Nebbles_92
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I am writing to this forum for some help. My boyfriend has a quaker parrot and she is around 5 years old, he had her from a baby. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 2.5 years. When I first started visiting his house, the parrot (her name is Choco) was kept out of the cage. She was very friendly towards me and we had a good bond. One day out of the blur for no obvious reason, she took a dislike to me. I am unsure as to why. I have spend hours thinking of this and doing research. She started dive bombing me and made a small cut under my eye, she used to bite and scream. One day, we returned home from being out and she flew at my boyfriend just as he was flicking his headphone out of his ears and the headphone hot her in the head, she seemed very dazzled by this and temporarily was unable to fly. This only lasted a few minutes and she was fine again. We took her to the vets to get her checked out. We all came to the decision that for her own safety, she would need to remain in her cage. She has a huge stunning cage with lots of toys that we try to rotate but the trouble is, she is absolutely petrified of anything new in her cage. When anything new is introduced, she cowers in the corner of her cage. It got to the point I was unable to walk by her cage. She used to lunge and hiss and scream at me. It was so distressing that I avoided going downstairs unless I needed to. I prepared all my drinks and meals in the morning and placed them upstairs so I didn't have to walk by her. I also spend a lot of time out of the house. I have tried everything I can think of to try and win her over. I have tried tempting her with treats but she won't let me get close enough to give them. I spend hours trying to talk to her when I was in, I tried letting her out and she would just dive bomb me, that is why I made the decision to stay out of her way as I felt like I was distressing her. We have moved out of our house and into a flat. Her behaviour has got so much worse. She is constantly screaming. The noise has brought me to tears several times. I feel I am unable to be inside the flat due to the noise. I am worried about the neighbours too. She also tries to attack visitors we have in our home. This includes my boyfriends son. I have tries talking to him about her and he gets very defensive and lists all the reasons why her behaviour is my fault even though I have done so much research and tried everything I can think of. Any discussion about Chocos behaviour always ends in an argument and him threatening to get rid of her. I feel like it's getting to a point where I'm going to have to move out and we are going to have to live separate. I don't want him to get rid of her as I love her to bits. It won't be fair on her to rehome her and also I feel like my boyfriend will always hold it against me. I just cannot continue to be forced out of my own home. My boyfriend gets her out as much as he can but when she is put, she won't fly or get any exercise, she just sits on his shoulders and climbs on him. Please help. Thanks in advance.
The main problem is the noise. We have read that ignoring them is the way forward but she can go on for hours with us ignoring her. She gets rewarded with good behaviour.
The main problem is the noise. We have read that ignoring them is the way forward but she can go on for hours with us ignoring her. She gets rewarded with good behaviour.
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