I tried using treats again to get her to step up and return her to a perch, but instead of going for the treats, like last night, she bit me hard.
I know that people say to suck it up and take it, but how do you do that in reality? It's one thing if she were just nipping, but the thing is, when she first bit me, I didn't pull away so she used more pressure and bit harder until I shook her off. I didn't necessarily jerk my hand away, but I shook off her bite and continued to offer my arm until she stepped up and I could return her to her cage.
So that's where she is now. She's being calm and quiet, just sitting on the cage, grinding her beak. She looks pretty sleepy, but I'm worried about what happens when I'm the sleepy one and I need to cage her for the night. Leaving her out just isn't an option. Because of her wings, when she gets off her cage, she struggles with figuring out how to climb back into it, not to mention that I don't know that it's safe for her to wander freely all night. I can't isolate her in my room with me because my cat is isolated there during this slow introductory process.
I really want to be able to bond with her and have her step up and trust me and most importantly, I want her to be happy here, but I don't understand why she'll seem enthusiastic one moment and be trying to bite my little finger off the next. How do I break this biting behavior without allowing her to crush my fingers? ):
I tried to research as much as I could before I picked her up, but reading things and living things are very different. I like her, and I think she's warming up to me, but we're still having some issues. I know it's only been a day or so, but I want to be doing everything right from day one to prevent more issues later on.
Background on Arya: I got her from someone who has owned birds for 15+ years and is very meticulous about their care. He's an older man who was retired but then was elected mayor and no longer has time for all of his birds. He's keeping the older greys, but he was selling his babies, which is how I ended up with Arya. She was very well taken care of, and she is not yet 1 year old. Her hatch date was November 10, 2012.
Now, for my questions! When I first brought her home, we had some immediate issues. She didn't want to get in her cage, so I didn't push it. I let her explore, but she wouldn't let me near her. If she thought I was invading her bubble, she scurried away pretty quickly, so I tried to not bother her and let her adjust, but as it got later, I needed her to be in her cage for the night because I didn't want her to get hurt while I slept.
I turned the lights out and decided to watch a little TV and see if she calmed down enough for me to put her up for the night, and to my surprise, she glided over to me once it was dark. She immediately crawled up my shirt and made her way to the top of my head. She scratched me a little on the way and was nipping at my neck, but I took it as a sign of affection and tried to put her in her cage while she was on me. That didn't work out. She got upset, she bit me pretty hard, and I had to pick her up with a towel to get her in her cage.
This morning, I opened her cage and left it up to her when to come out. It took her a few hours, but she finally came out and made her way to the top of the cage. She didn't move away when I got near her, she let me give her grapes, but I could tell she was still scared of me. A couple hours ago, she started flapping like crazy on top of her cage at the edge and looking right at me. I took it to mean she wanted down but was afraid because she knows her wings are clipped (her other owners doing, not mine), so I went to offer her my arm. She refused to take it, but she kept insistently flapping every time I walked away, so I decided to use some training techniques I saw. I got a peanut and offered it to her if she would climb up on my arm. Twice she hopped up, got the treat, and immediately hopped off, but on the third time, she stayed. She let me carry her to my couch, she had some grapes, but then, she did the same thing as last night. She climbed up and behind my head and then onto my head and made a big deal out of getting down. When she got off my head, I tried using treats again to get her to step up and return her to a perch, but instead of going for the treats, like last night, she bit me hard.
I know that people say to suck it up and take it, but how do you do that in reality? It's one thing if she were just nipping, but the thing is, when she first bit me, I didn't pull away so she used more pressure and bit harder until I shook her off. I didn't necessarily jerk my hand away, but I shook off her bite and continued to offer my arm until she stepped up and I could return her to her cage.
So that's where she is now. She's being calm and quiet, just sitting on the cage, grinding her beak. She looks pretty sleepy, but I'm worried about what happens when I'm the sleepy one and I need to cage her for the night. Leaving her out just isn't an option. Because of her wings, when she gets off her cage, she struggles with figuring out how to climb back into it, not to mention that I don't know that it's safe for her to wander freely all night. I can't isolate her in my room with me because my cat is isolated there during this slow introductory process.
I really want to be able to bond with her and have her step up and trust me and most importantly, I want her to be happy here, but I don't understand why she'll seem enthusiastic one moment and be trying to bite my little finger off the next. How do I break this biting behavior without allowing her to crush my fingers? ):