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Mayden 05-31-2013 06:10 PM

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Originally Posted by ruffledfeathers (Post 269558)
i think that is why i have learned to overuse smileys in written correspondence. sometimes it IS hard to tell exactly how something was intended.

and there are also so many different opinions on things---cover or not cover, clip or not clip--and they vary from person to person, situation to situation. there is no absolute right or wrong, so no point arguing or offending someone who feels differently for their own reasons.

I disagree with clipping in most cases, but I try and put both sides of the coin across to help owners make more informed decisions about things. I'd rather the person had both pros and cons for each and then we can help tailor their decision for their own fids. I think it's a nice system to have together. Work it all out, then tailor it for a great fit! (That applies to everything by the way, not just clippings :))

But thanks again; nice to know my messages arn't going unnoticed. :) Like I said before, not a criticism of the forum, just a friendly reminder. :cool:

henpecked 05-31-2013 07:00 PM

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Thank you mayden, I joined to help out a few birdies. That's my only motive. I'm thankful there's a forum like this that people can turn to for help with their bird. I've noticed you try and help and aren't judgmental , hope i can do the same. Thanks again for keeping the bird's best interest at heart. Something we all should strive for.

Birdlover11 05-31-2013 10:03 PM

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Thank you SO much for this ! This is a great forum and all, but your right, these things do happen. It's always great to hear from the other end, than the accusing.

mtdoramike 06-01-2013 01:54 PM

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Originally Posted by JerseyWendy (Post 269652)
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Originally Posted by Kalidasa (Post 269508)
:confused::mad::eek::(:(^^its done exactly that for me. (Scare off) bye

Kalidasa, I now understand. I'm sorry!!! Please don't leave!!!

I thought you cracked a funny at me, I really did. :(

It seems someone took something the wrong way:confused:

critterman 06-01-2013 03:03 PM

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Well put Mayden. I also was attacked here on this forum by a couple of people when I had to rehome my 2 greys for serious health issues. I had them for 10 years and they were sisters. It broke my heart to give them away but I had no choice. I had just had my second heart attack and needed emergency bypass and open heart surgery. I had one week to rehome them before going into the hospital for surgery. I had no one who would be willing to care for them while I was in the hospital and rehab. I tried my best to keep them to no avail. Rehome was the only alternative for me. I did it and knew they would be better off than being alone in my home for the 3 months I was in the hospital for surgery and rehab with someone only coming in once a day or so to feed them and change their cages and clean them. I was attacked by a few here who mad me feel like a bad person and a bad bird owner. Not true. I did leave this forum for awhile but recently came back. I must be honest though I am reluctant to tell too much here as I am still worried that others will again condemn me especially since when I get better I got another smaller easier to care for parrot. I don't think anyone has the right to attack or belittle or beat another person down for any reason. I hope this will stop in this forum and remember we are here to offer help not condemnation to others. Again Mayden thanks........it was a well needed topic that should be discussed. Thanks to you for having the courage to do so.

Mayden 06-01-2013 06:34 PM

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Originally Posted by critterman (Post 269976)
Well put Mayden. I also was attacked here on this forum by a couple of people when I had to rehome my 2 greys for serious health issues. I had them for 10 years and they were sisters. It broke my heart to give them away but I had no choice. I had just had my second heart attack and needed emergency bypass and open heart surgery. I had one week to rehome them before going into the hospital for surgery. I had no one who would be willing to care for them while I was in the hospital and rehab. I tried my best to keep them to no avail. Rehome was the only alternative for me. I did it and knew they would be better off than being alone in my home for the 3 months I was in the hospital for surgery and rehab with someone only coming in once a day or so to feed them and change their cages and clean them. I was attacked by a few here who mad me feel like a bad person and a bad bird owner. Not true. I did leave this forum for awhile but recently came back. I must be honest though I am reluctant to tell too much here as I am still worried that others will again condemn me especially since when I get better I got another smaller easier to care for parrot. I don't think anyone has the right to attack or belittle or beat another person down for any reason. I hope this will stop in this forum and remember we are here to offer help not condemnation to others. Again Mayden thanks........it was a well needed topic that should be discussed. Thanks to you for having the courage to do so.

You're welcome. Didn't another forum member take your two greys or am I confusing two other sister greys? (one was slightly plucked?... the name Grace springs to mind?)

I'm glad you're back and hopefully things will go a little smoother this time. What's happened has happened and hopefully you're in a better position to care for you new guy now. I hope that what happened didn't cause you too much stress, the horror of that whilst suffering with a heart condition is just dreadful. (I hope that is all better too now!) It's generally a case of "damned if I do, damned if I don't" as people would probably have condemned you for trying to keep the fids with them getting minimal attention for months etc, suggesting rehoming them, which could have caused a lot of upset for you and your fids too (as did rehoming I imagine!). I think each comment should be taken with a pinch of salt and focus on the positive ones - and hopefully each ends up being a positive one anyway! ;)

chippy 06-01-2013 08:04 PM

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I agree... I think if people are coming and asking, then they are trying to learn and do the best for their birds.

kanundra 06-02-2013 10:14 AM

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I remember joining my first Koi Forum in 2008 being a new owner and wanting to do what was best for my fish. Boy, I soon learned... the guy was literally shouting at me through text. Which was kinda scary, however he did pm me the next morning and apologize. We actually became pretty close friends, (although he's since passed away) and I'm very grateful for the time and help he gave me.

But, I totally understand what you're saying. It's very easy to 'see' only pictures and get 'some' of the info and judge people. As care givers. Be it to Koi or a Fid (as I'm just learning) we all need to strive to help the person and not judge the circumstances. Because you don't always get that full picture, It takes too long to type up, when someone is in full blown panic mode thinking their pet is going to die!

I help moderate one of the best Koi Forums now, and I've learned all that I can about my fish to keep them in tip top shape. I would like to think I'll eventually learn everything there is about my Bobby, and our soon to be rescue Sparky :) But it takes time. And we all need a little helping hand now and then.

:) Thank you to everyone here. I look forward to spending many years chatting to you about our pets.

ConureCrazy 06-02-2013 11:32 AM

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Thank you for the explaining. :) This forum is to teach new and/or questioning owners, and to learn ourselves. I'll admit, when I look back at the first month owning Bella and Zora without this forum, I want to cringe. They were taken care of, of course, proper diet, housing, out time, you know, but my understanding of their limits, body language, and behavior, was completely wrong. Without all of you guys I wouldn't have known what to do. :) Thanks.

WannaBeAParrot 06-02-2013 01:39 PM

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Excellent Mayden.
Sometimes some of the posts ignite that protective parenting instinct which can make a person react and then assess the manner of reaction later.

The best thing is stay focused on the fid. It's all about the fid and how we can help. There's nothing wrong with trying to help a person set on bringing home a bird see that maybe they are not ready to be a parront, but humbly, gently and in a coaching way so that maybe they'll stick with the forum and learn before they bring that birdie home.


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