Yeah, the girls are, ummmm, different. Not worse or better, just have a whole different way of doing things. Ekkies in general aren't noted for being cuddly, and most prefer not to be handled. Those that like it, are uniformly particular about it. Front to back only. Messing up "the do" is a hard NO.
How long have you had your girl? Aside from her general preferences, it's possible you're just moving too fast. Trust takes time. Some are okay pretty quickly, while others can take a looooonnnggg time. Just start slow, and don't force her to conform to your expectations.
You mention hand raised. Was she completely weaned before you got her, and by HER choice? Abundance weaning is different than being force weaned. Sadly, it's not uncommon for breeders to get them on solid food and sold before they're ready, causing physical and psychological/behavioral issues. Not saying this is definitely the case for you, but something to explore. Take a read through this for some thoughts on that:
https://www.parrotforums.com/threads/so-you-bought-an-unweaned-baby.74363/
Please keep us posted, and if you'd like to share, we love pictures!
