what to do ??

You are almost there! Your conure does not have a total fear of hands, possibly just a situational aversion to handling. Parrots carry a lot of baggage from prior homes, if you can learn more about his handling you may find gaining trust easier. I've posted a few training links you may find helpful. Please let us know how things progress!

http://www.parrotforums.com/training/60435-clicker-target-training.html

http://www.parrotforums.com/general-parrot-information/49144-tips-bonding-building-trust.html

http://www.parrotforums.com/general-parrot-information/3100-bond-forming.html

Great links, Scott!

Cocococo, if you read through those links you'll find some great advice about building a relationship with the new member of your household. Just remember that developing trust with a bird can take some time. Patience, consistency, and lots of bribery are the keys, here.

What's your conure girl's name? And do you have any pics?

Welcome! Hang in there, you will win her over!

If she will take treats from your fingers, you just need to put your hand/other finger in between the treat and the bird,so she needs to stand on your hand/finger to get the treat.
If she is really skittish, make her lean over the hand at first, and gradually move the treat further and further from her. Patience and consistency is KEY in getting parrots to do anything. Say the same phrase when you want her to step up. always use the same hand. Once she gets it there is time enough to change hands, and remove the treat from the equation. The Step up command is one of the basic skills all companion birds have to learn, and learn that there is no choice in this one.

If she doesn't know this command, getting her off your shoulder must be a real fight, my opinion - shoulder privileges are for birdies who have learned that Step Up means just that, so you are not trying to retrieve a bird from the middle of your back!

Hi there, not much help from myself unfortunately but from being in your positions i understand it can be stressful/worrying to want your conure (ringneck in my case) to trust you and do as you wish.

I had my ringneck when she was 10 weeks old, I have had her just under 5 weeks.. she wouldn't come near me or let me get near her now im in a position where she will come to me 'sometimes' but with a little persuasion from a treat, she will fly to her perch, to the training stick and back into her cage for me.

Instead of trying too hard, which was my problem for the first week and before coming across this website.... let her come to the training stick, just keep it in the same place try not to move it - she will eventually understand its not going to cause her any harm and get closer and closer to it, same with your hand... don't pressure her or try too much at once, with my ringneck if i try to much its like taking one step forward two steps back.

She will warm to you in her own time im sure of it!