So I adopted my mother's blue and gold macaw Jacob on April 28th. He has been amazing, and he always loved me the most, I am his favorite person. He used to hate my husband but is now getting better with him. We used to have a routine where my husband gave most of the treats and only I did the discipline.
Well, recently Jacob has changed. He is more used to my husband and seems to not care for me as much (I'm the main care taker, my husband still can't pick him up). Jacob used to always want to be on me whenever I'd watch a show. Recently, especially since having to discipline him a lot for climbing down to the floor (I use a spray bottle to make him go back up), I feel like I'm losing his trust and love. Since Jacob no longer hates my husband I let him do some discipline and I now give him at least half his treats.
I am scared I'm going to lose my baby just like it happened to my mom. She was his main care taker when she had him for 15 years. Over time Jacob liked her less and less and she could barley handle him at all by the end. I'm so worried that this will happen to me too.
He rarely listens anymore and doesn't step up when I tell him to anymore (he used to step up every time I offered before). My best strategy to pick him up when he doesn't want to is to either have my husband stand next to me so he gets jealous enough to want to be on me or I talk to my snake which is in a tank next to Jacob's cage (no worries he can't come out and gets up usually when Jacob goes to bed upstairs). I don't like having to make him jealous of something just to get him on me.
I don't mind if he just wants to be on me less and would rather play with his toys but I'm just scared I will lose his love and trust like he did to my mother.
Is this likely what is happening or am I overly worried? If I am losing him then what can I do to prevent it? I love my Jacob so much and taking care of him would be so hard if he wants nothing to do with me and doesn't listen.
Well, recently Jacob has changed. He is more used to my husband and seems to not care for me as much (I'm the main care taker, my husband still can't pick him up). Jacob used to always want to be on me whenever I'd watch a show. Recently, especially since having to discipline him a lot for climbing down to the floor (I use a spray bottle to make him go back up), I feel like I'm losing his trust and love. Since Jacob no longer hates my husband I let him do some discipline and I now give him at least half his treats.
I am scared I'm going to lose my baby just like it happened to my mom. She was his main care taker when she had him for 15 years. Over time Jacob liked her less and less and she could barley handle him at all by the end. I'm so worried that this will happen to me too.
He rarely listens anymore and doesn't step up when I tell him to anymore (he used to step up every time I offered before). My best strategy to pick him up when he doesn't want to is to either have my husband stand next to me so he gets jealous enough to want to be on me or I talk to my snake which is in a tank next to Jacob's cage (no worries he can't come out and gets up usually when Jacob goes to bed upstairs). I don't like having to make him jealous of something just to get him on me.
I don't mind if he just wants to be on me less and would rather play with his toys but I'm just scared I will lose his love and trust like he did to my mother.
Is this likely what is happening or am I overly worried? If I am losing him then what can I do to prevent it? I love my Jacob so much and taking care of him would be so hard if he wants nothing to do with me and doesn't listen.