Such a touchy subject at my house. (XD) My husband can't quite understand why you would want a "pet" that you can't cuddle without restraint, but he's getting there. We are all still learning. We've had our first Goffin's cockatoo for about 6 weeks now. Coco is about 5.
He wants head scritches a lot, but I'm not entirely sure that doesn't trigger his hormones. D: He only wants them from my husband mostly. If he will let me, I scratch only his head and neck. My husband is a pushover. Coco has ended up rubbing his body against Donald (my husband) which is why my husband has finally decided to draw a line that Coco is not allowed to cross. Plus he saw the shift in Coco's behavior toward me when Coco set his hormonal sites on him.
The behaviors have slowly started to level off in the last few days since Donald has decided to end the lovin' at a specific point, usually when Coco gets pushy.