Urgent/Possible Re-Home

[birbyluna]

Location: New York City

Hello Everyone,
I go by Nanna and this is my first post here. I'm in desperate need of help. I have a bird named Luna and I got her back in September of 2022. She was only a baby and shipped to me from Texas to New York City. She is an Indian Ringneck and is only two years old. When I first got her, I was able to train her effectively and I researched a TON about Indian Ringnecks because I feared of making mistakes or breaking her trust so young. Over these past 3 years or so, her behavior has... declined. I admit my mental health has dropped tremendously and my health has been at risk which puts me barely being able to watch over her however, her behavior is horrible. My cousin who is 17 which I have had multiple arguments with, pet Luna on her back MULTIPLE TIMES. My stepdad was another issue. I would yell or get Luna away from him. Luna has bitten me on my face, attacked me really badly even when I attempt to redirect hormonal emotions that I know my cousin has caused. I never showed any aggression and would always take precaution if she showed clear signs of distress and she does suffer with intense anxiety (The vet gave me medicine for it. Luna gets extremely anxious at vet visits.) I have hoped and put in tons of work to 'restart' with her. I've spent money on vet visits hoping that maybe I am doing this all wrong. I am living in a situation where my aunt and cousins do live with me temporarily, but it only makes things worse. A parrot was always my dream pet. I've done countless of research on parrots, I could possibly write a book. But maybe, this was inevitable and it hurts my heart. I don't want to take her to a rescue shelter. I'd want someone with the space and knowledge to help Luna and maybe give her a better life than I can. She is my emotional support animal and it hurts me to say that I have felt so disconnected to the animal that I love dearly. I feel horrible as an owner but I know there can be a change.

I'm urgently looking for her to be rehomed/adopted. If there is anyone interested please leave a comment or if it is possible to message, please do! I believe Luna needs to be away from what is causing her the aggression, etc. I hope someone can help.

 

[DonnaBudgie]

Parrots are often "dream pets" and even those who do a lot of research are often overwhelmed by the reality of having a parrot (I was). If you look back at what you learned from your research, you will probably see that you, like many others like me, dismissed the potential very negative aspects. We think that we can prevent our parrots from acting like the wild animals that they are by starting with a baby and by doing everything right. All baby parrots are sweet. Most adults are not and all babies grow into adults. The truth is that for most people parrots make lousy pets and live way too long. As a result, way too many are rehomed multiple times before . . . I don't know what. Don't want to know.

All that unpleasantness aside, a rescue may be the best place for your IRN (know to be difficult birds). They will do a better job at rehoming into the right home than you could.

 

[birbyluna]

Thank you for your reply. I've been crying for weeks because I feel like I've failed her enough. I'm scared of sending her to a rescue, should I go see a few first before choosing where to send her?

 

[DonnaBudgie]

Definitely go see rescues and keep in mind that the people who run them and work there love birds and want what's best for them. Best wishes to you.

 

[Thechoplady]

Thank you for your reply. I've been crying for weeks because I feel like I've failed her enough. I'm scared of sending her to a rescue, should I go see a few first before choosing where to send her?

Im so sorry your going through this. You DID NOT fail her. Actually you are helping her and loving her and doing right by her by trying to find a home for her that can give her a better environment than what you can give her at this stage in your life. That is to be respected and do not feel guilty. Instead of taking her to a rescue you are actively searching for a better environment for her. That takes alot of self awareness and shows how much you genuinely love her.