No time for my bird! Rehome him?

Amanda_Bennett

New member
Sep 27, 2014
1,272
1
Gresham, OR
Parrots
Zilla 29 Y.O. Orange Wing Amazon
I'm DEFINITELY no expert, but since I've had Zilla I have had several people come into my office and notice her (how do you not notice a bright green bird on my shoulder, or play stand, or the huge cage in my living room?) and then say they have always wanted a "talking parrot" "does she talk" "what does she say" blah blah blah... seems like that's all they are interested in... Zilla hardly ever says "human" words, and only a couple I can understand.

I always go into EVERYTHING I have been through with her, how expensive it's been, how much work she is, how much time I spend EVERY DAY with her, how much cleaning, etc... And then tell them if they are serious about getting a bird to do their research, join this forum, and expect to put in the time and effort (commit to the rest of their lives doing these things DAILY)

I also make a big deal about how long parrots live, it's not like getting some other kind of pet that can be left alone in a cage or tank without much interaction or care.

Almost always their eyes get huge and they can't believe how much money and time I spend on her, then they change the subject and leave!

So far no one has gotten a parrot... I don't think I'm being mean or negative, I just don't want someone to run out and get a parrot and then end up having issues, or wanting to toss it out if it isn't what they expected it to be.

If they really want a bird and really want to do the right thing by the bird I am willing to help however I can, I just think most people have no idea what it takes to have a healthy, well adjusted parrot.
 

Psittaciformes

New member
Dec 14, 2014
686
1
Parrots
R.I.P Kiwiberry, GCC.
Couldn't agree more with Amanda.
I really don't get why so many people are only interested in their ability to talk, it seems like that's all they care about.

You're definitely doing the right thing informing them and letting them know how much work it really is :)

Before people buy birds (or any kind of pet, really) they should have to fill in a form and stuff to see if they're qualified for it or not. Getting tired of seeing animals left outside.
In one of the parks near my apartment, at one point there were like 2-3 turtles someone abandoned there!
We used to have loads of cats living in bushes here too.
 
OP
SilverSage

SilverSage

New member
Sep 14, 2013
5,937
16
Columbus, GA
Parrots
Eclectus, CAG, BH Pionus, Maximilian’s Pionus, Quakers, Indian Ringnecks, Green Cheeked Conures, Black Capped Conures, Cockatiels, Lovebirds, Budgies, Canaries, Diamond Doves, Zebra Finches, Society F
  • Thread Starter
  • Thread starter
  • #44
Ok, time to rant about this! My heart is broken. I was in the evil pet store yesterday with a good friend, and she noticed a turquoise/cinnamon green cheeked conure, which is an uncommon color particularly here in Hawaii. I have been looking for one, since I breed them and my turquoise/cinnamon is a female, so she does not produce visually turquoise/cinnamon babies. Anyway I asked about the price and was shocked to find out it was actually reasonable, and that he was actually about a year and a half old. I took him home. Getting him here has broken my heart. He speaks, he says "good bird" "pretty bird" "kiss kiss" "whacha doin?" And several other things I have not been able to decipher. He is a shoulder bird to the max, and is having a hard time understanding why I won't let him be there all the time (the reason is he bites when I try to take him down). He loves scritches and has let me pet his whole body, though I have not yet tried under the wings. He steps up for anyone even from his cage, he follows you if you leave him...

I can just hear someone bringing him into the evil store and saying they didn't have time for him, could the store owners please find him a home? They also have a hyacinth and a red bellied parrot who both were surrendered by their owners. UGH. This poor baby.
 

goalerjones

New member
Oct 24, 2011
1,376
2
Parrots
Hahn's macaw, RIP George, Jenday Conure
All I usually have to say is, "No Teflon". They usually respond like I've asked them to stand in horse poop for 16 hrs a day.
 

Regan

New member
Dec 31, 2015
72
0
Parrots
Alexandrine
Thank god I came across this! :) I am currently overloaded with new things and I know it will settle, but this has supported that there is light at the end of the tunnel. And I also doing a few of these things already so that makes me feel good :)
 

plumsmum2005

New member
Nov 18, 2015
5,330
9
England, UK
Parrots
Lou, Ruby, and Sonu.
Fly free Plum, my gorgeous boy.
@ SilverSage: This is a fantastic thread, thank you.
MODs why not make it a sticky, please?
I too found that when I talked about the funny exploits of my RB2 people would get all excited and talk about having one, so to counter that I would then have to go into negative mode to explain all the realistic's of owning a parrot as well as trying to explain that there are loads of unwanted ones out there, why not consider them if serious. I have now got to the point of being almost reticent to talk about him too much at times because I do not want to add to the problems by encouraging 'flip flops'. "Oooh shall we have this today and that tomorrow, ooh look shiny!"

People don't give their children away, so why not consider your bird as you would consider an offspring, and as has been previously stated work things out?
If any of my Fid friends go through a sticky patch and need some breathing space in regards to their Fid I will be first in line to offer that bird a temporary home to allow them time to put their lives back on track. Also realise that this needs to be done carefully so as not to be a dumping ground for unwanted birds.
 

mariya.jawaid

New member
Apr 15, 2016
23
0
Parrots
currently own a baby 11 month old yellow ringneck
wow just amazing, perfectly written thanks for writing this its sooo true!
 

Brittany741

New member
Feb 9, 2015
384
0
Atlanta, GA
Parrots
SI Eclectus (Ruby) - 11 / Eclectus (Wrangler) - 7 / Eclectus (Pinto) - 6 /
Red Sided Eclectus (Oliver) - 4 mos. /
White Bellied Caique (Dan) - 2 /
Foster Congo African Grey (Molly) - 6
Excellent post with lots of great points.

I have a slightly different perspective, however. Just some background on me - I did Pit Bull rescue and fostering for many years and have also rescued and fostered quite a few parrots.

I used to feel and think the same exact way about rehoming animals, and then I suffered a spinal cord injury. I went from being an active and happy 28-year-old to being bedridden 23 hours a day and I'm unable to even shower without assistance. This has greatly changed my perspective, as has the recent acquisition of my rescue Eclectus, Persie.

You see, I had all the time and energy in the world to pour into my fids and then this really difficult life circumstance presented itself. We also had one foster Goffin's and my husband has asthma. Sure, you've heard it before, -"Must rehome due to allergies." A little perspective on my husband's asthma: he has been in the ICU over 25 times, has needed the paddles once, and has even died once as a result of his severe asthma. While he can handle the dust from a Grey, that Goffin's would have been a death sentence for him. Not to mention, he had unexpected heart surgery five months ago. That was a rude awakening as the cardiologist said he would have been lucky to live four more months. He had what was called the Widowmaker. He had perfect blood pressure and zero family history. We were shocked.

Yes, we have been through a LOT with our health. Because of those difficulties and my very low quality of life every day, my perspective on rehoming animals has changed quite a bit. Then Persie came to us and only confirmed my belief that it is better to rehome an animal and allow them to go through that transition than to be neglected and ignored by a family who simply won't or can't make the time for the bird.

The transition will be an adjustment, yes, but Persie's case is the perfect example of owners who were guilted into keeping her. She didn't leave her cage for five years or get a bath in that same time. If they were willing to tell me that, I can only imagine what they weren't telling me!

My whole point is, sometimes life throws us curveballs we could have never imagined in a million years and sometimes that means making decisions in the best interest of the animal. That best decision may truly be rehoming. I have now been bedridden for three years (over 1050 days in bed for 23 hours a day) and I don't get to spend the time I want with my birds. What time we do have together is quality time but it took me a long time to get to the place where I was able to do even that much.

As much as my intentions were good in my views previously, I never truly understood what it meant to have an earth-shattering, catastrophic life change. Now that I have, I know that I will never again assume what someone is going through. Yes, there will always be irresponsible and lazy people who just change their minds, but my perspective now is it's better for that bird or animal to go somewhere they are wanted and will receive love and build that bond than to be begrudgingly cared for and resented and shoved in a corner because someone was made to feel so guilty about doing what was right by the animal.

I realize this will likely be an unpopular opinion, but my life experience has shown me there is another perspective on this issue and not to judge if someone truly is deciding to rehome in the best interest of the animal. These are the same animals who would be neglected or potentially abused, and rehoming is far less traumatic than those two options.

-Brittany
 

OutlawedSpirit

New member
Apr 12, 2016
1,020
7
Northern Illinois, USA
Parrots
Bo - DYH ~ Gus - CAG ~ Twitch - Linnie ~ Apple - Pineapple GCC ~ Goliath - Quaker ~ Squish - Peach face Lovebird
Brittany, I agree with you wholeheartedly. In some situations, it truly is better for an animal to be rehomed. I have always been a cat person, and we had cats for many years. However, our daughter has allergies to cats. We took her to a specialist for a few years, trying different medications to help her live with the cats. I even bathed them weekly to try and keep their dander under control. We kept them out of her room and her playroom, so that there was no dander in the rooms she was in the most.

However, after a few years, her allergist told us that they had to go, because she was starting to develop asthma because of the constant exposure to the cats. At that point, even though I loved my cats dearly, I had to rehome them. It was either that or let my child suffer and continue to get sicker. It was heartbreaking. I cried like someone died for days after they were rehomed. And that was even with my mom being willing to take Reverend, my BABY! I still get to see him at my moms, but it still kills me.

However, I wouldn't change it. I would rather let my furry children live with someone else, than be locked in one room, away from everyone else, forever. That was one of the reasons I was ecstatic to get the opportunity to get an eclectus, since they don't produce dust like most other birds because of their oil glands. That way I get to have my big bird, and it doesn't affect my daughter's asthma or allergies. I do have the smaller birds, but I also have to commit to dusting and vacuuming constantly to keep the dust under control. Plus I have my "bath bottle" that they get misted with often.

On the other hand, I also agree with the OP. If it is a situation that can be worked around, like time, then all measures should be taken to try and make the time. When getting any animal, we make a commitment. We are agreeing to supply the animal with all their basic needs, as well as the love and affection they deserve. All measures should be taken to try and provide that, and only as a last resort, should they be rehomed.

Overall, I think it can be a very grey area. If money is an issue, if you committed yourself to an animal, and you don't want to sacrifice a pleasure, like going on vacation, to afford to be able to see a vet, then too bad. The vet comes first, you can go on vacation later. However, if there is the loss of a job and it's either you feed the animal, or your child, then maybe it's time to find the animal a new home.

Maybe I got off on a little bit of a tangent, I apologize. I just want to point out that I think there are valid points on either side of the argument. I think there are cases where rehoming is justified, and others where it is not.
 

Birdman666

New member
Sep 18, 2013
9,866
16
San Antonio, TX
Parrots
Presently have six Greenwing Macaw (17 yo), Red Fronted Macaw (12 yo), Red Lored Amazon (17 y.o.), Lilac Crowned Amazon (about 43 y.o.) and a Congo African Grey (11 y.o.)
Panama Amazon (1 Y.O.)
No one is saying there aren't legit reasons to rehome. I've rehabbed and rehomed more than I've kept. Life altering experiences come into play, and those are certainly as legit as they get.

That's significantly different from the "usual excuses" type person, or the person who is thinking of rehoming just because they have a lot on their plate at the moment, and are having a hard time juggling responsibilities... (You don't have to. Give it time, these things have a way of working out.)
 

RavensGryf

Supporting Member
Jan 19, 2014
14,213
54
College Station, Texas
Parrots
Red Bellied Parrot /
Ruppell's Parrot /
Bronze Winged Pionus /
English Budgie
Bourke's
Yes, there will always be irresponsible and lazy people who just change their minds, but my perspective now is it's better for that bird or animal to go somewhere they are wanted and will receive love and build that bond than to be begrudgingly cared for and resented and shoved in a corner because someone was made to feel so guilty about doing what was right by the animal.

I realize this will likely be an unpopular opinion, but my life experience has shown me there is another perspective on this issue and not to judge if someone truly is deciding to rehome in the best interest of the animal. These are the same animals who would be neglected or potentially abused, and rehoming is far less traumatic than those two options.

-Brittany

I absolutely agree, and there are many people who agree with you as well. Of course we frown upon those who rehome out of irresponsibility or laziness, etc. but of course there are unforeseen events in which the bird would truly have a better quality of life if rehomed. I have done it in the past, and many of the more long term experienced owners here have done too as well at some point. If it is 'truly' in the best interest of the bird, then most people understand. The OP wasn't directing the post at responsible individuals :).
 

SailBoat

Supporting Member
Jul 10, 2015
14,961
1,339
Western, Michigan
Parrots
DYH Amazon
My home as been one of those last chance homes for rehomed Amazons. The one's that no one wants. We pray for years and are happy if we get days with some of them. I am always taken back by what little attention warms their hearts. Their deep want to be part of a flock.

Whether on the computer or reading project documents, a loud, (which to most of the world would be bored to tears) every Amazon has loves it. It is also when I first hear their voice.

Interestingly, I was just reading that several groups are working with returning Veterans with serious menial and/or physical limitations. The Veterans are matched with rehomed dogs, cats and yes, parrots. The results has been truly wonderful as both expect very little from each other and both find reasons for living and more importantly loving because of each other.

Yes, there are those cases, but they are far fewer than what I hear.
 

Brittany741

New member
Feb 9, 2015
384
0
Atlanta, GA
Parrots
SI Eclectus (Ruby) - 11 / Eclectus (Wrangler) - 7 / Eclectus (Pinto) - 6 /
Red Sided Eclectus (Oliver) - 4 mos. /
White Bellied Caique (Dan) - 2 /
Foster Congo African Grey (Molly) - 6
I totally agree with the OP, of course. 99% of rehomed animals are rehomed for reasons which will change. But on the off chance that 1% reader comes here, I don't want them thinking they will be blacklisted by the community when they truly are doing the right thing.
 
A

Astrovel

Guest
Thank you for your post re: rehoming. I do think that laying a guilt trip on someone who adopted a bird and finds themselves in a quandary because of various factors is a little unfair. We got our Bobo, DYH amazon about 13 years ago. We were both retired and thought since we had the time, we could teach him to talk and do tricks and be a companion for both of us. We saw an AD that we responded to. The owner lived in Conroe, TX about a 5 hour drive from us close to Houston. We made the trip to scope our the situation. We found that the owner had built a huge metal building next to his house that was crammed with birds of all kinds. There were nesting boxes attached to the walls on one end. He had cages arranged in aisles, housing all different kinds of birds. The birds' cages were stacked on top of each other up to about 6 feet. He took us to the cage that held Bobo and a female DYHA that was completely bald where feathers had been plucked out, from Bobo or what I don't know. There were no perches in the cage. Only a tree limb stretched diagonally inside the cage. The two birds were forced to constantly climb and sides and roof of the cage, with no place to perch. The tree limb was about 5 or 6 inches in diameter so it could not be considered a perch. Bobo was beautiful and we felt sorry for him so we purchased him for $500. We looked around the place and saw purple hyacinths, lots of large parrots of all colors. All the birds were screaming and you could barely hear yourself think. I don't remember if I grasped the filth at the time as there was no floor in the building, just dirt. I just wanted to get out of there. I asked the guy "what kind of diet are you using for these birds?" He said, "Don't worry about it. Just regular bird seed with lots of sunflower seeds. They'll eat whatever you put in the cage."
We think Bobo was essentially wild caught as he is not perch trained and does not like hands any where near him. We've tried for 13 years to teach him perch training but without much success. So Bobo is my sidekick, next to my desk and watches with delight when I view Youtube videos of other birds. The desk is off limits for him as he tries to go behind my monitor to find those other birds.
Now, we are in a quandary because we are 82 yrs old and are both in wheelchairs. It is getting more and more difficult to take care of them but until one of us passes on to our reward, we will persevere. We are worried about what will happen to our birds when we die or have a stroke (God forbid). We would like to find a person that would foster them until homes could be found for them. Does anyone know of an organization or rescue facility in the Fort Worth, TX area that we could reference as a Go To contact in our wills?
All our birds are in the center of the activity in our house. They would squawk and scream if they were put in a room alone. They are social beings and they want to see and be seen and talked to and be a part of a family's doings. That's why we don't want them to be sold out of a pet store where we don't know what kind of environment they would be going to.
God bless those who adopt and care for other people's former loved pets.
 

GaleriaGila

Supporting Member
May 14, 2016
14,123
2,800
Cleveland area
Parrots
The Rickeybird, 37-year-old Patagonian Conure
I have read appreciated every post here.
I am NO PARROT EXPERT, so I have only my own story. I hope it will help.
I have told it before, so please forgive me if you've already seen it.

Well, I got my bird when I was in college, with plenty of time to spend with him. As years went by (decades, in fact) he received varying levels of time. But we made it to retirement and now it's all good. Here's my suggestion. No matter how crazy your life gets, have a certain time every day that's all BIRD QUALITY TIME. The Rickeybird, for example, knew that no matter what... he had about ten minutes in the morning before work, and another ten around suppertime. I know that sounds awful, but he had a TV to watch, windows on a busy street, lots of toys, and... we made it!

So if you decide to keep your bird... schedule a certain reliable QUALITY BIRD TIME.
Enhance the room with a tv, an open window, toys, whatever you can manage.
Maybe schedule other activities as well. Cleaning, chatting with mom...grocery-shopping... that really helps ME.

And lastly, if in good conscience you decide to rehome... may it go smoothly. I praise your courage in coming here, and in thinking so hard.

Good luck. :)
 

snowflake311

New member
Jun 7, 2016
500
4
Tahoe
Parrots
Sprinkels, Black capped Conure/
Olaf, male, Budgie/
Sweetpea, female, Budgie/
RIP Kiwi, female, Senegal
Only time I considered rehoming my bird was when I had my first baby. I did not trust my bird around the baby. So I did not let her out like I use to. But the baby stage only last a short time and things go back to normal in a few years.

I found it was harder to have a bird and a baby than 3 dogs and baby. My dogs where easy to train around the baby. A bird that wants you only and gets mad at the baby is scary. You work threw it and in time everything gets better you make it work if you love your pet.

It's the same with dogs. Look at the shelters. It's sad that people see pets as disposable and not part of the family.
 
Last edited:

Most Reactions

Top