Parrot family problems.

[goalerjones]

I get mixed results when the subject comes up. My wife however is the one who noticed the difference in my personality with a bird in my life. I lost one, then was afraid of reliving the tragedy, but after about a year she made the suggestion for me to consider getting another. And we've had stinky the midget in our lives ever since.

 

[Anansi]

I agree with the general trend of thought, here. There is a difference between having consideration for others, and allowing them to unduly influence the trajectory of your life.

But here's my take, for what it's worth. Bring your "filthy, disease-ridden" parrots into your home. When you don't drop dead in the next year or two, their argument will likely die the death they expected you to. Once you get the parrots, this debate with his family acquires an expiration date, no?

 

[Terry57]

Joshua, I was wondering if you have told the in laws about Arya yet? If so, how did it go?

 

[noblemacaw]

I am going through a situation right now with our parrots. Valentino is my parrot where Julio is Lupe's parrot. When our relationship ended and are going though the desolve of property and who gets what routine it was decided that Lupe would take Julio. I understood why she needed to take him and I had planned on getting another parrot so I can have two birds to make up for Julio's loss.

After visiting her new partner I was asked if I could keep Julio. I was shocked because Lupe was insistent that she was to take him when she moved out. When I asked her why she no longer wanted Julio she said it was because her partner did not like animals in the house. I was shocked because Lupe is a huge animal lover (which is why we have a lot of pets to begin with. We are both huge animal lovers).

What was I to think about that request. Natural reaction was to agree to keep the little naked boy that no one wanted in rescue. I would never have the heart to "return" him to the rescue anyway. I will keep Julio and work hard to help his life be more fulfilling. My problem is I will not be able to afford his vet care as he goes to see the doctor way more than Valentino does (he only goes in once a year so that cost I will be able to handle) Lupe promised to pay for Julio's vet care and his food and promised to buy Julio a better cage as his current cage is too large and uncomfortable for his balance problem (no wing and tail feathers to help with balance) I will hold her to these promises so before she moves out a new cage for Julio will be bought.

What I am trying to say is you need to be true to yourselves and the fact that you have parrots as companions is no one elses concern/business but who lives under the roof with you. I personally have a feeling down the line Lupe's new partner will have a "problem" with Lupe "supporting" Julio's care. By then it is my hope to be able to afford his care myself. Your "inlaws" really have no say what goes on in your own home. I can understand the discomfort because you want to respect them but they must also respect you.

I am confused...do the 4 birds listed in your tag live with you both currently??