Hello Purevil21, I breed & hand rear these beautiful birds. First i will address the wing clip. That is entirely up to you & IMO it dosen't make an ounce of difference providing the clip is correctly done.
Males can be a little laid back, I wouldn't say they need a quiet home not by a long shot, they love to be in the thick of things. I don't treat any eclectus baby or adult for that matter any different to other parrots. I wouldn't hesitate selling a baby boy into a family with children. Eclectus & kids get on very well together. Bottom line is TRUST.
Don't ever believe that these birds don't bite hard. They do. They pack a punch & you can even end up in the ER having stitches. That said it is usually something a carer has done wrong & the bird didn't like it. In all the years i have had eclectus i have never been bitten by my boys. Breeding hens with chicks is a different story.
Most males are very placid as long as they have been trained well. Problems can arise if they are to human imprinted. I am dealing with a 5 year old male that is so naughty. Screams 24/7 & bites when it doesn't get it's own way. If we don't sort this birds aggression out he will forever be looking for a new home. What makes me so angry is it isn't the birds fault it's the uneducated owner that has ruined this bird & now she doesn't want him. So is wanting to sell it to her friend.
If you decide on a baby you need to let him settle into his new environment, usually it will only take a day or two. If your new baby lunges at you, your moving to fast, slow down. Learn his body language & read up as much as you can on parrot behavior that way you will be able to identify a problem & hopefully work with your bird before it gets out of control.
I have 16 eclectus at the moment & truly they are all so well behaved, we get the odd alarm call but for the most part they all just talk to each other. To be honest i don't know why people have so much trouble with their companion parrots, it not that hard to raise a well adjusted parrot without hangups.