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Old 06-20-2019, 02:02 PM
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Should I rehome my parrot?

Okay, before I start this I need to say, please try to be civil, please no comments telling me off, suck it up, etc. (This community seems very nice and, logically, I know I havenít seen anyone do that, but I am a very anxious person), This is hard enough for me already.

So. I got my Amazon parrot years ago, and since then he has caused so much hell in my life. He has his sweet moments, but honestly the pain he has caused, both physical and mental, has overpowered that. I have tried training, treats, heck, someone told me to out him im a time out and I unfortunately tried that.

I was told he was going to be very sweet and gentle, and he was for a week. And then he started tearing up my hand, neck, face, he even goes for my eyes! He has attacked me, my mother (who is getting up there in age and has very thin skin and blood, meaning it takes just a scratch for her to bleed like crazy), and My other animals, including my little birds. He has made my conure bleed before, and Iím afraid he will do worse when he gets the chance; especially to my smaller birds, who wonít stand a chance against him.

I have no time for myself or the other birds because Iím constantly an anxious mess, and Iíve had several nervous breakdowns because he causes me so much stress and anxiety. Iíve thought about this for a LONG time, and all of the pros overpower the one con: that I might miss him. I just still donít know what to do. Iíve tried everything there is, research, multiple methods of training, Iíve even bribed him with treats just to make him leave me alone (I know, thatís not the thing to do but I was desperate).

I already know someone who has experience with aggressive parrots who will take him, but I just canít make myself do it for some reason. I honestly donít know what to do, even though all the signs point to giving him to a good home.

Thank you.
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Old 06-20-2019, 03:30 PM
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Re: Should I rehome my parrot?

Welcome, and thank you for being so honest in your post. Ultimately, you are the only one that can make the decision to rehome him, but I’ll share just a few random thoughts that popped into my head when I read your post. It sounds like you’ve tried many ways to build a relationship with him, and they are not working in this case. Rehoming isn’t always a bad thing. Sometimes a relationship doesn’t work well. I guess the things I would ponder are - what are the positives and negatives (for him and for you) of him staying in your home, what are the positives and negatives (for both) if you find another home for him. You have the ability to be very picky and take your time, let him pick someone that he might enjoy being with. I’m not advocating for, or against rehoming - but I hope that you’ll find a solution that makes you both happier. It does sound like the situation, as it is, is not working well for either of you. Hugs, and I wish you luck with what can be a very difficult decision to work through.
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Old 06-20-2019, 03:54 PM
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Re: Should I rehome my parrot?

Honestly, I’m surprised to hear your having these kinds of issues with a white fronted amazon. Generally the little guys are really sweet dispositioned and well behaved. What you describe are typically issues reserved for the “hot 3” during puberty and the mating season as adults. Did this bird come from an abusive or unknown background? Is he of the age where he would be going through puberty? In any case, if you have other birds who are well trained and do not cause these kinds of issues, most likely this isn’t your fault (as in something your doing or not doing) and is more likely an issue with this bird as an individual. These aren’t even issue typically associated with this species of amazon, but there are always difficult individuals out there and it sounds like you might have stumbled across one.

While I usually advocate to try and get to the root of what is driving the bad behavior, if you choose to rehome, I strongly urge you to please surrender him to a reputable avian shelter rather than attempt to privately rehome him. The reason being, with those kinds of behavioral issues, experienced volunteers/workers at an avian shelter will have a better chance of placing him in a permanent home that can handle and correct that kind of behavior than you would just listing him on Craigslist or something. They have screening processes in place and often just know of individuals who like to help/take on behaviorally challenged birds and have the experience to do so. There is little an individual can do to really screen potential homes for large parrot experience and experience working with parrots who are coming with known behavioral issues. I don’t mean any of that as an insult to you, it’s just the best path for him to find the right home to surrender rather than sell. We adopted our amazon through a rescue knowing he had behavioral issues and were prepared/able to deal with them. Not everyone would have been equipped to deal with a bird like him when he came to us. I’m sure you want what’s best for him, so allow the experts help find them so he has his best chance of becoming a beloved pet rather than a broken creatures who’s been through numerous homes.
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Old 06-20-2019, 04:50 PM
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Re: Should I rehome my parrot?

I can't help wondering if the bird isn't suffering from some kind of chemical imbalance.
Have you had him fully checked out by an avian vet?
Maybe he needs some kind of meds to calm him down.
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Old 06-20-2019, 06:22 PM
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Re: Should I rehome my parrot?

Oh boy, some very hard times!
......."Okay, before I start this I need to say, please try to be civil, please no comments telling me off, suck it up, etc".... This is really a safe place with no FB mentality! We want a win/win for everyone if possible, with the emphasis on the feathered partner!
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Old 06-20-2019, 06:23 PM
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Re: Should I rehome my parrot?

Quote: Originally Posted by Birdieboy3300 View Post
Okay, before I start this I need to say, please try to be civil, please no comments telling me off, suck it up, etc. (This community seems very nice and, logically, I know I haven’t seen anyone do that, but I am a very anxious person), This is hard enough for me already...Thank you.

Thank you for trusting us enough to be so honest Birdieboy3300. Not all members of the same species are similar in personalities or physical tolerances. Individual physical traits and personalities are what makes my companion Ekkie different from another persons companion Ekkie; and why my Ekkie can eat blueberries and strawberries together but the combination will cause ‘toe-tapping’ in another member's Ekkie. My Ekkie is a Rescue. We wouldn't have our baby Ellie if someone, such as yourself, didn't care enough about her needs to have her re-homed.

You have an Amazon with ‘special needs’ who requires expert attention. As Kiwibird suggested, surrendering your bird to a reputable Rescue Centre will ensure the best life for your Amazon. You have seriously pondered the welfare of your mother, the rest of your flock and other animals, just by considering the option of re-homing. In consideration for yourself and the Amazon, re-homing will be the best for both of you. You will be able to surrender him without guilt if you know that his future welfare is going to be taken care of by experts.


All the best with this difficult task. Please stay with us and let us know the outcome. Once he is at the reputable Rescue Centre, then please stay with us to chat about the rest of your flock and ‘other animals’.


Addendum: as Parrot Rescue Centers differ globally, my use of the term 'reputable Rescue Centre' includes one in which a CAV will do a thorough physical workup and avail themselves of expert behaviour management personnel.

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Old 06-20-2019, 07:03 PM
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Re: Should I rehome my parrot?

I, too, would love some more expert analysis...

Most of us swear by our avian vets in the event of health concerns.
Certified Avian Vets
https://abvp.com/animal-owners/find-an-abvp-specialist/
If none are near you...
Avian Veterinarians
http://www.aav.org/search/custom.asp?id=1803
In my opinion, any of the vets listed here should be better than a regular vet.
International contacts, too.

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Re: Should I rehome my parrot?

Deep respect for caring enough about your Amazon to consider the aftereffects of rehoming. We are a safe zone and collectively understand the pressures you are experiencing.

Whether or not it is practical or safe to attempt a behavioral "reset" is worth considering. At minimum, an evaluation by a certified avian vet and possible consult with parrot behaviorist may be helpful. The odds of success are long but not impossible for the dedicated.

At the heart of your conundrum may be perceived failure and guilt. None of these reflect your character or intent but deeper discussion might make the outcome more comfortable. Health concerns for you and mom may suggest rehoming as safest option.

So the last two paragraphs reflect opposite outcomes, an avenue for discussion and hopefully solution leaving you with a clear conscious and a good home for your Amazon.
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Re: Should I rehome my parrot?

Hi! Can you tell us more about your amazon? You said you had him years. WHen did the aggressive behavior start? how old is he? What is his diet? How long does he get undisturbed sleep for every night? All these can help us try and mend fences with you and your zon. When did you get the other birds? How big is his cage? WHere is his cage? How much out of cage time does he get every day?

How long did you try each of the techniques for? Days weeks or months?
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Old 06-20-2019, 08:12 PM
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Re: Should I rehome my parrot?

While everyone here wants what's best for your bird. Safety MUST come first.
When it comes down to the safety of other family members no mater human or feathered they have to be protected.

It just sounds like your amazon is acting in an atypical fashion (beyond normal) and that's what makes me think there is something more than just bad behavior at the heart of the problem.
I do hope you can get to the bottom of it. Rehoming the bird will make your family safe. But it will just pass on a problem and not correct it. I am not saying rehoming is not the right thing to do. You need to find a place that is ready, willing, and able to handle a bird with his problems.
It's a tough decision to make but you got to do what you got to do for the safety of your family.
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