Is Bella rejecting me?

texsize · Feb 19, 2017

I am definitely feeling rejected by Bella.

She refuses to sit with me. She use to sit with me and let me scratch her head and neck. Now she walks away and then fly’s into the hallway and walks into my Son’s bedroom or fly’s to her cage.

My Son’s room has a small cage with an open top. We sometimes put Bella in his room if we are going to go out so she has company. Sometimes Bella calls our Son’s name “Michael” and then we will put her in there thinking she wants to see him.

Don’t get me wrong, I am glad she likes my son.

If I am reading her emotions correctly I would say she is afraid of something (me?) but I don’t know what or why.

As far as I know the only thing that has changed is she has more ability to fly than she use to.

At this point I am going to try to reduce my interaction with her until she seems ready for it.

trimblegirls · Feb 19, 2017

Is she afraid or just disinterested? I'd just keep asking her to do the things you normally do, and when she says no then be OK with it. Maybe she's just mad and will get over it. I didn't think Jasper cared about Tillie but he wasn't too happy with me when she was on my shoulder. He's over it now. (I told him that he was my favorite. Don't tell Tillie, she's hell on wheels when she's mad.)

Scott · Feb 19, 2017

Has anything else changed, something subtle? Grasping at straws for you, but increased flying may be a sign of a desire for more independence. OTOH it might be a phase or possibly hormonal issue?

texsize · Feb 19, 2017

Scott said:
Has anything else changed, something subtle? Grasping at straws for you, but increased flying may be a sign of a desire for more independence. OTOH it might be a phase or possibly hormonal issue?

I wish I could pin it down to something.
From what I was told at the pet store she was 7 months old when I bought her. That would make her about 10 months old now. BUT... her eyes were not dark at the time I bought her.
If I was going to put money on it (and in a way I did) I would say she is a little bit over a year old.
I could be wrong and she could be entering puberty.
If true what can I do about it?
She has regurgitated to me a few times but she has never showed any other signs of um amours behavior.
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adz1984 · Feb 20, 2017

I feel the same with my Bella, I spend more time with her than my gf and treat her better lol
Maybe it's a Bella thing...

plumsmum2005 · Feb 20, 2017

Sorry you are feeling rejected, again it could just be a phase? If there appears to be more going on in your son's room that could be the draw for her to go? Is he able to pet her, give her scritches etc or does she just sit with him listening and watching what is going on? Hard to do but relax birds can and do have many different relationships/bonds with humans but it is always on their terms. They also love routine and if you can do something together that she enjoys and becomes a routine that will strengthen the bond between you.

Freebird1969 · Feb 20, 2017

Hi just reading about Bella, Bella is still very young, AG's don't mature until around 4/5 years old. Don't distance yourself from her, that will not help the situation. Try and give her as much attention as possible. While she is young she should be interacting with your whole family as much as possible. Distancing yourself will only make the bond even less between you and Bella. AG's do tend to bond more with one person, but if you can keep up the interaction she should come round to you more again. She is just a baby learning her way through in your home. Are you doing any kind of training with her? Afrian Greys love interacting with people, keep talking to her, put some music on and encourage her to dance

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AmyMyBlueFront · Feb 20, 2017

And Bella is flying more..Greys are very independent. Now that she can get around better,she's interested in whats around her and she can go investigate.
"OK, daddy was my major mode of transportation..now that I can get around by myself..let me see whats in THIS room...and over HERE..and THIS place..."
I don't think she's giving you the cold shoulder Wes..she just wants to "be her own girl".

Jim

texsize · Feb 20, 2017

plumsmum2005 plumsmum2005
Most of the time my Son is playing on/with the computer. He can and does scratch her when he walks by but does not let her sit with him.
When my Son is playing "on line" games he does talk to his friends a lot. Sometimes loudly and with emotion. Could be that is what is attracting her to his room.

BTW Bella said Good morning for the first time this morning. YAH.
texsize

wrench13 · Feb 20, 2017

Always cool when they say a new word or phrase.

AmyMyBlueFront · Feb 20, 2017

texsize said:
plumsmum2005 plumsmum2005
Most of the time my Son is playing on/with the computer. He can and does scratch her when he walks by but does not let her sit with him.
When my Son is playing "on line" games he does talk to his friends a lot. Sometimes loudly and with emotion. Could be that is what is attracting her to his room.

BTW Bella said Good morning for the first time this morning. YAH.
texsize

Wes,I recall with Smokey,my kitchen was usually the place where people hung out,and the birdies are in the living room.
We'd be playing cards or hust BS'ing,and here comes Smokes,waddling down the hallway,wanting to be were the action was!
So,maybe with your son getting so animated in playing his on line games with his buddies,Bella IS curious on where all the noise is coming from,and what she is missing. Just a thought here buddy.

Jim

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