My baby budgie just died

[skypie739]

My 2 year old budgie was eating when he starting making a gagging / choking sensation then collapsed. I dont know if he went unconscious or died on the spot but he was completely still when we rushed him to the vet. The vet told me that he wasnt choking so it's more likely there was an underlying disease or infection. I noticed he made gagging behaviours before but thought he was adjusting his crop or something. I think I will always regret not double checking with the vet. I feel like losing a pet is so hard because everybody doesnt take it seriously. My family expects me to be up on my feet the day after he died but I am in so much emotional pain because he mattered more to me than all my friends and (controversially) family combined. He became such a constant in my life that im remembered he's not around anymore all the time. I wish I could have done more for him. And I feel like im alone in my grief. Does anyone else feel this way when they lost their bird? How did you move past the pain of missing them and all the regrets?

 

[GivemeSeedsorgivemeFlesh]

I'm so sorry you lost your beautiful little bird! It's a real loss, and there are many here who understand that. You may wish to get another one at some point, but it won't in any way replace the one that you lost. Family probably won't ever understand, so I wouldn't spend too much energy trying to change them.

 

[Jcas]

I’m so sorry for your loss. Our Birds so often become a part of our hearts and losing them causes a very real pain. Allow yourself to grieve the loss of your little friend and know that there is no ‘right’ way to grieve; it is different for each person. Over time, you will find yourself remembering more of the happy times with your bird and less of the sadness you are feeling now, although I don’t think the sadness ever disappears completely and that’s okay, too. I find that opening my heart to a new bird helps fill that missing piece in my life but that decision is different for everyone. Hang in there and know that everyone on this forum does understand your grief

 

[Vampiric_Conure]

Keep your chin up! You did what you could for your pal, and was clearly loved a lot. **Hugs**

 

[LaManuka]

I'm so terribly sorry for your loss, @skypie739, and I'm sorry the people around you are not more supportive. You are right to feel the way you feel, losing a beloved little bird IS very hard to deal with because they are such pure little souls who love us unconditionally. Please try not to blame yourself, which is easier said than done I know because I always blame myself when it happens to me, but the pain of loss is bad enough already without layering it up with all the "what ifs". I have lost little birds when they were only young too and there are very few worse feelings in the world, but it's the "what ifs" that will make the grief even harder. Your baby knew how much he was loved though, and he would not want you to blame yourself. I'm glad you're here, among people who truly understand how much this hurts, and you have my most sincere and heartfelt condolences.

 

[skypie739]

Thank you for all the kind words These past days have been so hard but I feel a bit better now. It's still so heartbreaking looking back at all the old photos and memories but hopefully time will heal all wounds

 

[DonnaBudgie]

I feel your pain! Losing a budgie you love so much is devastating. Allow yourself to grieve- don't let others convince you that your budgies life wasn't worth grieving over. Dont forget that we do what we can for our birds but sometimes their illnesses are mysterious and untreatable.

 

[DonnaBudgie]

Post pictures of your beloved budgie.

 

[skypie739]

Post pictures of your beloved budgie.

This is my little baby

 

[DonnaBudgie]

Wow! He's beautiful! Is he English? Looks like a big boy.

 

[skypie739]

Wow! He's beautiful! Is he English? Looks like a big boy.

He is very handsome isnt he? Hes quite small IRL so I think it's more likely that he's an australian budgie

 

[LaManuka]

This is my little baby View attachment 83803

Such a handsome fellow, @skypie739! He looks a lot like my Valentino who I lost in 2024