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Old 03-15-2017, 06:26 PM
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Ok so here is some news.

1, for the last time, try living in my shoes for a day. Find out how hard it is being me. My birds did see a vet over the weekend, and my parents helped pay for it.

2, I was talking with some of my friends. I have found homes for Jordan and the budgies. The budgies are leaving this weekend, and Jordan is leaving next Wednesday.

I'm crying because I have get rid of my birds that I have closely bonded with. The birds I have put my heart and soul into caring for.
You just don't understand!
You say I'm the one that doesn't understand, I understand very well what my situation is and you don't! I posted this hoping for people to forgive the past. Instead it has resulted in my babies leaving me.

I have emotional problems, I take these things very harshly. Imagine if you lost your bird, imagine that pain doubled. That's how I feel about this. I should keep quiet for awhile, I will never be forgiven for this, not by you, not by myself.
I hate my life.

I asked for forgiveness, but people just bring back the reason I'm asking. This was a bad idea. All of my ideas are bad. Also, what will stop them from going into the basement, this wonderful thing called a lock. You should try it sometime. And before anyone says anything, I SHARE A ROOM! But once I'm downstairs I'll have my own room, with a lock.

And as for that last post, my parents did handle the problem. My parents don't help care for them, but they do help when I ask. It's not their fault, it is my fault. And you know what, I will admit to that. It's about time I start facing things.

Now, a little something else. You probably won't believe me when I say this (you don't believe me half the time anyway) but when I'm stressed at the end of each day, I just let my birds out and play around with them. Just cuddling with Elvis makes my stress go away, watching the budgies play together, playing ball with Jordan, it all just helps my stress. Good way to bond and give them exercise as well.

Wait, why have I caved in to this forum? I should rehome, I put a lot of time and love into these animal companions. They taught me patience, how to care for other living things, how to love other living things. They give me my greatest responsibilities, and I'm glad to have those responsibilities. I will be fostering out those 3 instead of rehoming. Just until I get my own place. Still gives me the responsibility of paying for them right? I can visit them, and still have play time with them without it being awkward.

Others opinions don't really matter. Just do what is right. And to me, Fostering then out until I get my own place is right. That means I'll have them again someday.


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Old 03-15-2017, 07:13 PM
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Re: My perspective on my birds lives

I think you're doing the right thing. Listen, it's not for us to worry about YOU. We worry about the safety and wellbeing of the BIRDS. Helping you is helping the birds.

Here's the thing: nobody here disputes you're doing the best you can with your situation. Not for one second. Your heart is obviously in the right place. The problem is that your situation wasn't ideal to begin with; it wasn't good enough. We tried to warn you, and you didn't listen. Animals got hurt as a result, so we start some combination of screaming to get the birds out of a dangerous situation, and throwing our hands up in disgust.

Seriously, if you truly were ready for parrot ownership, your parents opinion on rehoming wouldn't matter. They are YOUR birds, has nothing to do with them. It's harsh, but I really want to say "grow a pair and take responsibility for things you call your own".

I personally believe you may be ready later. But the truth is you are too dependent on others to have something dependent on you right now. Give it ten years and you'll be fully ready. AFTER college, after you have completely moved out. When you are fully independent AND stable with your housing, that will be when you should be ready.

I thank you for doing the brave thing, the right thing in the best interest of the birds, and you are to be applauded. It's not an easy decision to make, and many here can attest to the gut wrenching decision to regime a bird. We do understand what you are going through and it may not seem like it, we do sympathize.

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Old 03-15-2017, 09:08 PM
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Re: My perspective on my birds lives

ParrotLover2001 Honestly, I'm sorry for the loss you're undertaking but in doing this you're giving you're birds a chance of a home with more attention (and I assume you must know the people you're giving them too, so you must trust them?). This will give you more time to dedicate to the other pets or hobbies you have.

I know it's hard, I had to give up my rats at 14, my mum admitted to having developing an allergy to our pet rats, an allergy she'd tried hiding for months until it nearly put her in hospital. She knew me and my brother loved our rats and she did too, we'd had various rats for years too. They went to a good home, but that doesn't stop it from hurting.
What I'm saying is that sometimes we're in parts of our lives that aren't good for what we want. It'll be easier to see when you move out (no siblings and you'll earn your own money). You'll see a lot of this differently in few years.

Also I wanted to point out that we only know about you through the posts you've written here. You're right, we don't know you but we see the way you talk about you, your birds, your siblings on these posts. You'll understand what I mean in a few years or more but you wont for now.

As for the past, first bitten twice shy. We learn from past mistakes, as should you.

Lastly, I'm almost 100% sure most people on this forum understand the loss of a friend, bonded bird or otherwise. As for rehoming, there are a lot of people on here that foster birds, that breed, that rescue, that all understand having to rehome a bird, or turn away one's in need. Do Not assume the world is so small that you are the only one to know these feelings. You are 15? You will learn to handle it yourself and not spend time belittling the feelings and sentiments of people you don't know on the internet.

I wish you the best of luck in your future. Nothing wrong with planning ahead.
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Old 03-15-2017, 11:45 PM
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Re: My perspective on my birds lives

I don't want to be cruel, I want to express something to you. The problem is not your age, it is not your parents, etc. it is you.
Not everyone matures at the same rate. You need more time before you are capable emotionally and physically to care for complex creatures like these- and to not constantly have them in danger.
I was 16 when I got my juliet, and I have always cared for her myself- and sacrificed a lot of the last 3-4 years of being a "teenager" for her, because I love her. I'm not saying you need to be me, but for any birds, you are just not in the right place mentally. I understand. Trust me I 100% understand what it's like to have unsupportive parents, be young, be sad and busy and scared! I know all of these things. But what I want you to understand is that you just have a general unwillingness to take true responsibility and put these birds first- and my fear is that this will continue on when you "re adopt" them later... which is... really bad for them emotionally as well.


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Old 03-16-2017, 06:52 AM
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Re: My perspective on my birds lives

Quote: Originally Posted by Oli View Post
I don't want to be cruel, I want to express something to you. The problem is not your age, it is not your parents, etc. it is you.
Not everyone matures at the same rate. You need more time before you are capable emotionally and physically to care for complex creatures like these- and to not constantly have them in danger.
I was 16 when I got my juliet, and I have always cared for her myself- and sacrificed a lot of the last 3-4 years of being a "teenager" for her, because I love her. I'm not saying you need to be me, but for any birds, you are just not in the right place mentally. I understand. Trust me I 100% understand what it's like to have unsupportive parents, be young, be sad and busy and scared! I know all of these things. But what I want you to understand is that you just have a general unwillingness to take true responsibility and put these birds first- and my fear is that this will continue on when you "re adopt" them later... which is... really bad for them emotionally as well.


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But my parents do help, when I ask. I asked to be fully responsible for these birds, and I was fully responsible for them for almost 5 years now. I've always put them first, and I still do. They never use to be in any danger in my house, but now they are.

Also, I turned 16 in February.
I've had birds since I was 11 and I cared for them, I put them first, they were never in any danger. Then we got a cat (December 2016), and things went downhill from there.

Also, there has been a change of plans regarding my birds. So my friend isn't coming to get them this weekend, I don't know how long it will be, but something is going around in her flock and she doesn't want to risk my budgies getting sick. Neither do I.
Jordan is still leaving Wednesday.


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Old 03-16-2017, 08:02 AM
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Re: My perspective on my birds lives

I hope things turn well for you, I really think you are a good person! Emotional? Yes! Develop the ability to see yourself from the outside in. I have been publicly whipped for defending you in one unfortunate thread, so I believe this to be true- From what I have seen in almost all but one post(not this thread) the replies are not attacks! They mean well, for the birds! And, they are taking your words at face value!
As a home schooler, you are doing a fantastic job, evident in your writing skills! Many of us hope your threads are more drama, emotional overload, and effect of 'HomeSchool Syndrome'! I just made up that HSS!
If your siblings are males, this makes it even tougher, you guys are from different worlds!
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Re: My perspective on my birds lives

This is all very dramatic. Kinda crazy really


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Quote: Originally Posted by Scoza View Post
This is all very dramatic. Kinda crazy really


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I know.


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Re: My perspective on my birds lives

And you haven't asked anyone's opinions about this on the other forum? AA?
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Old 03-16-2017, 09:27 AM
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And you haven't asked anyone's opinions about this on the other forum? AA?


Because I didn't want to. I'll tell in my own time, ok?


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