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azdesertrhino 06-02-2013 07:10 PM

Re: Attitudes and responses to other members.
 
Excellent thread.

Even though the entire focus is on the care and protection of the FID, what is meant as advice can be easily construed as criticism.

I find this in e-mails a lot. As someone mentioned previously, some of the most important parts of conversation are missing on forums or e-mails.

Facial expression, body language, speech inflection are all missing in written text.

Thanks for posting this although I'VE never over reacted myself, for sure!!:rolleyes::54::54::54::54::54::54:

Mayden 06-06-2013 12:47 PM

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Thought I'd just update my opening piece with a picture of 'Mister' in his cage. It's one of the very few pictures I've got of him and I have it as a little reminder that I did something awesome for a very special, beautiful birdy. :)

As I mentioned in the edit, that pic was taken before we showered him with more toys and swapped out his dowel perch for perches that are 'natural' with stripaway bark to keep his feet in better shape and a little less bored with the beak! This was within his first hour home with me. :)

HusseinBerjaoui 07-03-2013 03:05 PM

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That's exactly why I'm not posting any picture of my bird in his cage.
But to be franc, I love the people in these forums. They care about our fids more than we do.. Especially you, Mayden!
But I don't understand some people. There is no reason to use the arrogance while responsing to others. I mean, think of how happy you turn both the owner AND the bird when you give positive advices that lead to the development of the relationship between them.

Terry57 05-14-2018 02:23 PM

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I think this is an excellent thread to bump. It takes courage for people to come here to post asking for help, and rather than judgement, they need help with their bird. The birds should be the most important thing, and if someone is attacked they may not come back to read the responses of people who are truly trying to help.
Reading things is so much different than when we can hear a person's voice, and it only helps everyone if we keep that in mind when we type. Also, using all caps is considered in most online circles to be yelling, rather than emphasis, so I think we all should keep that in mind when responding as well.
I know we all just want to help people with their birds, and receive help for our own.

Squeekmouse 05-14-2018 03:21 PM

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I TOTALLY AGREE! THANKS FOR BUMPING THIS!

Sorry... I couldn't resist... :D

Seriously though, I'm glad you did bump this. Text communications always come with potential for misunderstanding and everyone here has strong feelings about some topics, especially about our Fids. But even if someone is making a terrible mistake regarding the care of their bird, the simple fact that they posted on these forums shows their intentions are good and they have a desire to learn and share.

Every person deserves to be treated with the benefit of the doubt, and everyone should strive to treat others as they would wish to be treated.

...and everyone here has made their share of mistakes, right? :)

Terry57 05-14-2018 03:43 PM

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Quote:

Originally Posted by Squeekmouse (Post 727274)
I TOTALLY AGREE! THANKS FOR BUMPING THIS!

Sorry... I couldn't resist... :D

Seriously though, I'm glad you did bump this. Text communications always come with potential for misunderstanding and everyone here has strong feelings about some topics, especially about our Fids. But even if someone is making a terrible mistake regarding the care of their bird, the simple fact that they posted on these forums shows their intentions are good and they have a desire to learn and share.

Every person deserves to be treated with the benefit of the doubt, and everyone should strive to treat others as they would wish to be treated.

...and everyone here has made their share of mistakes, right? :)

I love your post, and the top part cracked me up..lol.

caiquewalk 05-14-2018 06:08 PM

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Wow, this is insanely well said! I am amazed that i only just came across this. Thankyou Terry for bumping it. Also thanks to the OP for this thread if they’re still around. You know sometimes i catch myself treating or judging others badly, then i always regret it after. The best book I have ever read of communication - Dale Carnegie: How to win friends and influence people, is a testament to how much i have improved and would recommend it to anyone.

“Even God doesn’t propose to judge a man till his last days, why should You and I?” - Carnegie

GaleriaGila 05-14-2018 06:29 PM

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Terry, you're the best. I had not seen this thread before, and I'm glad to have read it.
In my experience, this is the absolute friendliest and most constructive parrot/bird Forum, but we aren't perfect, and I appreciate the reminder and call to action.
The guiding light and truest rudder... it's about the birds.
It can be challenging to balance honesty with gentleness, but if our work here helps one little caged darling... somehow, somewhere, someplace... have a better life, then I'm grateful to have participated.

Scott 05-15-2018 12:18 AM

Re: Attitudes and responses to other members.
 
What a treasure, Terry! Thanks for bumping so a new generation can read the wisdom.

reeb 06-28-2018 08:50 AM

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I've noticed a bit of hostility recently in some threads... Hopefully people will still feel welcomed and encouraged. I only just saw this, and I hope all members will give this a read at some point.


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