Parrot Forum Header Left  
Go Back   Parrot Forum - Parrot Owner's Community > Species Specific > Conures

View Poll Results: Which parrot would be best for me?
Green-cheek Conure 4 26.67%
Sun Conure 1 6.67%
Other Conure 0 0%
Caique 0 0%
Cockatiel 10 66.67%
Indian Ringneck 0 0%
Voters: 15. You may not vote on this poll

Reply
 
LinkBack Thread Tools Display Modes
  #41 (permalink)  
Old 05-25-2018, 09:47 AM
DoubleTake's Avatar
Senior Member
Parrots:
2 Sun Conures. R.I.P Lily 3/1/2018 - You were my sweet baby.
Join Date: May 2017
Location: South Orange County, California
Thanks: 21
Thanked 141 Times in 71 Posts
DoubleTake is on a distinguished road
Re: First Parrot

Sponsored Links
Yeah I just spent $600 on a new cage and toys for a new lovebird I am not even getting anymore due to bad test results. Things happens...
__________________
Reply With Quote
The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to DoubleTake For This Useful Post:
EllenD (05-29-2018), Scott  (05-25-2018)
  #42 (permalink)  
Old 05-25-2018, 11:07 PM
itchyfeet's Avatar
Senior Member
Parrots:
Ethyl the cockatiel, Henry & Clarke the IRN's, and Skittles the lovebird (my daughters)
Join Date: Nov 2014
Location: Middle Earth
Thanks: 2,469
Thanked 1,117 Times in 585 Posts
itchyfeet is on a distinguished road
Re: First Parrot

Lovebirds! I wonder if you could consider lovebirds...

Firstly - I'm not going to write you off as a parrot owner. I waited until I was married, kidded up, owned my own home....and still sh*t hit the fan and turned our worlds upside down. It was an effort with the birds, but as long as their care is your priority, it can be okay. Listen to what people are saying, make back up plans, find someone in your household who loves your bird as much as you do...it might just be okay.

My nine year old saved for two years, did her research and built up her relationship with a breeder that she sought out. We are a parrot family and I was and always will be 100% committed to being her back up. The result? Skittles. My bird interests lay in Quakers, African Grey's & IRN's. When I decided to add to the flock, I sought to adopt one of these three and it just so happened Henry was the first 'right' match.

But she saved her own $$, and so it was her call (Although I would have probably put my foot down at a macaw or 'too). Skittles is brilliant! He doesn't take up a stupid amount of space, doesn't do massive poops, and hasn't got a massive scream. He is ballsy enough to hang out with the IRN's (he genuinely rules the flock, under supervision), he talks up a storm and he is super portable, a trip to Nana's house is in a small pet carrier on her knee. He'll snuggle up in her hoodie hood or pocket. They come in amazing colours - and I'm a convert.

If you had to move, a lovebird will make landlords far less nervous than a conure.

Also, this thread would be worth your time Have you ever found yourself discouraging parrot ownership?
__________________
EthylHenry ClarkeSkittles

Last edited by itchyfeet; 05-25-2018 at 11:16 PM.
Reply With Quote
The Following User Says Thank You to itchyfeet For This Useful Post:
Cardinal (05-30-2018)
  #43 (permalink)  
Old 05-25-2018, 11:20 PM
BoomBoom's Avatar
Senior Member
Parrots:
Boomer (Sun Conure 6.5 yrs), Pewpew (Budgie 3 yrs), Eight & Kiki (Beloved Budgies, RIP)
Join Date: May 2012
Thanks: 2,498
Thanked 1,511 Times in 753 Posts
BoomBoom is on a distinguished road
Re: First Parrot

OP, you have your whole life ahead of you. Enjoy the follies of youth and don't shackle yourself just yet! I highly suggest waiting a few years, maybe after college.

All that said, life with a bird is truly rewarding and joyful but it comes at the cost of tons of your personal time. Time that you should be spending on growing, learning, looking for jobs, landing apartments, vacationing... Be young for a few more years!

~ a 38 year old

PS. If you do decide to get a parrot, then I wish you the very best and know that you have the awesome people at these forums to help you with any questions.
__________________
. . . . . . . . . .

Pictures: https://www.tumblr.com/blog/technicolorchicken

. . . . . . . . . .
Reply With Quote
The Following User Says Thank You to BoomBoom For This Useful Post:
EllenD (05-26-2018)
  #44 (permalink)  
Old 05-26-2018, 02:09 AM
Skittys_Daddy's Avatar
Senior Member
Parrots:
Neotropical Pigeon - "Skittles" (born 3/29/10) Cockatiel - "Peaches" (1995-2015) R.I.P. Budgie - "Sammy" (1989-2000) R.I.P. Budgie - "Sandy" (1987-1989) R.I.P.
Join Date: Jan 2014
Location: Lewiston, Maine
Thanks: 815
Thanked 1,813 Times in 932 Posts
Skittys_Daddy is on a distinguished road
Re: First Parrot

All I can say is avoid a sun conure at this time.


They are VERY loud and very demanding. They are like a toddler that never grows up.



I can only speak of suns, but I must echo most of the posts here. A conure is really not a good match for a college student. They can live for decades and your life is likely to change significantly in that period of time.


I got Skittles in my mid-30s. I live alone and am home MOST of the time, so for me, a sun conure is ideal. But even in my situation, it required a LOT of sacrifices and adjustments to accommodate Skittles needs (which ALWAYS come before my own).
__________________


I have no sense of humor because my humor makes no sense.
Reply With Quote
The Following User Says Thank You to Skittys_Daddy For This Useful Post:
EllenD (05-26-2018)
  #45 (permalink)  
Old 05-26-2018, 08:32 AM
EllenD's Avatar
Senior Member
Parrots:
Senegal Parrot named "Kane"; Yellow-Sided Green Cheek Conure named "Bowie"; Blue Quaker Parrot named "Lita Ford"; Cockatiel named "Duff"; 8 American/English Budgie Hybrids; Ringneck Dove named "Dylan"
Join Date: Aug 2016
Location: State College, PA
Thanks: 6,372
Thanked 7,416 Times in 3,032 Posts
EllenD will become famous soon enough
Re: First Parrot

I hope that the OP realizes that the only reason that people here are telling him to wait to take-on the responsibility of a parrot is because we were all 18 once, we all thought we knew what the near future held, and then college, relationships, human children, jobs, moving, health issues, etc. popped-up without warning for every single one of us. And that is the #1 reason why there are literally tens of thousands of pet parrots on Craigslist right now across the country that need new homes. If you read the reasons for having to rehome parrots, it's usually something like "I'm moving for a new job and can't take him with me", or "My fiance is allergic", or "I just don't have the time I used to for him, and it's not fair to him"...

This is why we are telling you this, not to just dismiss you getting a pet bird...And no matter how set-in-life you think you are at this moment, at 18 years old, you have absolutely no idea what awaits you my friend. I didn't know I was going to develop endometrial cancer at the age of 32, but I did. Had to stop working for 2 years, and if not for my mother and step-father I would have lost my house and had to rehome my birds, my dogs, and my bearded dragon..I was advertising and interviewing prospective new homes for them when my mom agreed to help me with bills...Once again, life happens...it just does...
__________________
"Dance Like Nobody's Watching".
Reply With Quote
The Following User Says Thank You to EllenD For This Useful Post:
TiredOldMan Supporting Member (05-26-2018)
  #46 (permalink)  
Old 05-26-2018, 03:10 PM
Junior Member
Join Date: May 2018
Location: Victoria, BC
Thanks: 14
Thanked 25 Times in 12 Posts
MGMork is on a distinguished road
Re: First Parrot

Quote: Originally Posted by EllenD View Post
I hope that the OP realizes that the only reason that people here are telling him to wait to take-on the responsibility of a parrot is because we were all 18 once, we all thought we knew what the near future held, and then college, relationships, human children, jobs, moving, health issues, etc. popped-up without warning for every single one of us. And that is the #1 reason why there are literally tens of thousands of pet parrots on Craigslist right now across the country that need new homes. If you read the reasons for having to rehome parrots, it's usually something like "I'm moving for a new job and can't take him with me", or "My fiance is allergic", or "I just don't have the time I used to for him, and it's not fair to him"...

This is why we are telling you this, not to just dismiss you getting a pet bird...And no matter how set-in-life you think you are at this moment, at 18 years old, you have absolutely no idea what awaits you my friend. I didn't know I was going to develop endometrial cancer at the age of 32, but I did. Had to stop working for 2 years, and if not for my mother and step-father I would have lost my house and had to rehome my birds, my dogs, and my bearded dragon..I was advertising and interviewing prospective new homes for them when my mom agreed to help me with bills...Once again, life happens...it just does...
Here's my only irk with this point that keeps getting made: everyone keeps saying "life happens", and I know, trust me. So much stuff has been thrown my way in only 18 years, and I've dealt with it. But life happens no matter how old you are, where you live, what you do, or which animals you have. Nothing will change that fact. And you yourself said that at 32, you almost lost everything. You're basically saying no time in life is it good to get a bird. Because if I waited until years after college, got a job and settled down at the age of 30 with a pet parrot, 2 years later something could hit me just as it hit you. And not to mention, it's rare anyone ever knows exactly where they're going to be 5+ years from now. And the people rehoming there parrots? There are probably thousand of them that only got them recently. Not just teenagers who made the choice to care for a bird.

I'm not trying to dismiss anyone's points or fight back, because I'm really just here's to get advice, but those points are kind of invalid. I know being a teenager is probably the most confusing time in ones lifespan, but if I live with the fear and worry of not knowing what'll come tomorrow, I'll never have any kids, buy any home, and definitely not bring a parrot into my life. I've had confidence/self-esteem issues all my life, and I've been to lots of counsellors, and the number one thing I've learned is that you can't dictate your life on the 'what-ifs'. What if i am hospitalized with medical issues? What if I lose my job and can't afford luxeries? What if my spouse, that I haven't even met, doesn't like birds? The list goes on and on, and it can ruin things that have the possibility to change your life in positive and amazing ways. Again, not dismissing your advice, but that point just doesn't work. BUT this also doesn't mean I'll make the jump to get a parrot just yet. I really do appreciate everyone's point of view, opinions, and advice to help me make the right decision.

Last edited by MGMork; 05-26-2018 at 03:17 PM.
Reply With Quote
The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to MGMork For This Useful Post:
itchyfeet (05-26-2018), Terry57  (05-26-2018)
  #47 (permalink)  
Old 05-26-2018, 03:29 PM
chris-md's Avatar
Senior Member
Parrots:
Parker - male Eclectus Aphrodite - red throated conure (RIP)
Join Date: Feb 2010
Location: Maryland - USA
Thanks: 1,235
Thanked 5,111 Times in 1,974 Posts
chris-md is on a distinguished road
Re: First Parrot

First - you’ve taken the advice given to you very well. Do understand we only have your best interest at heart here.

The “fear holding you back” is completely unrelated to what we are telling you here. Which says you’re missing the larger point.

Yes life happens. You’re positing you can’t foresee the future, so go balls to the wall!. Well, we’re telling you here you can see what’s coming. . Every human being who has left their parents house has experienced it. And so have the millions of birds currently dead in the ground or living in rescues.

There are no surprises coming. You’re going to move out of your parents house, go to college (maybe?), renting, roommates, housing that does t allow pets.

This is not about the ambiguous “fear of the unknown”. What you are confronting is a well blazed path of known unknowns. Which is why you’re getting the advice you’re getting. Get through the known tumult, then you are better situated to making a long term decision and commitment.

You’ve already had a handful of people saying they had birds at your age and regret it. HEAR THAT. My own bird died from neglect as a result of me going away to college.

Last edited by chris-md; 05-26-2018 at 03:32 PM.
Reply With Quote
The Following User Says Thank You to chris-md For This Useful Post:
MGMork (05-26-2018)
  #48 (permalink)  
Old 05-26-2018, 03:32 PM
Skittys_Daddy's Avatar
Senior Member
Parrots:
Neotropical Pigeon - "Skittles" (born 3/29/10) Cockatiel - "Peaches" (1995-2015) R.I.P. Budgie - "Sammy" (1989-2000) R.I.P. Budgie - "Sandy" (1987-1989) R.I.P.
Join Date: Jan 2014
Location: Lewiston, Maine
Thanks: 815
Thanked 1,813 Times in 932 Posts
Skittys_Daddy is on a distinguished road
Re: First Parrot

The point I made with regard to suns is because they WILL become screamers if they don't get adequate attention. When you are young and have a lot going on, it can be hard to find the time. BUT, if you can and are willing to make the necessary changes and sacrifices then you're heading in the right direction.


I was advised NOT to get Skittles because I live in an apartment building. Truthfully, there is a LOT of truth to the fact that suns are NOT good apartment birds. BUT, because of my lifestyle, it works.



A lot of it also depends on the individual bird. Skittles used to be VERY noisy and yappy, back when he wasn't allowed to be out all the time. But now, he is free-flighted and the quietest bird I've ever owned.



My advice to you is this- do as much research as you can possibly do on the species you want to get. Talk with different bird owners in order to get a variety of input. See if you can visit the bird you are interested in and spend time to see if you are a right match. Keep in mind that if you do NOT live alone, then everyone else in the house has to be on board as well and willing to contribute when needed.



We all just love our fids to the moon and back and want nothing more than what is best for them. Some of us may be more cautious than others (like myself) but it all comes from good intentions.
__________________


I have no sense of humor because my humor makes no sense.
Reply With Quote
The Following User Says Thank You to Skittys_Daddy For This Useful Post:
MGMork (05-26-2018)
  #49 (permalink)  
Old 05-26-2018, 03:41 PM
Junior Member
Join Date: May 2018
Location: Victoria, BC
Thanks: 14
Thanked 25 Times in 12 Posts
MGMork is on a distinguished road
Re: First Parrot

Quote: Originally Posted by chris-md View Post
First - you’ve taken the advice given to you very well. Do understand we only have your best interest at heart here.

The “fear holding you back” is completely unrelated to what we are telling you here. Which says you’re missing the larger point.

Yes life happens. You’re positing you can’t foresee the future, so go balls to the wall!. Well, we’re telling you here you can see what’s coming. . Every human being who has left their parents house has experienced it. And so have the millions of birds currently dead in the ground or living in rescues.

There are no surprises coming. You’re going to move out of your parents house, go to college (maybe?), renting, roommates, housing that does t allow pets.

This is not about the ambiguous “fear of the unknown”. What you are confronting is a well blazed path of known unknowns. Which is why you’re getting the advice you’re getting. Get through the known tumult, then you are better situated to making a long term decision and commitment.

You’ve already had a handful of people saying they had birds at your age and regret it. HEAR THAT. My own bird died from neglect as a result of me going away to college.
Thank you! This is a much better way to look at it...
Reply With Quote
  #50 (permalink)  
Old 05-29-2018, 04:02 AM
LordTriggs's Avatar
Senior Member
Parrots:
Rio (Yellow sided conure) sadly no longer with us
Join Date: May 2017
Location: Surrey, UK
Thanks: 2,413
Thanked 4,047 Times in 2,087 Posts
LordTriggs is on a distinguished road
Re: First Parrot

I thought I posted the other day but looks like it didn't upload

It's good to think about it and by no means take any of what's been said as bullying or whatever. I myself am only 24 so not that far removed from you in age and I can say the next few years for yourself will be a haze of things going on with your life completely changing.

There's immediate concerns regarding a parrot being, are your family prepared to do away with Teflon in any and all forms (cookware, heaters, hair dryers, straighteners, Irons ETC. Are they prepared to give up usual cleaning supplies and give up all air fresheners? Perfume and deodorants need to go out, if anyone smokes that would need to stop. They would also have to understand what foods are toxic so a bird doesn't get anything by mistake, train themselves to check for the bird before opening a window or door, keep windows closed in summer. They'd also have to deal with the 5AM song of their people which sounds fine on a normal day but a sunday morning after a heavy night previously it becomes very different. They and you would also have to be aware that any bird could potentially choose any family member as their mate and actively attack anyone else who is nearby and that you can't start shouting and lashing out at a bird.

Then looking ahead to when you move into your own place you would have to contend with possibly room mates and/or a significant other who may not want to give up those luxuries I stated above that need to go, or who don't want to have a small creature biting them because they decided to wear yellow that day. Or deal with landlords who refuse pets. Neighbors who deem a bird making any noise at all, even beak grinding as a horrendous racket and of course as the sad truth is right now an extreme lack of money. Like others have said the upkeep of a bird is expensive, especially the bill of a good vet. Plus you may end up with a job where you frequently end up working 13 hour+ shifts which it isn't fair on a bird to keep them alone for that long and will result in screaming and plucking behaviors.

I'm not saying "don't ever get a bird" what I'm saying is give yourself like 5 years, maybe less, maybe more but wait until you're on your own and settled in life so you don't have to sit there thinking "What will my family be like? I need to find a suitable apartment on this job, does my life give me enough time to be with a bird? Do I have enough money for my bird?"

Just some thoughts for you to think over as I know they're thoughts I didn't have when I got my bird and as you can see I made mistakes which cost him his life. I'd just rather not see you make mistakes resulting in heartache and wait for the time to be as right as it can be. You'll be surprised how quick the next handful of years whiz by
Reply With Quote
Reply

Lower Navigation
Go Back   Parrot Forum - Parrot Owner's Community > Species Specific > Conures

Tags
caique, cockatiel, conure, first time bird owner, indian ring neck
Remove Ads

Thread Tools
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are On


Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
New to Parrot Forums and Kinda New to Parrot Ownership and I have Some Questions misscrys1985 New Members Welcome 3 03-30-2015 04:34 PM
Lesser Vasa Parrot or Black Parrot (Coracopsis nigra) newtoparrots General Parrot Information 32 02-16-2011 10:43 AM



Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.7
Copyright ©2000 - 2019, vBulletin Solutions, Inc.