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Old 03-12-2018, 02:55 PM
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Off and on I have considered a second bird. The Petco near my work work has a young black-capped conure that has been there since last summer. He will be one year old in May. Everytime I go there I pray that someone has adopted him, but nobody does. I feel bad for him. To my eyes there is nothing wrong with him besides the price. Through the glass he is playful and engaging, but he is not hand tamed. The staff work with him a little. I've been there during cage cleaning, and he will take seeds from my fringers but that is about it. I say "him", but I have no idea if it is male or female. [Update: store doesn't know either]

My heart wants to rescue the little guy, but my mind tells me to walk away. I need you guys to arbitrate between by head and my heart.

Pro: I've been thinking about getting a friend for my female black-capped conure. Especially since she's alone while we're at work.
Con: I have no idea if my female conure wants a friend. 2 Conures means squables and bitten toes, plucked feathers, and 100 other ways to end up at the vet.
Pro: They could end up best of friends.
Con: It could be a male. How do you keep a male/female pair without breeding?
Pro: I'm 95% ready to take on loving another bird.
Con: My husband is 0.0005% ready to take on tolerating another bird. Though there is room to smooth it over. He has a recent large purchase to atone for.
Con: I despise feeding the breed/sell/breed system that put that conure in that Petco in the first place knowing he'll be replaced by another bird in a couple months.
Pro: The bird needs a home.

I'm at odds with what to do other than to stay out of Petco.

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Old 03-12-2018, 03:11 PM
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Re: Second bird - heart vs mind

Hi. You need to find out the gender id say first and foremost x
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Old 03-12-2018, 03:51 PM
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Re: Second bird - heart vs mind

You're better off getting a weaned baby through a reputable breeder and saving money. They'll also likely be more tame, hand-fed and easier to train this way, and you'll get charged about half as much as I know pet stores really like to jack up their prices for these birds.

And you are right in assuming double the costs. There will be no guarantees with a new bird coming into the home that they will get along but there are things you can do to help. Lots of members here are households with more than one bird.

Male and female together, there is no way to tell -- they could get along okay, not at all or perfectly fine -- though if they spend a lot of time together they may pair and try to mate. In my eyes, if you want to keep your bond with your female, get another female.
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Old 03-12-2018, 04:28 PM
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Re: Second bird - heart vs mind

Haha I've posted so many times with similar sentiments. Normally it's a new colour IRN that's in need of a decent home. I can be an enabler or a voice of reason, take your pick

Two birds, two cages, two times the mess.
Flighted birds of the same species....you shouldn't need to worry as much about squabbles. My four, after proper socialization etc, all get out together and are fine because they just take off if they get annoyed with one another.
Birds are flock animals. Singletons do just fine! But if they do get on with their buddy, and they might - then it can be really, really cute.
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He has a recent large purchase to atone for.
This made me LOL....That's how I got Henry! But, clearly it wasn't an issue because it was his determination that landed us with Clarke.
And on that note, hubby doesn't tolerate this conure too well, so therefore are you better to allow hubby to choose the next one? Even if they are in cages, in the same room they're providing company to one another, and it is possible to run multi=species households. You get the joy of a second, and hubby might be more willing?
THAT being said, I get the not wanting to support petco thing. You'd be better with a rehome, or a breeder babe. But, that little conure is alive and breathing, and needs someone to love him, and it kinda sounds like you already do.....
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Old 03-12-2018, 04:32 PM
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Re: Second bird - heart vs mind

Many here have found that they have to separate birds permanently... some have been fortunate and multiple birds get along.
You just never know! Never, ever.
GREAT brainstorming and pro/conning on your part.
Good for you for being so responsible and serious, and for reaching out!
I think that as long as you're willing to deal with whatever happens (e.g., separating them, if needed, handling added expenses, etc.).
You'd be a great home... I confess I'm a little excited.
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Re: Second bird - heart vs mind

Ive had mine 6-7 month and i definatly have room in my heart for another so im getting one soon. Mainly for the love and enjoyment part but also to minimize the lonliness when im at work or out. I think like you on this. If they dont hit it off i know we will still be fine and i can supervise them both still. You can use positive reinforcement when they are together too to train good behaviour around eachother but theres also a chance 2 parrots can hit it off also but i wouldnt expect it, just a nice bonus. Obviously plenty of time and attention with the parrot you have if you do get another to prevent jealousy. I think someone will take that little Conure home if you dont. They are so cute plus he/she is still young. Go with your heart id say x
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Old 03-12-2018, 05:27 PM
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Re: Second bird - heart vs mind

I speak as a single parrot owner not looking to buy a second parrot, but sometimes in life something or someone or somebirdy comes along and even though you weren't necessarily looking, you find yourself considering things you never expected!

I know there are definitely things to consider, but it sounds like you've formed some connection with this bird. The fact he's not (yet) tame or from a reputable breeder is irrelevant. He's still a precious little life who can't help his background and still deserves a loving home. Can you be that home? I'm not sure but I also see no glaring red flags in anything you've said that screams it would be a bad idea. If it were me and I completely lost my mind and fell for a bird in a pet store I went back repeatedly to visit for a year, personally, I'd be cashing in on that "big purchase" your hubby made with a little lovely feathery one of my own
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Old 03-12-2018, 09:50 PM
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Re: Second bird - heart vs mind

My first two came as a pair and they share a cage. My newest addition, Bindi, had known me for a year (I volunteer at a rescue)....I kept “thinking” about bringing her home, and finally did. She’s an absolute joy and I don’t regret it for a second! Bindi doesn’t love Baby and Tango - but she has her own cage and I’m sure that they chat throughout the day while I’m at work. I can have them out at the same time - they don’t interact much, but they don’t fight either. I don’t find that it’s much more work... I already make chop, I already have hundreds of bird toys, and what’s one more cage to clean lol? Not sure that I’m much help, but if something is calling to my heart....it’s hard to say no
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...Singletons do just fine! ....
Thank you for validating that I am not depriving her! I'm at work now watching her on the web cam going from toy to toy playing her little heart out.
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Quote: Originally Posted by GaleriaGila View Post
Many here have found that they have to separate birds permanently... some have been fortunate and multiple birds get along.
You just never know! Never, ever.
GREAT brainstorming and pro/conning on your part.
Good for you for being so responsible and serious, and for reaching out!
I think that as long as you're willing to deal with whatever happens (e.g., separating them, if needed, handling added expenses, etc.).
You'd be a great home... I confess I'm a little excited.
Oh, your not making this easy! I was getting ready for work this morning with my little SassiGirl hanging out with me. I thought, "how would this work with two?"
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