- Mar 18, 2023
I have a male Congo African Grey. He was six years old when I got him. I have had him for six months, and it has been a roller coaster, to say the least. He was extremely sweet and affectionate when I first got him. He allowed me to do everything. Pick him up, give him treats, put him in his cage, kiss, and pat and scratch him. My husband is not a big bird person, but doesn’t mind them. A month and a half after I got him, he started biting me whenever I put him in the cage at night. This progressed into extremely hard bites to the point I was bleeding and had bruised bones, etc. I never flinched and I never yelled and I never hit him or got angry. WHICH WAS REALLY HARD TO DO! I just continued to do what I was doing because I didn’t want him to know that it hurt. I didn’t want him to think that because he bit me, it would dissuade me from my goal. He then started vocalizing to my husband and talking to him like crazy to get his attention. The only interaction that he had with my husband at this point was to give him an occasional treat, and then he would leave him. He never did anything else with him and never really engaged in conversation with him. He continued to allow me to handle him and pet him after we moved the cage upstairs, but whenever my husband is around, he gets downright hostile to me. I no longer put him in the cage at night, and I put a large perch on top of the cage. He sleeps on that. I was trying to stop every negative thing he associated me with. it helped, but the obsession with my husband has only grown worse. My husband is now telling me that we need to get rid of him because he’s going to throw him out the door if he bites me one more time. My husband cannot stand him now because he’s getting cat called every time he walks into a room or every time Archibald hears him. I do not want to have to rehome him because his two elderly owners died, and the son had him for a handful of months and decided he couldn’t deal with him. I just don’t understand how to get him not so fixated on my husband. He has not bit me in a couple of months and he’s doing very well, but he still favors my husband and can’t be around the two of us. He’s extremely cuddly, and wants me to hold him and kiss him every morning and evening, but wants nothing to do with me when my husband is around. I am at my wits end and so is my husband. I want him to have a great life and I want him to bond with me like that so the whole household is happy. He also will not let my two children pick him up and he downright hates my son. My son is 15 years old. I would’ve thought he liked him because he’s a man, but I think it’s only adult males. My father came to visit, and I have had a couple of random handymen in the household and Archibald, the African Grey, calls to them and talks to them and tries to get their attention like crazy! I can’t put my finger on it. Will this eventually end? I have been extremely patient and loving and understanding of what he needs, but I almost think that he’s never going to get over this obsession with men in general and maybe he would prefer to have a male owner? Has anybody come across this?