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Old 05-29-2019, 02:49 PM
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Re: More Sammy weirdness

I donít have anything useful to say, but Iíve got you and yours in my thoughts.


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Old 05-30-2019, 02:47 AM
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Oh my goodness Iím just back after a house move and hadnít seen this post! Iím so very sorry to hear this devastating news. You have our support! Iím hoping with everyone else here that the right solutions come your way. Please keep us posted.


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Old 05-30-2019, 05:35 AM
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I’m so sorry you are going through this. If possible please try to keep your flock together, they are your home now.
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Old 06-25-2019, 05:48 PM
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Re: More Sammy weirdness

Almost two months have passed since my wife left, taking our CAG "Reno" with her. His arrival, about 4 years ago, was the "trigger" that caused Sammy to lose his bond with me, I believe, as it happened instantly, the moment Reno arrived. Up until then, Sammy had been the undisputed "flock leader", and bonded to me like iron.

Now that Reno's been gone for 2 months, Sammy still has absolutely no bond with me whatsoever. He tolerates me giving him food, but that's it. He has no interest in me beyond that, and aggressively drives me off if I try to get close to him. A few days ago I was giving him a peanut (his favorite treat) and I guess I got too close, as he went right past the peanut and took a large piece out of my hand. Luckily, this time I was able to patch it up without sutures.

I have done everything that people have suggested, to no avail. No amount of trust-building attempts have had any effect whatsoever, and strangely, Reno leaving just seems to have made things worse. It's been 4 years now since Sammy was bonded to anyone.

I'm so saddened by this. His life has deteriorated to being an ornamental caged bird, as he has no one to bond to. And I no longer have my loving Sammy.

I'm giving serious thought to re-homing him with someone he CAN bond with, like he did with me years ago. A clean break, a new start. I have to think of his future, and his quality of life. To make things worse, I'm away 12-14 hours a day at work, and he has no contact with anyone.

It would hurt terribly, but I don't know what else to do. He isn't "living" anymore, he's just existing, and it isn't fair to him.

I'm devastated just thinking about it.
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Old 06-25-2019, 06:04 PM
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Re: More Sammy weirdness

I am sorry your having such a terrible couple of months.
Are you sure you aren't jumping the gun with Sammy?
2 months in the life of an Amazon isn't that long (it just seams that way to you).
I don't have any advice that I can give to re-establish a bond.

My little Cockatiel Pinky took 2 years to get a relationship and it's still not all that solid.
I know she likes me, I can tell in ways that I can't put into words. Sometimes she will step up for me but mostly not. she grooms my eyebrows and mustache.
I know she is not happy in my flock but I am sure rehoming her would be worse.
I have considered her for rehoming but I can't see a situation that she would be happier in.

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Re: More Sammy weirdness

I wouldn't jump to any conclusions about Sammy yet. You definitely aren't over your wife just up and leaving, tearing your family apart, and turning your world upside down (not that I would expect you to be in any way.)

I'm just pointing out that obvious fact to say that it isn't fair for you to expect Sammy to be over it either. Even if he didn't like the way things were, after being kicked off his throne so to speak, it IS the way they were. So that was his life too, not just yours. He had the rug pulled out from under him just as much as you did you.

So just give him time to grieve what once was and is no longer. Then start back at the very beginning. Not the beginning of you trying to bring back the bond you two used to have. To the beginning of when you very first brought Sammy into your life and there had never been a bond. Start there.

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