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[Pablo]

My mom recently passed away leaving her beautiful amazon name pablo her mate of 16 years. She was the only one and stayed with him 24hr a day. Cooked for him fed him spoiled him rotten. No one else could come close to him even me and I spend a lot of time in that house. I feel bad that I'm not around as much since I work and feel I should find another owner. I tried but the lady found the bird was too needy. So hes back home with me. It's going to be pretty hard to find another birdlady like my mom so some of my ideas are someone with another amazon hoping it finds a mate. Any ideas. Thanks

 

[GaleriaGila]

My condolences... and my admiration for taking on this task. I bet your Mom was at peace to know you'd take care of her love.

Lots of Amazon folks here (and more) who I know will help you.

Meanwhile, You can take any issue or topic which interests you, use the Search Tab and then read about it.

I'm glad you found us!

 

[Flboy]

Welcome! Sorry for your loses! What part of the country are you in?
One suggestion, no Craigslist! At least for now!

 

[Kentuckienne]

I second the no Craigslist advice. Some people pose a potential loving bird people, or even as bird rescues, then as soon as they have your bird they turn around and sell it. I think there is a birds for adoption, birds wanted on this site. I hope you can take your time to find the right home.

 

[Scott]

Welcome to the forums, sorry you joined under sad and difficult circumstances. My deepest condolences for the loss of your Mother.

You will not easily if ever find a substitute who will love and care for Pablo as deeply as your Mom. If I were in your position my instinct would be to decide whether the bird is a meaningful remembrance. If so, it might be possible to compromise and keep Pablo and spend a reasonable amount of time with him. If not, the kindest act would be patience and finding him a wonderful home.

 

[Pablo]

A retired couple took him for a couple of weeks but it didn't work out. They to overwelmed. They weren't ready to give him that extra time. I brought him home . He's eating well and really starting to attach to me. I was never able to come to close to him but I was able to scratch him yesterday. I'm not a bird person so it's hard to tell if I'm doing him good or I should find someone to spend more time with him.

 

[chris-md]

Pablo it sounds like you're doing well so far. What you describe is not at all unusual. Parrots can be one person birds, bonding only to one person and disliking everyone else. When they are regimes, that unique bond they formed with their person is broken (it's a powerful bond because bird bonding is rooted in sexual psychology, as many birds mate for life). When they don't have their one person anymore, they ultimately make a new one with whenever takes them in.

It sounds like he is starting to form that bond with you. I think if you give it more time, you'll find you'll be holding him in no time. It's a wonderful thing to be bonded to a bird. If you can, hang in there, for your mom and the bird. Once a bird falls into this position, unfortunately it's a fact that they often fall into a rehoming cycle, and can pass through several homes in a short time. If he's starting to bond with you, you might be in a great position to have a positive impact on his life and avoid a tragic cycle.

 

[Flboy]

....."I'm not a bird person....

Neither was I!