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Old 12-10-2018, 01:55 PM
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Oh Fouri, I'm so sorry that this happened to your baby...It's a mistake that many, many people have made, not that it helps you at all but please don't think that this is something that you're alone in doing...

And thank-you so much for posting your tragic story for others to read...I know that we've had many new members come on the forum here and tell us that they sleep with their birds, a lot of Green Cheeks and Sun Conures, and when we try to warn them about not ever sleeping with their birds for just this reason, they always totally ignore us and say something like "We've been sleeping in bed together since I brought him home, it's fine, we have a system", or "It's fine because I don't move much at all during the night"...They just won't listen to reason, warnings, or etc. So hopefully you unselfishly sharing your story will prevent someone else from making the same mistake...I certainly hope so...
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Old 12-10-2018, 02:22 PM
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Re: I accidentally crushed my bird.

So sad to hear about this. A very hard lesson learned. Thank you for sharing.
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Old 12-10-2018, 04:19 PM
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Re: I accidentally crushed my bird.

I can't even understand how bad you feel right now... I believe the pain in your heart is enormous. But answer yourself, why did the accident happened at all? And the answer is... because you LOVED Gizmo. And he LOVED you back. He went to parrot-heaven. It's the ultimate target for us all. Unfortunately he went there too soon, but it's just out of our control.
But for sure, he must have experienced your love to him.

But your situation is not all wasted. Because you shared it with us, there's a chance another Parrot's live will be saved. Thanks to Gizmo's sacrifice. RIP, Gizmo.
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Old 12-10-2018, 11:08 PM
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Re: I accidentally crushed my bird.

Deepest condolences for your tragic lost, I'm so very sorry. Thank you for sharing your experience in the midst of your grief, your story may get through to many more parronts than advice alone could ever do. There are no words powerful enough to comfort you in your loss but I hope your sweet memories of Gizmo will help to ease the pain.
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Old 12-10-2018, 11:19 PM
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Re: I accidentally crushed my bird.

I'm so sorry for your loss. And I commend you for Your honest telling of this avoidable choice so others won't feel That same pain. Your tragedy could be someone else's good fortune.

Emoji had fallen asleep several times snuggled in my hair, but I move...a lot. But I have smothered orphaned baby possums I was rehabbing trying to keep them warm in my clothing and fell asleep after working a night shift. It's a devastating feeling.

My heart goes out to you. Please be easy on yourself. Just learn the lesson and continue to carry the message.

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Old 12-11-2018, 02:11 AM
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Re: I accidentally crushed my bird.

Saddest and deepest condolences. There are lots of stories of mistakes like this happening and your story could also help ease the sorrow and pain of what they're experiencing.
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Old 12-11-2018, 10:37 AM
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Re: I accidentally crushed my bird.

I'm so sorry for your loss. I also lost a green cheek to a preventable accident, and very much understand what you're feeling / going through right now. It gets better, slowly.
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Old 12-11-2018, 01:02 PM
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Re: I accidentally crushed my bird.

I can honestly say I know what you're going through. After doing rescue/management of feral cats for many years I have torn my heart to shreds over things, some things that I had no control over but others that were my doing, out of ignorance and, yes, hope. Unfortunately I have no magic words that will make you feel better. All I can do is empathize and say the pain will diminish over time.


And when you're feeling miserable you can always come here and be with people who accept you no matter what.


On a more upbeat note, you've just made another step toward being an "expert" at birds.
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Old 12-12-2018, 09:25 PM
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Re: I accidentally crushed my bird.

Given Skittles penchant for diving into my shirt and hiding in places, I never thought of letting him sleep with me as a realistic option. However, I did used to think he'd be fine if I were to lay atop the covers in the afternoon and nap. I figured he'd be so busy playing "watchbird" while I slept that he'd be fine. That wasn't the case.

I happened to be lying in bed one afternoon and I was awoken by this very loud screech. Skittles had been chewing on my pillowcase and got one of his talons trapped in the threading. It was incredibly scary and he was thrashing around and it tightened the threading to the point where I couldn't even cut it with regular pair of scissors. I had to use a pair of curved surgical scissors that allowed me to get under the threading to cut it. The whole thing took nearly ten minutes to resolve and that was all I needed to learn that lesson. Had it not been for my neighbor helping me, I don't know how I would have gotten him free.

I'll admit I am now overly cautious and that results in denying him certain treats and certain activities that he enjoys when the safety is a risk or a factor. I was afraid he wouldn't love me anymore if I deprived him of risky/dangerous foods/activities. I've discovered, it bothers me more than him. He gets over it quickly and moves on while I obsess over worrying about his happiness.

I think so often we think something is cute or we enjoy a certain activity and think its harmless. Take the cuddle huts. Skittles had one for nearly five years when I took it away. A friend of mine felt bad for him (and put me on a guilt trip) and said I shouldn't deprive him of something he liked so much. That if it hadn't been an issue yet, it wouldn't be. Not true and it was not a risk I was willing to take.

I was able to get her to shut up though. I said to her, "okay, since you feel that way, I'll keep it in his cage for him. Now, if I come home one day and he's hanging from it, dead, what will you say then?". She never brought it up again.

Sometimes love and parronting require us to do things we don't want to do. Our fids are so cute and sweet we just want them to always be happy. Sometimes though, we have to draw a line. Some of us learn that lesson early, some late. Some learn tragically and some never learn at all.

I was shocked to discover Skittles was actually overweight at his last exam. The year prior, I had told the vet what I had been feeding him for 'treats' and I was doing it cause I loved him and wanted to be happy. She said she understood, but that I was loving him into an early grave. She was nice about it, don't get me wrong, but she was also very candid and that's what I needed to get the message. So I stopped the bread and limited the pizza crust and pasta to RARE (by that I mean maybe once or twice a month, before that it was usually 3-4 a week). He adjusted fine. I just subbed the 'naughty' human food with more fresh fruit instead. He adjusted fine. I also used to give him too many power treats. I switched to the 'coarse' pellets and I mix the two. For every one powertreat I give him, he gets 3 regular coarse. Its worked. He is far more amendable and adjustable than I gave him credit for.

I made PLENTY of mistakes when I was younger with regard to my fids. None of them were malicious, they were just made out of ignorance or not seeing the danger for the danger it was. To me, the way I see it is life isn't easy, neither is loss. Sometimes we will do things, intentionally or not that will hurt others. It's part of life and part of the growing process. I find myself more invested in learning the lesson the first time rather than beating myself up over something avoidable. We have ALL made bad choices that were avoidable. But I believe they are also an opportunity to become an even better parront moving forward.

Of course that doesn't change the loss nor the pain. Sadly, the former is what we have to live with, the latter is only eased by time.
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Re: I accidentally crushed my bird.

I let my rabbits out in my fenced backyard everyday so they're not stuck in a cage and I forgot to close the gate one day and the male rabbit wandered into the front yard. The neighbor's Jack Russel mix dog picked my rabbit up and killed him in front of my seven year old daughter. The rabbit took its last breath in my arms. Not that this makes anything better for you, but I've shared the same heart wrenching feelings.
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