SleepyLuca
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(Long; mentions of anxiety & depression)
I’ve had my boy from the day his egg was laid, and I love him with all my heart and soul. But my mental health has taken a huge dip and it’s getting to the point where I can no longer function. Sadly this is because of my boy, his increasing aggression being the main factor in my mental health decline.
He’s been attacking everyone in the house besides me and my mom, and that now includes him flying to my sister to scare and/or attack her. He even locks his focus on to attacking the little birds so much that if I interfere- I get injured because he attacks me so he can keep attacking them. And his cage aggression has gotten to the point where he’s starting to injure me there too, along with taking advantage of my anxiety by making noises to make me think I’m hurting him so I’ll stop and let him stay out.
I’m just not physically and mentally equipped for this kind of behavior, and I know he needs to go to someone who is. I’m trying to do what’s best for him but it’s still hard because of how much he helped me in the beginning and how much I love him now. Having to rehome him is an incredibly sad situation for me, but there’s no other option because of where I’m at mentally.
My parents and therapists all noticed his affect on my health and agree that it’s the best thing to do for both of us, not just me. We found this gorgeous outdoor sanctuary with spacey perches, countless safety measures, a limit on how many people can enter the sanctuary at once and volunteers that absolutely adore the birds they work with. They take in rescues and birds that can no longer be cared for, and even seeing some of these birds with almost every feather plucked, thriving now because of this place makes me confident that my baby would be so happy there. I didn’t even get the SLIGHTEST whiff of stress hormones from any of the birds, which is something I’ve never experienced at a bird place, so that just made my heart soar. And! They don’t even let you handle the birdies unless they know for a fact that you can do it confidently, keeping both you and the bird safe and stress free :’)
The place keeps them for at LEAST 6 months before allowing them to be adopted, in order to make sure they’re physically and mentally prepared to take on a new home. All the birds are clean, happy, playful, outgoing and incredibly healthy and everybody there are experienced bird handlers and trainers. It’s absolutely beautiful there and I do feel a lot better abt this decision now that I’ve seen all this.
I truly think the biggest reason I’ve been so upset about this is because of the severity of my anxiety. I really can’t do anything without some sort of fear, especially when it comes to change or if it affects those around me- and this happens to be both so it’s just an incredibly stressful situation for me. When things like this happen I tend to shut down and become incapable of functioning, which has already started and which is not an option since my senior year is starting tomorrow. I’ve already been bedridden for the past two days because of the anxiety and depression this has put me through, so if anyone has a way to make this even just a tiny bit easier, please let me know. I’m open to any and all suggestions.
Thank you all for reading this, I appreciate it :’)🤍🤍
I’ve had my boy from the day his egg was laid, and I love him with all my heart and soul. But my mental health has taken a huge dip and it’s getting to the point where I can no longer function. Sadly this is because of my boy, his increasing aggression being the main factor in my mental health decline.
He’s been attacking everyone in the house besides me and my mom, and that now includes him flying to my sister to scare and/or attack her. He even locks his focus on to attacking the little birds so much that if I interfere- I get injured because he attacks me so he can keep attacking them. And his cage aggression has gotten to the point where he’s starting to injure me there too, along with taking advantage of my anxiety by making noises to make me think I’m hurting him so I’ll stop and let him stay out.
I’m just not physically and mentally equipped for this kind of behavior, and I know he needs to go to someone who is. I’m trying to do what’s best for him but it’s still hard because of how much he helped me in the beginning and how much I love him now. Having to rehome him is an incredibly sad situation for me, but there’s no other option because of where I’m at mentally.
My parents and therapists all noticed his affect on my health and agree that it’s the best thing to do for both of us, not just me. We found this gorgeous outdoor sanctuary with spacey perches, countless safety measures, a limit on how many people can enter the sanctuary at once and volunteers that absolutely adore the birds they work with. They take in rescues and birds that can no longer be cared for, and even seeing some of these birds with almost every feather plucked, thriving now because of this place makes me confident that my baby would be so happy there. I didn’t even get the SLIGHTEST whiff of stress hormones from any of the birds, which is something I’ve never experienced at a bird place, so that just made my heart soar. And! They don’t even let you handle the birdies unless they know for a fact that you can do it confidently, keeping both you and the bird safe and stress free :’)
The place keeps them for at LEAST 6 months before allowing them to be adopted, in order to make sure they’re physically and mentally prepared to take on a new home. All the birds are clean, happy, playful, outgoing and incredibly healthy and everybody there are experienced bird handlers and trainers. It’s absolutely beautiful there and I do feel a lot better abt this decision now that I’ve seen all this.
I truly think the biggest reason I’ve been so upset about this is because of the severity of my anxiety. I really can’t do anything without some sort of fear, especially when it comes to change or if it affects those around me- and this happens to be both so it’s just an incredibly stressful situation for me. When things like this happen I tend to shut down and become incapable of functioning, which has already started and which is not an option since my senior year is starting tomorrow. I’ve already been bedridden for the past two days because of the anxiety and depression this has put me through, so if anyone has a way to make this even just a tiny bit easier, please let me know. I’m open to any and all suggestions.
Thank you all for reading this, I appreciate it :’)🤍🤍