how do i get my conure to do that behavior?
Which behaviour are you talking about?
To get a bird to do flappies, jiggle your arm up and down a bit so the bird has to flap to stay balanced, say "Let's fly!" or whatever, and give a reward. At the beginning, don't jiggle for too long or else they might think you're trying to get rid of them rather than make them flap! Also wear nice grippy clothing, if you use your bare arm they might not be able to stay on with even a tiny jiggle and fly off.
To teach a bird to come, show him a treat and say your command/whistle when he takes off to come get it. Then you can start saying the command
before he takes off, and also not showing him the reward till he gets to you.
Teach him to fly off too, when he looks like he's had enough being on you, "help" him a bit by flinging him off and say a command like "Fly!" or "Off you go!". Then go to where he landed and reward. If he isn't good at flying yet, aim him at a suitable landing place rather than have him have to find his own and probably crash.
If he starts coming or flying off without being asked, don't reward, and stop the training session immediately. The bird will feel in control and it won't be a horrible chore - he can just do it when it's fun and stop when it becomes work.
Teach him to come back to you by sending him off in a room with nothing appetising to land on. Use a different word. Reward him when he comes back, and stop the session when he doesn't come (he's sick of it).
Eventually you'll have a bird who comes, leaves when you ask, and who'll do a lap of the room and come back to you!
Of course everything can be done with a clicker, you just start off by clicking and giving a food reward lots of times, and training and clicking and giving a food reward when appropriate, then phasing out the food.
