Yoshi Update.

Hey, all. Those of you who remember, Yoshi was the male ekkie I took in a few months ago because I completely fell in love with him and I was devastated at the conditions he was being kept in. I had him for about 3 months before I realized I had bitten off more than I could chew, and made the difficult decision to re-home him in hopes of him being able to have the time and devotion he needs to create a good bond.
Well, he's been on my mind lately, and I was considering contacting the woman who has him just to see how he was doing.

Well, I didn't have to. She contacted me. Though on accident.. Here's the text I woke up to, and the conversation that followed:

(I will not use her actual name for the sake of privacy, so we will call her Sue. Everyone knows my name already so mine will remain Ashley.)

"Hey (male name here) it's Sue what will be a good time to come see eclectus. What's his name?"

"Hi Sue, this is Ashley, the girl you got Yoshi from. How's he doing?"
And this is the reply I got.






"Hey how u doin. He's coming around very slowly but I think aggressiveness is going to stay for quite sometime. I talked to breeder she said he might be better off as a breeder under his circumstances. I was checking into another male but really undecided. Sorry for texting wrong person. He's definitely a mean one lol"

I'm completely heartbroken, I feel like I failed him. I don't understand how he can be labeled as "aggressive". The only time he would ever strike was from inside his cage, once he came out he was just fine, with the exception of being nervous of fingers. I don't hold it against "sue" at all, for all I know he could have turned nasty and become an actually aggressive bird. I'm just upset with myself.

We talked for a while longer and she told me about how she was expecting a female baby ekkie in august and she was undecided on getting another male, and giving Yoshi to a breeder. We did come to the decision that I would contact her again when I had a moving date in sight, since we will be relocating to a house within the next few months, and if she still wants to re-home him or hasn't given him to a breeder yet I will be moving him into the new house with us. I also made it clear that this was completely her choice, and I entirely understand if she feels he would do well as a breeder, but I wanted her to know that I would be here if she wanted to go a different route with him.

Although I'm expecting he will be with a breeder by the time we move, at least I put that option out on the table. I know there's nothing I can do at this point, and I know I didn't spend very long with him, but I just can't see him being happy as a breeder. The last time he was around other birds his size it was loud and terrifying for him. Maybe it would be different if it were a female ekkie, like himself, but maybe I'm just over-thinking it.

Whatever may happen, I just hope that he ends up truly happy, whether it be as a breeder having beautiful babies, or as a companion in a home.

Ashley, please don't feel like you failed Yoshi. You got him out of probably about the worst he could have been it from how you describe.

Sometimes we ALL bite off more than we can chew, or make otherwise bad decisions and come to realize it later under different circumstances. Not just with birds, but with other things in life too! Just part of life.

Whatever happens with Yoshi, please don't feel like you did anything wrong.

RavensGryf said:

Ashley, please don't feel like you failed Yoshi. You got him out of probably about the worst he could have been it from how you describe.

Sometimes we ALL bite off more than we can chew, or make otherwise bad decisions and come to realize it later under different circumstances. Not just with birds, but with other things in life too! Just part of life.

Whatever happens with Yoshi, please don't feel like you did anything wrong.

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After talking it over with Brad I think we're at the decision to not take him back. I really would love to, but I'm not his caretaker anymore, it's not my decision to make. I honestly don't think he would still be there anyway by the time we moved. Brad really doesn't want him back(he doesn't like having to 'rehabilitate' him) and it most definitely isn't MY place to decide against what he wants. As much as I wish we were both bird lovers, and we had a big house and lots of land and we could give a forever home and loving care to all those parrots who don't have it, I have to pull my head out of wonderland and remember that I can't do that, nor is it my obligation.

Sorry for going on a rather emotional rant. I just really wasn't expecting to have that conversation this morning.

Awwww, that's too bad. Hopefully he'll have a better place. Some critters just need a lot more work than some people are able to give, and it's better to have him with someone who can take care of him instead of someone who can't, because both of you will be upset. Sorry to hear about that though.

Is it possible you filled the role you were meant to, getting him out of a bad situation so he can get to his next adventure? Remember you can only control the things you can and there is a lot beyond our control, those we have to learn to accept (think Serenity prayer). Sometimes in life we may have a small role but it may mean bigger things to is or others because we fulfill the small parts. Don't beat yourself up, it sounds like you did what you were meant to do which is volumes more than a lot of people would have.

That's quite unfortunate..... I would have to say they didn't know how to re-train him properly as they are one of the easier parrots to re-train in my opinion. I have worked with several and all have been rather easy. So I have to say I disagree with her and the breeder that he's better off being a breeder.

Thanks you guys. I haven't heard anything else but I think it's best it stays that way. I will remain hopeful that wherever he is, he's happy. If the breeder is at all knowledgable or respectable than even if he doesn't breed, he will be taken care of. I agree Mikey, I made great progress in the short time I had him. He just needs stability and patience. Some solid ground in his life.