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Ok now that I have ya'lls attention...
I do need help..

I have a problem..

I don't know what to do?

I know what I want to do?

But what should I do?


My Pastor has a 7 year old AG.. Soloman.. he raised from a chick.
He told me today to help him find a new home for Soloman..
He said he has so many irons in the fire he cannot devote the time to care and work with him..

So... It breaks my heart. I do not want Soloman to go to a stranger...

I am thinking of taking Soloman...

My questions... are

1. Should I do it?
2. What should I do since I am still working with Abby?
3. HELP.. :30:
 

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Ok cowboy lets look at this. I suggest you look at the bird first and see if it would be a match. Abby, your girl, is you mate and could resent you for bringing in another bird. Or, it could work fine and everyone is happy. The only way to know is to do it. Have you had thoughts on getting a second bird? Did you say no to yourself as we all do. I think it is such a complicated decision and only you can make. 7 years with your pastor is a long time and the bird will be in shock with a sudden move. How about you have him bring the bird to you home a few times to see how he likes it. He is a nice young CAG. I guess I am suggesting you try it in small steps at first.
 

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How about you have him bring the bird to you home a few times to see how he likes it. He is a nice young CAG. I guess I am suggesting you try it in small steps at first.


I did this with an older CAG that I had rescued. She never really bonded with me. When she seemed to really like my friend Sue and we decided to let her have Sue as her own I took her to Sue's house several times over a month or so before making the final move. It worked out really well for both Sue and Vern who was about 22yrs old at the time.
 

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Just like what was mentioned above. Bring him to your place over a period of time to see how they like each other.
 

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Tough decision Mike.... oh boy..... we would all love to take in another bird..........

Lets look at facts okay. I am not trying to put your off, there are many things we have to consider, before taking in another bird.


You are in the early stages with Abby, would it be fair to bring in another bird. Abby needs much of your time and attention, having another, could take away precious time.
Abby is now in a routine, her entire "lifestyle" would have to be change, to accommodate another bird.
Have you honestly got enough time on your hands to handle two birds. Giving each bird one on one time. Soloman will need extra love and attention, while trying to settle into his new environment.
Do keep in my Soloman must be in quarantine, do you have the space. As well as space for another cage, perhaps a new playpen (some birds do not like sharing)

Would Solomon get along with your other pets, is he used to dogs, as Abby is. If not, Abby will be upset, not playing with the dogs any longer.
Where would the dogs spend their time, if they not allowed near Soloman. Your time with the dogs would also be in question.
If taking in Soloman, Abby could have lovely companion, that is a chance anyone must be prepared to take. Perhaps Soloman, is speaking, and could teach Abby a few words.
Abby is now mumbling, (her way of talking now) which will progress into talking. If Abby does not take to Soloman, and is jealous, her ability to talk could suffer.
Perhaps in the years to come, when Abby is a bit older.
Mike here is something you need to do
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Make a list, the pro's and the con's pertaining to Soloman, becoming a part of your family. Many lives here depend on your decision

Good luck my friend
 
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I don't think it would be fair to Abby. You are still establishing your relationship with her. I didn't get Gracie until I had Nicky for 4 years. It is tough dividing equal attention to both birds. I suggest you try and help your pastor find another home for his CAG. I know you want to provide a loving home for Soloman but Abby should come first when it comes to making your decision.
 

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Wow, this is a tough one. Parrots are like children in so many ways. An important way is that going from 1 parrot to 2 parrots doesn't double the work, it's closer to quadrupling the work. As much as I love Greys, Abby was your first commitment and deserves a lot of "input" into this decision.

Has he contacted any of the rescues in the area? Even the SPCA to find another home.
 

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Ahhh Mike!

I think we all face such difficulties!

I was planning to rescue a bird in a few years time as I have only had Cal for 5months even though it seems SO much longer.

I would have to wait until my beloved bun passed on before I could even contemplate it. Like you, I have other animals that I love just as much and it is a juggle to make sure everyone has quality time.

I have fought with myself long and hard and although I was set on rescuing an amazon....I don't think I can. This may change, but for now, I am counting my blessings in our girl.

Cal has given us the gift of her love and trust. I do not want to jeapordise that. I would love to take every bird I hear of in need from canaries to macaw's, but I have other bundles of joy to consider.

On the flip side, plenty of people have multiple birds and get along brilliantly. You could say I am too scared to take the plunge but it is just how I feel presently.

I get offered unwanted dogs almost weekly and my heart wrenches. I just do not have the time required to help them. :(:(:( Neither would I upset my own doggies for the world by bringing in an unknown entity.

It is only you who knows what you are capable of taking on, Mike.

If you feel in your heart that you have all the time to devote to all the pets you have if you take on Solomon then that's great!

There is my school of thought with not having had Abby too long (She is ages with Cal I think?), but consider this also......

I only had my puppy Olly for 3 months and decided to get Boots because I wanted them to be together throughout their life. Of course, dogs are very different but it worked beautifully.

Looking at it logically, Abby is not even a year old yet. If you have the time for Solomon or want another fid at a later date, surely it is better to do it sooner rather than later? If you wait a few years, then Abby will really have her routine upset? She is so young now that the time she has spent on this planet is a speck of dust compared to the very long, happy life she has ahead of her.

I don't know, I just know the things I thought of......

I wish you luck in whatever you choose to do. If Solomon is not destined for your home then do not beat yourself up about it. If he is and everything goes brilliantly, then that is a wonderful thing.

Take your head and your heart and get them to work in harmony on this until you reach the right conclusion!
 

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Well said, Von! Mike, if you think you can do it, do it! Abbey may be happy with Solomon....Who knows? She doesn't mind the dogs. I also think that Abbey or any bird wil adjust more quickly at a younger age. I would have an aggreement to allow returning, just in case....
 
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Thanks to all for your comments. I do understand about Abby being 1st and since she is still a baby I do need to devote all my time to her.

I have not been around Soloman. I know right now Montie is the only one in his family that can handle him. He does not like his wife or son but does like his daughter (the daughter is married now and does not live at home)
He does talk some but mostly imitates sounds.. they have a cat and a dog and Soloman will meow just like the cat. and imitates the phone ringing and he does sing some.

I do have the space I have a spare bedroom I could quarantine in. He has a nice large cage and a ton of toys. He is only wanting $900.

Oh the decisions...
I know it would talk a lot of time working with Soloman, he has been ignored for a while and I think that is why he is aggressive towards Montie's wife and son (and they don't like him at all)
 

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Oh my goodness. To me $900 is not in a sentence with 'only'
Even with the cage that is a high price. Do you think he is just wanting the money? A new baby CAG runs from about $600 to $1200. Of course you are getting his house too. What every you decide will be the right decision for you and Abby. You are a good daddy guardian and any bird would be happy with you.

Additional Note: I did some surfing of prices of AG in the D/FW area and I see everything from $250 to $1,500. I would say your prices there are like the land - wide open!
 
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My mistake $900 is what he paid when he got Soloman.
I do not know what he wants now probably about $600
 

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aw, sounds life a tough decision. I hope the parrot goes to a nice home, either with you or someone else. We all have kind hearts and want to help everyone we can. Just remember: never bite off more than you can chew. If you don't think you can handle two new (ish) birds in your life, the best thing to do would be to help your pastor find the bird a good home.

On the other hand, if you do take him, good luck and I wish you all the best! Every bird is a new experience and a new friendship waiting to happen. Just remember to keep your limitations in mind. I would love a Macaw some day but for now, my little pionus is the most best Fid i could ask for!
 
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OK, everyone I have decided not to adopt Soloman. It breaks my heart but I know I am not ready to take on another fid.
I need to dedicate all my time to Abby.
I know that Soloman will be a gread fid but it will take time for him to come around.

Thanks to all for your comments.

Mike
 

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Difficult decision to make, Mike.

I think you did the right thing if it helps. As Dave ALWAYS said to me when we were arranging to build up our lil family: If there's no hesitation it's the right time.

I can't help but agree! :)

Solomon will find a good home. You know this as your Pastor(have I got this right?) wouldn't place him unsuitably.
 

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As Dave ALWAYS said to me when we were arranging to build up our lil family: If there's no hesitation it's the right time.

Wise words! But you don't have to tell him that if it'll give him a big head. ;)
 
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Hey DI we guys need all the atta boys we can get.. LOL
 

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