Hi,
This is Suyu with the 4month old CAG with a fractured femur just a few days ago. My previous post has talked about what happened with his leg and actually, things have took a turning point just a few hours ago prior to me writing this post because things at home has reached a point it shouldn't have but it did. I am really lost right now.
Before I get to the point, I need to give you some background on my family first so that you know how things have arrived to the stage it has.
My family consists of me, a 20yr old who has just graduated this may from polytechnic in singapore, my 18yr old brother, my father and my mother. We have just moved house and everything is brand new. My mother has this obsession over having everything clean and immediately flares up when we make a mess. She is a very difficult person to communicate with and to be honest, my relationship with her is rather strained because we can't ever come to a understanding for each other.
Just this may, I took an interest in having a bigger bird for companionship. I have a lovebird and a quaker bird then and they generally are 'acceptable' in my mother's eyes because they do not make a mess. I have had a painful relationship few months back and it still bothers me and it makes me feel empty. That is why i thought maybe what i need is a bird that makes me feel not alone. And somehow it reached to a conclusion of getting an african gray.
It was hard to get my mother to accept having another bird because we already had two and with me going to university next year and work after that, she worries that there will be no one to care for the bird. I am a stubborn person that i can admit. I make up millions of excuses for myself to get what I one and its something that i have disliked about myself but its natural to me at the same time. And I convinced her that classes won't be all day, I can take care of it once I come back home and I can find a job that doesn't require me to be there all day. And she in a way, surrended, rather than accepted to having the bird.
My mother and father work at a wet market, selling vegetables and having quit secondary school to go to work, they know the importance of money. And I understand that. I just didn't expect that any of my birds would be injured to the state they need surgery...
My CAG is clingy and it hasn't been toilet trained nor used to being in a cage and I was half-way through the toilet training when the accident happened and now my family is torn apart.
Right now, it likes to be on the sofa and because the vet recommended it to be on a flat surface, I can't train it to be on the container top to poop when it needs to. So my only solution is to clean it up but my mother is picky and even just a little stain missed, she flares up. And even if i made sure to clean it nicely, she still thinks i didn't clean it properly. And my CAG is free-flighted, its wings hasn't been clipped and I didn't really like the idea of doing so because my CAG seems happy flying. But it flies to the kitchen a lot and the kitchen is open-spaced so my mother doesn't like it flying there.
I don't know how to teach it not to go there and just three hours ago before writing this message to you, my CAG, placed in its cage because my mother wants it to be in the cage so it doesn't go pooping around the house, has crawled to the top of the cage which its beak and healthy leg and because it is a top that can be closed and opened, its head was poking out and it has managed to hurt its wings.
I have took it to a vet who said that the wing should be fine as it might be a scrape when he was trying to get out of the cage and can be treated with some cream. Before going to the vet just mentioned, I have contacted the vet which deals with exotic animals and birds because he can't even stand properly on his healthy leg now and she said that it could be because he is tired standing on that leg all day. I do not know if it is just tired but I will keep him under observation until tomorrow to see if it is just that case.
Seeing my CAG limping like that breaks my heart to pieces and even thinking about makes me break down in tears. Due to my pampering of this child, it can't be left alone and my mother said that it breaks her heart to see me wake up early morning, tired to feed the CAG and not being able to return to my room for the rest of the day, having to stay by his side. And I understand that she is worried but it also breaks my heart to see the CAG I raised at 6 weeks old not as happy as it used to.
The exotic animals and bird vet advised me to place him in a small carrier or container that doesn't allow him to move but my bird placed in one, starts jumping, trying to get out the top and fearing he will hurt his leg, I left him on the tabletop of the living room. Several times he would fly to the couch to stand there and he even poops on it which makes my mother all the more unhappy. And some times he still flies to the kitchen despite his injury which is where the relationship in my family has thinned out.
And with the accident of the wing, I got so frightened because I didn't know what was wrong and I fear loosing him so much that I just broke down in tears before my whole family. And that made my mother cry and start compaining about what the CAG has done to our family. And with the vet consultations and medicine we got, it has already resulted in $1000 of bills. To go through the safer surgery would be $5000~$7000. I wanted to use the savings which is under both my name and my mother's but she doesn't want me to use it for fear that if the CAG injures himself again we would need another $5000~$7000. I really want him to go through surgery but with the cost and my mother's handle over the finance, I don't know how I can help him.
At this point, I really don't know what to do at all. I fear I do not know what I am doing and my mother refuses to let me pay for him to go for surgery and after our fight from him injuring his wing and having to go to the vet to spend $200 again has left my mother and my relationship hanging by a thin thread.
I'm lost and really heart-broken by my relationship with my mother and my CAG suffering. What should I do at this point? I'm sorry for this long message but I really don't know who else to ask... Thank you for your time and patience to read until here.
This is Suyu with the 4month old CAG with a fractured femur just a few days ago. My previous post has talked about what happened with his leg and actually, things have took a turning point just a few hours ago prior to me writing this post because things at home has reached a point it shouldn't have but it did. I am really lost right now.
Before I get to the point, I need to give you some background on my family first so that you know how things have arrived to the stage it has.
My family consists of me, a 20yr old who has just graduated this may from polytechnic in singapore, my 18yr old brother, my father and my mother. We have just moved house and everything is brand new. My mother has this obsession over having everything clean and immediately flares up when we make a mess. She is a very difficult person to communicate with and to be honest, my relationship with her is rather strained because we can't ever come to a understanding for each other.
Just this may, I took an interest in having a bigger bird for companionship. I have a lovebird and a quaker bird then and they generally are 'acceptable' in my mother's eyes because they do not make a mess. I have had a painful relationship few months back and it still bothers me and it makes me feel empty. That is why i thought maybe what i need is a bird that makes me feel not alone. And somehow it reached to a conclusion of getting an african gray.
It was hard to get my mother to accept having another bird because we already had two and with me going to university next year and work after that, she worries that there will be no one to care for the bird. I am a stubborn person that i can admit. I make up millions of excuses for myself to get what I one and its something that i have disliked about myself but its natural to me at the same time. And I convinced her that classes won't be all day, I can take care of it once I come back home and I can find a job that doesn't require me to be there all day. And she in a way, surrended, rather than accepted to having the bird.
My mother and father work at a wet market, selling vegetables and having quit secondary school to go to work, they know the importance of money. And I understand that. I just didn't expect that any of my birds would be injured to the state they need surgery...
My CAG is clingy and it hasn't been toilet trained nor used to being in a cage and I was half-way through the toilet training when the accident happened and now my family is torn apart.
Right now, it likes to be on the sofa and because the vet recommended it to be on a flat surface, I can't train it to be on the container top to poop when it needs to. So my only solution is to clean it up but my mother is picky and even just a little stain missed, she flares up. And even if i made sure to clean it nicely, she still thinks i didn't clean it properly. And my CAG is free-flighted, its wings hasn't been clipped and I didn't really like the idea of doing so because my CAG seems happy flying. But it flies to the kitchen a lot and the kitchen is open-spaced so my mother doesn't like it flying there.
I don't know how to teach it not to go there and just three hours ago before writing this message to you, my CAG, placed in its cage because my mother wants it to be in the cage so it doesn't go pooping around the house, has crawled to the top of the cage which its beak and healthy leg and because it is a top that can be closed and opened, its head was poking out and it has managed to hurt its wings.
I have took it to a vet who said that the wing should be fine as it might be a scrape when he was trying to get out of the cage and can be treated with some cream. Before going to the vet just mentioned, I have contacted the vet which deals with exotic animals and birds because he can't even stand properly on his healthy leg now and she said that it could be because he is tired standing on that leg all day. I do not know if it is just tired but I will keep him under observation until tomorrow to see if it is just that case.
Seeing my CAG limping like that breaks my heart to pieces and even thinking about makes me break down in tears. Due to my pampering of this child, it can't be left alone and my mother said that it breaks her heart to see me wake up early morning, tired to feed the CAG and not being able to return to my room for the rest of the day, having to stay by his side. And I understand that she is worried but it also breaks my heart to see the CAG I raised at 6 weeks old not as happy as it used to.
The exotic animals and bird vet advised me to place him in a small carrier or container that doesn't allow him to move but my bird placed in one, starts jumping, trying to get out the top and fearing he will hurt his leg, I left him on the tabletop of the living room. Several times he would fly to the couch to stand there and he even poops on it which makes my mother all the more unhappy. And some times he still flies to the kitchen despite his injury which is where the relationship in my family has thinned out.
And with the accident of the wing, I got so frightened because I didn't know what was wrong and I fear loosing him so much that I just broke down in tears before my whole family. And that made my mother cry and start compaining about what the CAG has done to our family. And with the vet consultations and medicine we got, it has already resulted in $1000 of bills. To go through the safer surgery would be $5000~$7000. I wanted to use the savings which is under both my name and my mother's but she doesn't want me to use it for fear that if the CAG injures himself again we would need another $5000~$7000. I really want him to go through surgery but with the cost and my mother's handle over the finance, I don't know how I can help him.
At this point, I really don't know what to do at all. I fear I do not know what I am doing and my mother refuses to let me pay for him to go for surgery and after our fight from him injuring his wing and having to go to the vet to spend $200 again has left my mother and my relationship hanging by a thin thread.
I'm lost and really heart-broken by my relationship with my mother and my CAG suffering. What should I do at this point? I'm sorry for this long message but I really don't know who else to ask... Thank you for your time and patience to read until here.