caprifolia
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- Oct 14, 2013
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Hi everyone! I'm hoping for some advice and support.
I'm a first-time bird owner with a 5-year-old pionus who I adopted two months ago. Things are mostly great. He is well socialized, eats healthy food, enjoys my attention, and is receptive to training. I've been able to get him target trained, and he just learned how to wave. He gets so excited about training, and I think it has been a major source of bonding for us.
The major problem I'm having, I think, is me. Sometimes Edwin bites, and usually I can pinpoint why after-the-fact. For instance, this morning. A few weeks ago, Edwin began letting me give him neck scratches -- but only sometimes, and only on his terms. Sometimes I try to give him neck scratches when he doesn't explicitly demand them, and he usually accepts them, but sometimes puffs up or makes a bit of a hiss noise as if saying "No, I don't want neck scratches now." Usually I heed this warning and stop insisting on giving him scratches. This morning, I think I kept trying one time too many even after he gave me his warnings, and he lunged at my finger, which I pulled away. Then, he leaned down and bit my arm that he was standing on. It hurt and drew blood, and I reacted very angrily.
I know part of the answer is that I should be a little more hands off and only try to touch him when he wants me to. But the larger problem is how I react when he bites. I'm not going to lie -- it hurts, and I act harshly. When he bites like that and draws blood, I, in the heat of the moment, usually launch him off my arm, pick him up angrily with a perch, put him in his cage, and promptly cover it up for 5 minutes. I know my reaction comes off as extremely aggressive to him, and I'm sure it's not good for our relationship.
Do you have any advice on how I might calm down and not react so harshly when he bites? I want to react in the least damaging way possible, but it's hard, and I'm not quite sure how I should react anyway. I also want to know if maybe the more fundamental problem is that I am imposing on him too much... maybe avoiding the biting situations is what I really need to focus on. That would certainly be easier than calming down after receiving a bloody parrot bite!
I'm a first-time bird owner with a 5-year-old pionus who I adopted two months ago. Things are mostly great. He is well socialized, eats healthy food, enjoys my attention, and is receptive to training. I've been able to get him target trained, and he just learned how to wave. He gets so excited about training, and I think it has been a major source of bonding for us.
The major problem I'm having, I think, is me. Sometimes Edwin bites, and usually I can pinpoint why after-the-fact. For instance, this morning. A few weeks ago, Edwin began letting me give him neck scratches -- but only sometimes, and only on his terms. Sometimes I try to give him neck scratches when he doesn't explicitly demand them, and he usually accepts them, but sometimes puffs up or makes a bit of a hiss noise as if saying "No, I don't want neck scratches now." Usually I heed this warning and stop insisting on giving him scratches. This morning, I think I kept trying one time too many even after he gave me his warnings, and he lunged at my finger, which I pulled away. Then, he leaned down and bit my arm that he was standing on. It hurt and drew blood, and I reacted very angrily.
I know part of the answer is that I should be a little more hands off and only try to touch him when he wants me to. But the larger problem is how I react when he bites. I'm not going to lie -- it hurts, and I act harshly. When he bites like that and draws blood, I, in the heat of the moment, usually launch him off my arm, pick him up angrily with a perch, put him in his cage, and promptly cover it up for 5 minutes. I know my reaction comes off as extremely aggressive to him, and I'm sure it's not good for our relationship.
Do you have any advice on how I might calm down and not react so harshly when he bites? I want to react in the least damaging way possible, but it's hard, and I'm not quite sure how I should react anyway. I also want to know if maybe the more fundamental problem is that I am imposing on him too much... maybe avoiding the biting situations is what I really need to focus on. That would certainly be easier than calming down after receiving a bloody parrot bite!