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Caity

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Hi I am a happy owner of a blue crowned conure, Paullie :green: who is around 11 years old. I have had him since he was a baby. He has recently gone through a bit of trauma from my moms passing although it had always take more of a liking to me , I can see he really misses her.

I am worried because I am now moving to a place that is not pet friendly for a couple of years and I might have to leave Paullie with someone I trust to look after him. I can only visit him occasionally and I am worried he will feel neglected by me and start to turn on me. He is very attached to me and doesn't take a liking to many other people or other birds. I also don't want it to be too stressed out with everything and feel neglected. Do you think he will enjoy my visits or feel more neglected by me every time I have to leave him. :02: .
 

plumsmum2005

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Hi, what sort of relationship does Paullie have with 'the someone you trust'? Does he see anything of that person now. If no then start some sessions of getting to know you, if you are positive and react favourably toward them then hope Paullie will too? BTW some places say they are not pet friendly but mean dog/cat, have you checked about a bird?

It may help on those visits if you can take him out for a while, in a harness or back pak, if he has the grumps it may smooth him over?

So very sorry for your loss of your Mom.
 
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Caity

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Paullie has no relationship with this person but I know they take good care of their birds , and unfortunately I have spoken to the person in charge of the building and they said no they don't want any birds at all. I just don't want Paullie to hate me for having to leave him with a stranger ... I will definitely take it out and give it play time when I visit him. Thank you for your condolences though. And I also just want to know what I can do to lessen its stress of you have any ideas please let me know.
 

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Paullie has no relationship with this person but I know they take good care of their birds , and unfortunately I have spoken to the person in charge of the building and they said no they don't want any birds at all. I just don't want Paullie to hate me for having to leave him with a stranger ... I will definitely take it out and give it play time when I visit him. Thank you for your condolences though. And I also just want to know what I can do to lessen its stress of you have any ideas please let me know.

Work on this whilst you are still around. Just being left with someone strange will cause stress, someone they have met and know even a little will help. If Paullie will accept them then it will make it easier all round.

Be sure this person has the authority to say this and is not just a miserable booger and a jobs worth. There is plenty of them out there believe me!
 
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Welcome to the forums, thanks for joining. My deepest condolences for the loss of your mother.

I applaud your concern for lessening Paulie's further losses. I too advocate for reasoning with the apartment manager. They may have preconceived notions against parrots. Is Paulie noisy? Are there alternative dwellings you may consider?

In the worst case scenario, Paulie's well being is the utmost of concern. If the person mentioned truly takes good care of their birds, this might be the best option. I hope a better compromise keeping Paulie with you can be reached.
 
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Caity

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Thank you both for your advice , I am definitely looking for another place to stay that will allow me to keep him. He does have a bit of a behavior issue although he has been much better lately but that may be a concern regarding having him somewhere that doesn't allow pets.
 

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Hi caity. Definitely looking for another place is a good way to go about things. I would say that the best way to go about it is not to lead into conversation with "I have a bird" as it can put people off. A good bet would be to find places, naturally look for pet friendly ones but don't rule out ones that aren't. I found with my apartment that my landlord said no pets because they don't want cats and dogs around but are okay with pretty much any other animal being kept. Another to do is use people's ignorance against them. When I asked about a bird the estate agent said "oh budgies yeah most people will have something small like that or hamsters, no issue" which allowed me to get a conure in with a nice big cage in the corner.

After the landlord naturally neighbours are the biggest worry but let's just say it's hard to complain about someone when your mouth is filled with cake ;)

Good luck on finding a home with Paullie
 

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Hi caity. Definitely looking for another place is a good way to go about things. I would say that the best way to go about it is not to lead into conversation with "I have a bird" as it can put people off. A good bet would be to find places, naturally look for pet friendly ones but don't rule out ones that aren't. I found with my apartment that my landlord said no pets because they don't want cats and dogs around but are okay with pretty much any other animal being kept. Another to do is use people's ignorance against them. When I asked about a bird the estate agent said "oh budgies yeah most people will have something small like that or hamsters, no issue" which allowed me to get a conure in with a nice big cage in the corner.

After the landlord naturally neighbours are the biggest worry but let's just say it's hard to complain about someone when your mouth is filled with cake ;)

Good luck on finding a home with Paullie

Loved this line, do you stuff their mouth full of cake before they even have chance to complain. :D

Must remember to always answer the door holding cake, just in case! May work with double glazing salesmen? :)
 
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It may help to use the descriptor "small". As in, I have a small bird, is that okay? They will think canary or budgie. A conure isn't huge. It's not a lie. :)
 

LordTriggs

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Hi caity. Definitely looking for another place is a good way to go about things. I would say that the best way to go about it is not to lead into conversation with "I have a bird" as it can put people off. A good bet would be to find places, naturally look for pet friendly ones but don't rule out ones that aren't. I found with my apartment that my landlord said no pets because they don't want cats and dogs around but are okay with pretty much any other animal being kept. Another to do is use people's ignorance against them. When I asked about a bird the estate agent said "oh budgies yeah most people will have something small like that or hamsters, no issue" which allowed me to get a conure in with a nice big cage in the corner.

After the landlord naturally neighbours are the biggest worry but let's just say it's hard to complain about someone when your mouth is filled with cake ;)

Good luck on finding a home with Paullie

Loved this line, do you stuff their mouth full of cake before they even have chance to complain. :D

Must remember to always answer the door holding cake, just in case! May work with double glazing salesmen? :)

not far off! Essentially when I first moved in I made a point of saying hello to all the neighbours on my floor. Then when I put a reserve down on Rio I spoke to them all saying if there's an issue to come chat to me so I know it bothers them and I can work on fixing it. Each time armed with cupcakes! They were all very friendly about it and one even asked to come meet him. I would often get asked how he was doing. It's amazing how far a little kindness can go
 

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Hi I am a happy owner of a blue crowned conure, Paullie :green: who is around 11 years old. I have had him since he was a baby. He has recently gone through a bit of trauma from my moms passing although it had always take more of a liking to me , I can see he really misses her.

I am worried because I am now moving to a place that is not pet friendly for a couple of years and I might have to leave Paullie with someone I trust to look after him. I can only visit him occasionally and I am worried he will feel neglected by me and start to turn on me. He is very attached to me and doesn't take a liking to many other people or other birds. I also don't want it to be too stressed out with everything and feel neglected. Do you think he will enjoy my visits or feel more neglected by me every time I have to leave him. :02: .

Hi Paullie, first of all, I am so sorry for everything that has been going on. I hope with time things sort itself out :). In the meanwhile, it may be very helpful for you to hang out with your bird and your foster parent together, and have an introduction as well as some play sessions just so your bird becomes familiar with the foster parent and learns that he/she is safe. I did this with both my pet sitters and they were fine. As for your bird feeling neglected and becoming harsh towards you after your return. yes, this can happen - it has happened to my husband and his Meyer's parrot and now we are trying to work through our issues and return things to normal. I think he was too young to understand skype (we skyped our parrots everyday) and resented him for being away since he was the one our parrot bonded to first in his life. With time it has gotten better though, it is almost as if he is starting out fresh with our fid. So have hope, it will all be okay :)
 

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