SB is right...Fallen, go throught the forum and check that you have made sure that his cage is stimulating, toys to his liking etc. How long are you spending time with him? I might be having a dorf moment but why wouldnt you want your parrot on your shoulder? Does everyone else know something I dont know? When I have Hugo on my shoulder and I sit on the couch he ventures down onto my lap and I can stroke him and give him attention but mainly scratch him and talk to him when he is on my shoulder. Should I be doing something differently? Hugo doesnt like to get on and off my hand so I use my arm and when putting him back on the cage I place my shoulder against the cage. Are you struggling to get him off your shoulder or that he keeps on climbing back out before you have had time to shut the cage? I see Hugo like a child where he deserves to be treated with respect but there are certain areas that are not up for discussion. I know that he has enough toys, time with me and correct food so when its time to sleep he sleeps, when its time to be back in the cage he goes. Im not a bully but I balance his routine which has space for change but allows him to enjoy playing, interacting and having his own time alone to play by himself. Bonding is the only way forward...the more hours you put in the more you will get out of your feathered friend. It might be different for me because Hugo has never ever been in a closed cage since he has been with me...his cage is always open and he has learnt to stay in his area where he has a playgym and area above the cage to explore.