yellowtang
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- Feb 8, 2018
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Hi all, and thanks for having me on the forum.
sorry in advance for the long post..
I've had Kali since she was a 4 month old baby and from a good breeder in New Brunswick, Canada.
she's been with me since September 2011 and has grown into an amazingly intelligent girl.
I'm sure like most who owns a grey can relate to just how amazing they can be. her whistles, her talking, her games, the way she always wants to be near me or on me.. how she will crawl up under my chin when it's time for bed and refuse to let go of my shirt
loves to play with me, cuddle, be in the shower.. she's just sooo awesome
other than a shrieking/knocking sound she makes when she knows I'm there but can't see me.. all good...
BUT
all that said and I've made it short.. I'm the only one in the family who has feelings for her.
-my wife, can't stand her as she will scream and vocalize a lot it seems when I'm not there and she's at home. She never tried to get to tame her, handle her or socialize with her.. tried at first but she being stubborn wanted the parrot to adjust to her and not the other way around..
-my oldest teenager now, listened and Kali does step up and socialize with him a little more, but now an 18 year old with the I don't care attitude, just !!! doesn't care anymore
-youngest son, 13 now, as always been afraid of her and she knows this and takes advantage of it. sometimes he will listen to me and do as I say and all id well, but, most time not.
now the real issue and where I just don't know what to do and almost a shame being an adult male and so cornered and sad..
my wife is border line facing a light depression, went to the doctor and is just now taking something to help her.
but she's blaming the parrot and saying that she is driving her insane, just can't stand it anymore.. ( sorry for the personal info but figured it was important)
so for the last 4 years++ the family has been at me, to find her a new home, which I've categorically said NO, never going to happen.. and yet here I am cornered
after all this time, and having the wife on a nervous brake down, I had posted an add locally to see the interest and maybe find a good family .
I got so many replies that I was freaking out.. 99% of the interested people got flushed out.
e:
- the ones asking sex and age NOPE, intent on breeding
-the ones low balling NOPE either to re sell or as I mentioned to them politely, you can't afford the asking price, you can't afford to care for her.
-others wanted just the bird, again nope she has to keep all of her stuff
-and the list goes on, but I'm sure you all get the picture.
anyhow, along came a cute young couple who seems very capable and interested.. they came over twice to see her and spend some time with her to see the reaction..
wasn't too bad, but she's home with me near by..
forced by the wife, I went along and accepted a deposit all along telling them that.. I could change my mind before she goes.
or if we do go forward, if she acts nervous, doesn't adapt, shakes, screams and is just not happy, I want her back and will have a contract done up..
STILL....
that day is coming up slowly (end of the month they said ) and I'm getting worst every day just knowing she might be sad ( WILL BE) sad or depressed of losing her what should be her for ever home.
again sorry for the long post and I know that no one can actually do anything to help.
but please feel free to chip in with anything..
her personality which seems I'm the only one who can see it..will be missed, even with the annoying screeching she likes to do in order to get attention.. but having her good bye see you later when I leave in the morning to the hello when I walk in and watchya doing when I'm cleaning up her cage that will I will miss..
but it's almost to the point where it's Kali or a divorce, maybe not a divorce but wife getting more stressed out.. last 4 years I keep telling her, she will get better in time as she gets older.. finally got her to understand, when she gets too agitated, just put her cover on the cage, that clams her down, she does it now, but still, not enough..
let me know what you all think, don't be afraid to be rough on me, I'm not one to get insulted or get it the wrong way I just need some advice and different point of views from people who understand parrots and the humans who own and love them..
thanks for reading
Steph
sorry in advance for the long post..
I've had Kali since she was a 4 month old baby and from a good breeder in New Brunswick, Canada.
she's been with me since September 2011 and has grown into an amazingly intelligent girl.
I'm sure like most who owns a grey can relate to just how amazing they can be. her whistles, her talking, her games, the way she always wants to be near me or on me.. how she will crawl up under my chin when it's time for bed and refuse to let go of my shirt
loves to play with me, cuddle, be in the shower.. she's just sooo awesome
other than a shrieking/knocking sound she makes when she knows I'm there but can't see me.. all good...
BUT
all that said and I've made it short.. I'm the only one in the family who has feelings for her.
-my wife, can't stand her as she will scream and vocalize a lot it seems when I'm not there and she's at home. She never tried to get to tame her, handle her or socialize with her.. tried at first but she being stubborn wanted the parrot to adjust to her and not the other way around..
-my oldest teenager now, listened and Kali does step up and socialize with him a little more, but now an 18 year old with the I don't care attitude, just !!! doesn't care anymore
-youngest son, 13 now, as always been afraid of her and she knows this and takes advantage of it. sometimes he will listen to me and do as I say and all id well, but, most time not.
now the real issue and where I just don't know what to do and almost a shame being an adult male and so cornered and sad..
my wife is border line facing a light depression, went to the doctor and is just now taking something to help her.
but she's blaming the parrot and saying that she is driving her insane, just can't stand it anymore.. ( sorry for the personal info but figured it was important)
so for the last 4 years++ the family has been at me, to find her a new home, which I've categorically said NO, never going to happen.. and yet here I am cornered
after all this time, and having the wife on a nervous brake down, I had posted an add locally to see the interest and maybe find a good family .
I got so many replies that I was freaking out.. 99% of the interested people got flushed out.
e:
- the ones asking sex and age NOPE, intent on breeding
-the ones low balling NOPE either to re sell or as I mentioned to them politely, you can't afford the asking price, you can't afford to care for her.
-others wanted just the bird, again nope she has to keep all of her stuff
-and the list goes on, but I'm sure you all get the picture.
anyhow, along came a cute young couple who seems very capable and interested.. they came over twice to see her and spend some time with her to see the reaction..
wasn't too bad, but she's home with me near by..
forced by the wife, I went along and accepted a deposit all along telling them that.. I could change my mind before she goes.
or if we do go forward, if she acts nervous, doesn't adapt, shakes, screams and is just not happy, I want her back and will have a contract done up..
STILL....
that day is coming up slowly (end of the month they said ) and I'm getting worst every day just knowing she might be sad ( WILL BE) sad or depressed of losing her what should be her for ever home.
again sorry for the long post and I know that no one can actually do anything to help.
but please feel free to chip in with anything..
her personality which seems I'm the only one who can see it..will be missed, even with the annoying screeching she likes to do in order to get attention.. but having her good bye see you later when I leave in the morning to the hello when I walk in and watchya doing when I'm cleaning up her cage that will I will miss..
but it's almost to the point where it's Kali or a divorce, maybe not a divorce but wife getting more stressed out.. last 4 years I keep telling her, she will get better in time as she gets older.. finally got her to understand, when she gets too agitated, just put her cover on the cage, that clams her down, she does it now, but still, not enough..
let me know what you all think, don't be afraid to be rough on me, I'm not one to get insulted or get it the wrong way I just need some advice and different point of views from people who understand parrots and the humans who own and love them..
thanks for reading
Steph