RIP my beautiful little Furbie... :'(

[PaperLantern]

As I'm typing this, I can't stop crying. I'm a mess, I've been hysterical for hours and I don't know what to do with myself.

My little baby Furbie is dead....and he wasn't even a year old. It was such a freak accident too. I don't know how to handle this...I keep thinking I'm going to hear his voice call out "Allo" (french for Hello) when I walk into the room but instead I'm greeted with silence.

Nobody understands why I'm so distraught, they all think he was just a bird but he wasn't, he was my friend and my baby. I treated him like a child and he was with me every single day. Has anyone here lost a bird? Was it this hard for you to deal with it?

I had him on my shoulder as I was cutting up some veggies for his supper. He flew off my shoulder and tried to fly into the bathroom just as my mom was shutting the bathroom door. It killed him on impact, I'm assuming it broke his neck. I held him in my arms after he passed and told him how much I loved him, I hope wherever he is he knows how much I loved him.

How am I supposed to get over this? Will I ever be able to love another parrot?

 

[Rio Mom]

I'm so so sorry for your loss. Big hugs to you!

 

[cdog]

Oh my gosh, I'm so sorry for your loss.
You dont need to think about other birds right now, just give yourself time to mourn your loss. In time if you are still thinking about other birds then you can think about getting another one. If you get one now you will just be filling a hole that doesn't need to be filled, it needs time to heal.

 

[KatherineI]

I am so so sorry for your loss. I agree with cdog; there's no need to worry or even think about another bird right now. Mourn your baby for now and when you're ready, you'll know. You will be able to love another bird - given time.

 

[Parrotmamma]

I am so sorry for your loss. I would be devastated too if I lost one of my fids. I have not lost a bird but I have lost other pets and it is very painful. But, time will heal your heart and when you are ready you will be able to love another parrot .

 

[lene1949]

What a devastating accident.. No one is to blame.. Not you - not your mom, and not Furbie... Don't say 'if only...'..... This was his time to go..

How do we get over such a loss? I think we all handle it differently, and there are different stages of the grieving process... You might be able to find something online about that, as the grieving process is the same, whether you loose a loved person or a loved pet...

I lost Shrek, my quaker, last year... A rat got into his cage... I thought he could be saved, and he suffered through the night in my hand, and most of the day at work, only to be told his injuries was too extensive and he had to be put down more than 12 hours later... He suffered for over 12 hours, because of my own selfishness.. I still find it hard to think about...

I couldn't stand the deafening silence in my home, and I think it was only a little over a month before I got Max, my alexandrine (I couldn't even think of getting another quaker at that stage)... Max was still being hand fed, and gave me a new purpose in life... He was never a replacement for Shrek and I needed him badly...

Please feel comforted in the fact, that Furbie died immediately, and didn't suffer... I'm so sorry for your loss.

 

[Mare Miller]

Ooooh! I'm so sorry, how terrible for all of you! You will know when you're ready to love again...again,,so sorry...

Sometimes I'll think about how I would feel if something happened to Amigo and I'm afraid that it would be like losing one of my kids. My heart breaks for you...

 

[suebee]

awww i am so sorry to read of your loss and i gully understand, that furby was your child. hugs

 

[antoinette]

Such a sad loss, like losing a human child.
Take your time, cry and mourn, something you need to do.

Many many members have lost bird, some so tragically and sad, and others sick.
Remember we are all here for you, if you need a shoulder to cry on, or someone to talk to, being an international forum, there is hopefully some one on-line 24/7

I have lost Congo (AG) was 11 yrs old, and a 13 month old AG Gigi.
I was absolutely devastated, they were my life.
I still think about them each and everyday, wondering what would they be doing, playing and talking.
I promised myself not to get another bird, and go through so much pain again.
After 3 years I began thinking, I have so much love to offer a bird, the time and patience, I am missing out on so much joy and happiness.
I knew no other bird could take their place.
I eventually got Mishka, my little AG, the most beautiful lovable bird.
I treasure each and every moment with him. He in return, offers so much more, without even realizing it.
When the time is right, you will know in your heart, and take the next step.
Be strong
Take care

 

[Mayden]

Don't listen to what others are saying, Furby was your baby not just a random bird that happened to live in your house.

I have lost a bird before, she was my absolute everything. She was a blue and white budgie and I too held her in my arms as she died and long afterwards, just cuddling her, crying, giving her kisses and telling her how much I loved her. Praying she knew just how much I really did love her. I buried her the next day. Those days were the hardest of my life. She was too only a young bird, just over a year old.

Grieve for your bird, don't think about wether you'll be able to love another again. You'll find that strength when the time comes, for now come to terms with your baby being gone and don't rush that. I stupidly tried to replace Wonsy over and over and nothing ever helped me heal. Until I got Merlin, he is my baby now - nothing like Wonsy but still my baby I try not to compare them because they're not the same bird. I love him more than anything I have. You too will find something like that. Don't give up and don't blame yourself or your mom. I bet she probably feels horrible for it already.

If you have any pictures of Furbie feel free to post them and just talk to us about him, I found it helped to just go on about how wonderful my baby girl was and for people to understand she was fantastic. We're all here for you. xxxx

 

[dishgal1]

So so sorry for your loss. My little green cheek yellow sided is a little over a year old. I cannot imagine life without him. I had to clip his wings because of a near accident getting outside as we went out the door. We got him back and I clipped his wings and he can still fly. They need to be shorter just to glide.
I know it is just devastating for you but please don't blame yourself. Things can happen when we least expect them. I fear this same thing happening with mine. No matter how cautious we are these little guys want to do what they want to do, and you can't seem to stop them. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

 

[aliray]

such a sad story,freak accident. my sincere condolances on the loss of your baby. Alison and sweetie pie Ps do not blame yourself it was an accident.

 

[solobaby]

i am so sorry for your loss - i dont know what i would do

 

[PaperLantern]

Thank you so much everyone.

It's been so hard....I can't even bring myself to eat its like I have no appetite. I can't bring myself to clean out his cage either. My girlfriend moved the cage into another room but whenever I go in there to try and clean it I break down.

He was such a lovely little bird, my mother and I said he was more human than parrot lol. He would say "yum yum yum" when he wanted breakfast or his supper, every night we would cuddle for a half hour before bed, and when I covered his cage he would say "love u" in that scratchy little voice of his.

He liked to follow us from room to room, and when he couldn't fly he once walked from the living room, all the way down the hallway and into my room to wake me up.

He had the cutest little habit whenever my mother would vacuum he would climb onto my hand and say all the words he knew over and over again at a very high volume. When the vacuum would shut off he would go quiet lol. I have a video of him doing that but I can't bring myself to watch it or post it anywhere.

I sort of wish I would have known it was going to be his last day...I would have skipped class and stayed home with him all day, I would have made his favorite "junk food" instead of giving him veggies for lunch. I would have cuddled him longer that day, and I wouldn't have said "no" when he tried to take a sip of my coffee.

I guess I've learned to never take a day for granted, life is so fleeting..

 

[dishgal1]

Bless your heart, my heart just aches for you. I find myself teary eyed just imagining what you are going through.
I know there is a huge void for that sweet little guy in your heart. My little green cheek does the same thing when the vacuum is running. They are so precious. You will never forget him nor should you but someday and you will know when, some other little sweetie will pick you.
Good luck and remember all the great times you had together. God bless and comfort you.