Tori's favorite person is not a fan of Tori...

Kokihi

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Tori is learning to fly, and hes LOVING IT! Its great to let him out and about for a while, and I've noticed that he is much less cranky.

There is only one problem. My boyfriend is Tori's favorite person. He is completely in love with him, and when ever my boyfriend leaves the room Tori calls after him. Now that he can fly, he flies after him. The problem is my boyfriend doesn't like to hold Tori. Hes a little scared of Tori, and doesn't want to get pooped on. When Tori flys after him, he gets scared and ducks away from him. Tori isn't a very good flyer yet, and he gets confused when his perch moves. I always go get him when ever he flies off, so when he does manage to land on my boyfriend, hes never there long.

Has anyone ever had this problem? :confused: How can I either train Tori to not fly after my boyfriend, or train my boyfriend to simply let Tori sit on him until I can get him. (or preferably make friends with Tori)

Any help is greatly appreciated.
 

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train your boy friend to sit/stand still for tori, or not let tori fly when your boyfriend is about, worse case senerio is that tori injures himself crashing into a wall/door etc, and as soon as he lands your boyfriend takes tori off his shoulder, this might send him a clear signal your b/f is not interested

as tori will learn to fly better and i think once a parrot has a fav person, its like there misson to be with them lol as when my hubs is about the only person to get nut of is hubs!
 

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It's always a pain when someone is wary of your birdo lol. It's VERY common for conures to want what they can't have - especially when it comes to humans!

You can either try and win your boyfriend round and have them interact in a CALM way, where your boyfriend is able to be comfortable and not being chased IE: letting Tori explore him on the sofa etc. Explain to him that Tori's affection is actually very special , he is the "chosen" one etc. lol Also, poop is just part of parrot life - it is easily cleaned off. They try very hard not to poop on you and if they do, it is accidental. It is also very easy to toilet train birds. For example mine flies to one of her cages to go 9/10.

The alternative is to train Tori as you say. The thing is, if Tori is adament she wants your bf, then you may struggle to get her to listen to you! If you want to keep her flighted, the best chance you have is to have time with just you and Tori. That way, your boyfriend is not there for distraction and you can begin training her to fly to you on command.

One method that is popular and does work with this is wing clipping. Now, this is a VERY personal choice. My girl is flighted and picks who she wants to be with during out of cage time. Either me, or my husband. Whoever she fancies! Circumstances and luck allow this. Wing clipping is only temporary and as Tori is just learning how to fly, this could potentially be the best time? With her wings clipped, you can train her more easily to listen to you one on one. This will strenghten your bond and give your bf the option of having a Tori free evening lol.

I wish you luck in finding a solution. ALL of it will take hard work and it won't be easy, but it is all part and parcel of the fun and joy that is being a conure parront!
 
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Tori is usually find with just being in the same room with him. For instance, His sleep cage is in my room and when I bring him in while my boyfriend and I are there he sits nicely on his cage even when we are on the other side of the room. The same goes for our much larger living room. The only problem occurs when my boyfriend leaves the room and I'm not talking to/holding Tori.

What we've been doing is shutting the door after my boyfriend leaves, and I give Tori a treat. most of the time he completely forgets that he was upset and goes back to playing with his bell.

I'm going to try to get my boyfriend to be more comfortable with Tori around. If I can't I'll probably do what Suebee suggested and just not have Tori's out of cage time while my boyfriend is around.
 

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Oh I'm sorry! Did I misread? ONLY when he leaves? Sorry, I don't know HOW I managed to miss that!!! *blushes*

Ahhh this is always the thing with conures lol! My girl would follow the cat out of the room lol. Any part of the "flock"....
 
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Oh I'm sorry! Did I misread? ONLY when he leaves? Sorry, I don't know HOW I managed to miss that!!! *blushes*

Ahhh this is always the thing with conures lol! My girl would follow the cat out of the room lol. Any part of the "flock"....

It wasn't too clear in the first post, but yeah, its basically only when he leaves. But that doesn't make any of your suggestions any less helpful!
Once he flew over when we were both on the other side of the room, but that was because there was a loud noise and it scared him.
 
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We have progress!!!

My boyfriend was sitting near me when I was playing with Tori (being a human play-gym) and he stuck his arm out so Tori could climb up onto his shoulder. He even let Tori preen on his hair for a bit! (He made me stay close "Just in case he tries to bite my ear off")

He was even whistling with Tori for a bit last night. It was adorable! ...but now Tori won't stop making that sound. "*Whistle* Hi Tori!Good Bird! *whistle whistle* Be a good bird. Hi tori!"
 

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Tori soon will try to steal your bf away from you...lol
 

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Tori is learning to fly, and hes LOVING IT! Its great to let him out and about for a while, and I've noticed that he is much less cranky.

There is only one problem. My boyfriend is Tori's favorite person. He is completely in love with him, and when ever my boyfriend leaves the room Tori calls after him. Now that he can fly, he flies after him. The problem is my boyfriend doesn't like to hold Tori. Hes a little scared of Tori, and doesn't want to get pooped on. When Tori flys after him, he gets scared and ducks away from him. Tori isn't a very good flyer yet, and he gets confused when his perch moves. I always go get him when ever he flies off, so when he does manage to land on my boyfriend, hes never there long.

Has anyone ever had this problem? :confused: How can I either train Tori to not fly after my boyfriend, or train my boyfriend to simply let Tori sit on him until I can get him. (or preferably make friends with Tori)

Any help is greatly appreciated.

I had this same exact problem with my brother and Cody. Cody LOOOVES my brother, more than he loves anyone else in the house, which is weird, because Ryan has never, ever, fooled with him. Well, Cody started to fly to Ryan constantly, which really frightened him. He has absolutely no interest in being friends with Cody because he's afraid of him (and pretty much all animals...). Well, Cody became so obsessive, and then was becoming aggressive with other people in the house (flying to them and biting them), that I ended up having to clip him. His flights are just growing back in now, but he hasn't quite realize he can fly and make it to him. But the obsession is still there.

So, in short, clipping is only a temporary solution (and should only be done once his flying skills are in place), and the only permanent solution that I can see is to get your boyfriend used to him. Only taking him out while your bf isn't there will work too, but hopefully that wouldn't make his out of cage time suffer.
 
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Tori is learning to fly, and hes LOVING IT! Its great to let him out and about for a while, and I've noticed that he is much less cranky.

There is only one problem. My boyfriend is Tori's favorite person. He is completely in love with him, and when ever my boyfriend leaves the room Tori calls after him. Now that he can fly, he flies after him. The problem is my boyfriend doesn't like to hold Tori. Hes a little scared of Tori, and doesn't want to get pooped on. When Tori flys after him, he gets scared and ducks away from him. Tori isn't a very good flyer yet, and he gets confused when his perch moves. I always go get him when ever he flies off, so when he does manage to land on my boyfriend, hes never there long.

Has anyone ever had this problem? :confused: How can I either train Tori to not fly after my boyfriend, or train my boyfriend to simply let Tori sit on him until I can get him. (or preferably make friends with Tori)

Any help is greatly appreciated.

I had this same exact problem with my brother and Cody. Cody LOOOVES my brother, more than he loves anyone else in the house, which is weird, because Ryan has never, ever, fooled with him. Well, Cody started to fly to Ryan constantly, which really frightened him. He has absolutely no interest in being friends with Cody because he's afraid of him (and pretty much all animals...). Well, Cody became so obsessive, and then was becoming aggressive with other people in the house (flying to them and biting them), that I ended up having to clip him. His flights are just growing back in now, but he hasn't quite realize he can fly and make it to him. But the obsession is still there.

So, in short, clipping is only a temporary solution (and should only be done once his flying skills are in place), and the only permanent solution that I can see is to get your boyfriend used to him. Only taking him out while your bf isn't there will work too, but hopefully that wouldn't make his out of cage time suffer.

I agree. My boyfriend has been doing a lot better, and I think Tori has realized that he doesn't like it when he flys to him because as long as they are in the same room, he doesn't do it. its only when he can't see my boyfriend anymore that he flys after him now.

And, my boyfriend has made further attempts to conquer his fear of Tori! He took him back to his main cage for me while I was on the phone. (tori has two cages: One big one out in the living area and one smaller play/sleep cage in my room) He successfully took Tori back and put him in his cage without incident. I'm so proud of him and Tori! :D
 

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