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Old 05-22-2020, 04:54 PM
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Re: I think I regret my bird and idk what to do

If heís only going to be 13 weeks old, I suggest you suck it up a little and work with the bird.

You claim that you canít take his neediness from you. Like thatís a problem you canít deal with for a few months?

Youíre looking for ways to throw away the best human-parrot bonding experience possible, because itís inconvenient for the human.
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Old 05-22-2020, 05:21 PM
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Re: I think I regret my bird and idk what to do

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If heís only going to be 13 weeks old, I suggest you suck it up a little and work with the bird.

You claim that you canít take his neediness from you. Like thatís a problem you canít deal with for a few months?

Youíre looking for ways to throw away the best human-parrot bonding experience possible, because itís inconvenient for the human.
The OP is going through a difficult bout of depression along with some unpredictable life changes. He is not throwing the bird away, he is trying to understand what would be in the bird's best interest. I applaud him for that.

Taking care of the needs of a baby parrot is hard, with depression it is quite overwhelming.
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Old 05-22-2020, 05:58 PM
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Re: I think I regret my bird and idk what to do

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If heís only going to be 13 weeks old, I suggest you suck it up a little and work with the bird.

You claim that you canít take his neediness from you. Like thatís a problem you canít deal with for a few months?

Youíre looking for ways to throw away the best human-parrot bonding experience possible, because itís inconvenient for the human.
The OP is going through a difficult bout of depression along with some unpredictable life changes. He is not throwing the bird away, he is trying to understand what would be in the bird's best interest. I applaud him for that.

Taking care of the needs of a baby parrot is hard, with depression it is quite overwhelming.
It's not a good experience for everyone-- especially if you aren't mentally or physically prepared. The fact that he acknowledges that he isn't sure does make him a heck of a lot smarter than those who are oblivious to the fact that are not ready, but I do think we have to cut OP a heck of a lot of slack and high five him for his honesty and introspection.
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Re: I think I regret my bird and idk what to do

Well said noodles and jeffer. While it's not a great situation, it is what it is, and the OP is trying to do their best to deal with it a while keeping the best interest of the bird in mind. That's the important thing here. It serves no purpose to make the situation more difficult. Let's lend a bit of support for someone trying to do the right thing.

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Re: I think I regret my bird and idk what to do

First of all, thank you to everyone else.
Second of all, judgmental posts like that are exactly why many bird owners have to preface there posts with something like “be nice please” or “I was scared to post”

This is 100% me, and each day it’s getting better. You don’t understand how textbook prepared I was for this bird (save for the areas of the house we didn’t even know would be a problem). I had a vet appointment lined up before I got him, I had spent near thousands (when I had the money to) on the best cage set up/toys/food and replacing my families cookware with everything non-stick. I saved for years for him, and was evening planning on getting a second bird around this time even when my Quaker was alive. You don’t understand how much I wanted to love this bird dearly, and each day is different. So please don’t think I’m dismissing him, I’m not lessening the care or the affection he gets. I still ply music and dance with him when I feel like being balled up in a corner, I still make sure he gets the best chop when I want to either eat nothing or only junk. I still ensure that he can make several laps each hour flying down my hallway and back while I’m attempting to lock the naughty cats in a room. It’s all 100% me and, despite what I am doing, if that love is hollow or I can’t continue this care due to my financial changes with an uncertain future it’s necessary for me to figure out what is best for him.

There is also a difference between being tired of neediness and being stressed over being able to provide proper care.

As for the door locks, we have the long handles that you press down—I’ll look around to see if any will fit those. I’m attempting to lock them in rooms and keeping it closed with my body/chair/broom and it’s just not the best lol
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Re: I think I regret my bird and idk what to do

If they are pushing or pulling them open, this is pretty cool

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Re: I think I regret my bird and idk what to do

CCC, I already applauded your bravery and sincerity in bringing this matter to us, and I will repeat it!
This thread is a great venue to discuss some very important issues.
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Re: I think I regret my bird and idk what to do

The only experience of mental bad health is through work and my x wife's post natal issues. Both over come with help and both not permanent as long as the signs are recognised and dealt with.... like all lifes problems I've met. Stay positive...
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Re: I think I regret my bird and idk what to do

I'm probably talking bollox, but recently I've found enzo to be something I need to be strong for recently. Strangely more so than my 2 boys who are in a good place at present. I'm on my own during lick down which hasn't helped
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So it seems Percy and my father (and kind of my mom) have bonded extremely well. Iím going to primarily take care of him while I teach them about bird care and best practices. Also get them involved in training.

This was an outcome I didnít expect. My dad hated my last bird, and now he is smitten. I suppose this is also for the best, because it turns out the countries Iíd mostly likely be moving to (Australia or Korea) does not allow their entry, or the spaces of apartments are extremely small and donít allow pets.
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