When people insult you... But have no clue that they did?!

[RavensGryf]

:21_irked:.... So I had a spare moment this afternoon to get away to Starbucks by myself.

I was looking forward to just sitting here and browsing Parrot Forums with my iPad for an hour or so. I ordered an ice water and a blueberry scone.

First, after I paid for it, she forgot all about my scone, which okay, that's not the part that irked me... She then threw the scone in the oven to warm it, which was fine although I didn't ask for it warmed. Still, that wasn't the part that irked me either...

She said "I wanted to warm it for you since the last time you were here you didn't have it warm, and it's really good warm!

To which I replied.... "I've never ordered a scone here before". She then said "oh, it was a lady that looks just like you"...

I then replied "LOL!! I don't think anyone looks just like me!"...

She then said "OH, NO A LOT OF PEOPLE LOOK JUST LIKE YOU!"

I then thought !! I'm dealing with a 'real smart one' here!
That's why I didn't press the issue and reply. I felt that she most likely 1). Didn't purposely mean to insult me 2). Was too stupid to realize you don't say stuff like that!

Apparently there are SO MANY people of my same exact look out there! I had NO idea!! Same race, style, haircut and color, same glasses... Bunch of clones haha WOW, maybe I need to change something now :11:!

I felt like telling her "Give me my tip back!" Haha

 

[Dinosrawr]

LOL! Goodness, that's definitely not a compliment, that's for sure. I can't recall many scenarios where people have accidentally insulted me (I have a terrible memory), but I do remember accidentally insulting my mother a few times as a child. When I was 5 I was watching her eat left overs out of Tupperware, and as she was eating I asked, "you're not going to eat ALL of that, are you?!" And I was only asking because I wanted some too, but she took a bit differently. I also asked her a few days later if she had a pet dinosaur.

 

[RavensGryf]

I asked, "you're not going to eat ALL of that, are you?!"

What's funny is that you know you heard that phrase before, and how kids pick things up that adults say. Funny coming from little 5 year old Chantal

 

[Allee]

Julie, I'm sorry you were insulted by a rude barista. You should have asked her if she has optical insurance, she obviously needs her eyes examined. Maybe the girl worked a double and all the customers looked the same.

 

[Kiwibird]

I'm sorry that happened to you Julie She probably didn't realize, but it is usually better not to say anything at all if your not sure someone is who you think (in a work setting). Some people have no clue.

I've gotten a few very direct insults before that took all the strength in me not to pull my taser out for a manners lesson, but can't really think of any "clueless" insults. The worst though was last summer when Joe's brother was visiting and we were all just walking around downtown, no bothering a soul in the world when some (insert fun descriptive expletive here) shouts out (at hubby and BIL) "I'm sick of seeing you people in my country, go back to where you came from!". I cannot think of a time as an adult I've actually contemplated punching someone in the face more than that (and god knows the boys were less than amused as well).

 

[Terry57]

Julie, I am quite sure there is no one like you, Sweet Pea, and I mean that as the highest compliment possible
That woman was obviously needing glasses.

The funniest insult I have ever gotten was from an acquaintance. We were chatting, and she was talking about someone she disliked, and said they were inbred. Then she looked at me and said, no offence (she knows I am from West Va.)

I stopped for a minute then actually went into hysterical laughter. She said, Oh my gosh, I didn't mean it that way, I was like, well which way did you mean it?

 

[weco]

Allee, the eye examination would probably be a waste of time & money...too many of today's customer service personnel are often little more than mental midgets wrapped up in their own lives.....

 

[RavensGryf]

OMG April!!! !!! That is absolutely horrible, and would make anyone feel the same as you 3 did! I've been insulted in that manner too a very long time ago though.

I'm 3 generations American and even have an American war 'hero' in my family, and the only culture I go by is the one I know, American. Although I LOVE to learn about different cultures because it's interesting! Anyway, I'm not of an Anglo race which is evidently upsetting to some...'individuals'. My MIL is one. I've never met her.

 

[RavensGryf]

Terry, rotfl you had me busting up too! I'd love to have seen your friend's expression when you said "which way DID you mean it?" Lol! Don't you just love stereotypes?! :18:

 

[Kalidasa]

She sounds like she's too dumb to be mean. She probably reads aloud.

 

[labell]

Here is what I see happening. Younger people now don't communicate they text or twitter or use Facebook. They have no social skills and there parents are both working too much to keep their head above the water line to teach them. No social skills and no rules of what you should and shouldn't say to people. Since I am incapable of not having a snarky remark back to rude inconsiderate people I would have said. "Since I don't have a twin, I can assure you there is no one else just like me on Earth, I am one of a kind, don't tell me you didn't do well in Science class right?"

 

[Taw5106]

The barista had a technical issue, a connection issue between her brain and her mouth, no filter, period. You did good, in moments like that just smile, nod and walk away. Don't take it personally, if you think about it she insulted herself showing she's not the sharpest tack in the bunch.

 

[RavensGryf]

Since I am incapable of not having a snarky remark back to rude inconsiderate people I would have said. "Since I don't have a twin, I can assure you there is no one else just like me on Earth, I am one of a kind, don't tell me you didn't do well in Science class right?"

I have no problem speaking up, and trust me, i'll definitely do so if needed... At least I'm much more diplomatic than hubby... Although he's the nicest guy with the biggest heart, but get him even slightly irritated in public... Oh man he'll cause an unnecessary scene :52:! No really, he's a super nice person. LOL!

I did think of the "twin" comment (too late haha) at the time I was writing the original post!

Actually, in THIS instance I dropped it BECAUSE in the midst of it, I realized that about 1/4 of me was laughing and not even mad because it was just SO STUPID it was nearly funny . Although afterwards I was sitting there eating going "wait... are there really tons of people around here who look like me?" :52:

 

[Allee]

Oh man, this thread reminded me of the worst insult I ever received, at least to my face. I was on my way to work and wearing office attire, my teenage son was with me and we stopped at a supermarket. We were joking and being silly and a woman tapped me on the shoulder and asked me what I thought I was doing. I actually said, "Excuse me?" She then asked me how old I was. My son caught on quicker and after he showed her his shocked face he replied, "She's old enough to be my mother, actually she is my mother, that's why she's buying my lunch and taking me to school". I really wanted to punch her. The woman was way too old to use age as an excuse to randomly judge and accuse a total stranger of, well, whatever she was accusing me of.

 

[Scott]

The barista had a technical issue, a connection issue between her brain and her mouth, no filter, period. You did good, in moments like that just smile, nod and walk away. Don't take it personally, if you think about it she insulted herself showing she's not the sharpest tack in the bunch.

I'm afraid some are becoming virtual androids. Nothing can go wrong, go wrong, go wrong, go wrong.......

 

[Scott]

I'm 3 generations American and even have an American war 'hero' in my family, and the only culture I go by is the one I know, American. Although I LOVE to learn about different cultures because it's interesting! Anyway, I'm not of an Anglo race which is evidently upsetting to some...'individuals'. My MIL is one. I've never met her.

You've never met your MIL??? OMG Julie, don't know whether to cry or laugh! Well, all that matters is your relationship with her son!!

 

[RavensGryf]

if you think about it she insulted herself showing she's not the sharpest tack in the bunch.

Exactly what I thought - and THAT is why part of me was more laughing and making fun of her than mad. I couldn't believe HOW stupid!

 

[Hawk]

:21_irked:.... So I had a spare moment this afternoon to get away to Starbucks by myself.

I was looking forward to just sitting here and browsing Parrot Forums with my iPad for an hour or so. I ordered an ice water and a blueberry scone.

First, after I paid for it, she forgot all about my scone, which okay, that's not the part that irked me... She then threw the scone in the oven to warm it, which was fine although I didn't ask for it warmed. Still, that wasn't the part that irked me either...

She said "I wanted to warm it for you since the last time you were here you didn't have it warm, and it's really good warm!

To which I replied.... "I've never ordered a scone here before". She then said "oh, it was a lady that looks just like you"...

I then replied "LOL!! I don't think anyone looks just like me!"...

She then said "OH, NO A LOT OF PEOPLE LOOK JUST LIKE YOU!"

I then thought !! I'm dealing with a 'real smart one' here!
That's why I didn't press the issue and reply. I felt that she most likely 1). Didn't purposely mean to insult me 2). Was too stupid to realize you don't say stuff like that!

Apparently there are SO MANY people of my same exact look out there! I had NO idea!! Same race, style, haircut and color, same glasses... Bunch of clones haha WOW, maybe I need to change something now :11:!

I felt like telling her "Give me my tip back!" Haha

You've been cloned my friend.....we're all clones !!! LOL....Seriously I there's something in the air that makes people like that person who served you incredibly dim witted. Seems everyday in my area I come across another incredibly stupid person.
For example My wife and went into a Taco Bell, and the server asked my wife ( Noticing her British accent) " Are you from the U.K., or Great Britain ???" My wife glanced over at me real quick and I could read her thoughts...( Is she for real?) So my wife being incredibly swift in her thinking and way of words said..." I'm from England"....to which the server replied..."oh..well that's different"....My wife said, "Noooo, it's all the same ."....the server looked really lost then. LOL...My wife said as we sat down, " Really? Really???, what do they teach young adults now in school anyway?"

 

[veimar]

You should have told her to get new eyeglasses if she cannot make difference between people! LOL I wouldn't get offended at all... Just would say something funny. I remember unintentionally offending one lady at an art fair - we sat at the neighboring tables chatting and selling our stuff, and I asked her - BTW, what's our real job? (because most people there work somewhere else too.) She looked at me kinda puzzled and told me - well, this is my JOB, and I make $3000-5000 a day. I felt SOOO bad... OMG... Luckily she was nice enough to take my sincere apology.

 

[Flboy]

Hey, with my son at universal studio's, Florida. Screwup in the line control while waiting to get on the back to the future ride. There is now a German family in front of me, that I was sure cut every one! Well, tired, hot, hungry, I decided to make a stand. Told them what I thought, and how dare they act that way. They came back with disbelief and ignorance. So, I pulled the immigrant card, how dare you come to our country and act stupid just to screw us over, ya they understood English! Well, we parted, and,,, I then realized with the screwup in the line control, it was me who jumped ahead of over 100 people! Explaining this to my 14 year old son, we got onto the car-with- yes! I groveled, apologized, tried to explain. Outcome, I didn't get punched, and I am very cautious about making a righteous stand!