That sounds like a complicated relationship and reminds me of a TikTok I've seen of someones bird and the caption said "The only toxic relationship I will stay in" What I did was ill pick her up with a shirt, I use the same one each time and I'll give her head skritches and then let her run around my room, for a bit and then pick her up with the shirt when I'm ready to put her back in her cage. Shes still afraid of hands, and I don't know what it is but the only fruit or veggie she has tried is frozen mixed fruit and she wont try lettuce and I don't know how to get her to try anything else.
Also she sat on my head for about 20-30 minutes today I'll attach the photo and video in here later if I can