sprince
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I'm sad.
I adopted a 6 year old female U2 last month. This came after lots of soul searching, education and looking for the right bird. My original plan was to get a baby. I had a cockatoo 25 years ago, that I really loved. I had her for 8 years. I was newly married and pregnant with a child that was born with complications. My bird was strongly bonded to me and was getting aggressive with everyone. I sadly gave her to a breeder, but I couldn't have her charging at my newborn baby...
25 years later. Like I said, I was looking for a baby, but couldn't find one. Plus I succumbed to pressure on the board to find an adoptable bird, after comments about so many unwanted birds.....
Now my bird appears to have bonded very strongly to my 19 year old daughter. She is showing signs already of mating behaviors. I have cautioned her not to rub the bird below the neck, but she admits she does when the bird lifts her wing and gets all cuddly. I know that I have done the same thing. Pippa doesn't display mating behavior with me though. Now she charges at me with "crazy eyes" if my daughter is in the room. Its frightening and painful. If my daughter isn't in the room, shes a angel with me. I am the only one who feeds her, cleans her cage, etc. She is so loving with me when we are alone. Sometimes her eyes kind of go blank looking at me, and she just attacks my face. Up until today, I haven't been afraid of her and I handle the situation. I don't use negative discipline and I end each interaction on a positive note. Until today.
She attacked me twice, aggressively, at my eyes. My daughter had to get her off of me. We put her right in her cage where she turned all sweet and loving again. Grrrrrr....
So, I'm sad. I've wanted this bird for so long. I only want her to be happy, but my daughter is going to be moving out in 6 months to go to college. SHe can't take Pippa either. THe reason I wanted a cockatoo was to fill my empty nest. Now I'm afraid I'll end up with an empty next AND an angry bird in my otherwise empty nest.
Do you experts think that I can get her to lessen her bond with my daughter and form a strong bond with me? I know we've only had her a short time (1 month) My daughter is willing to stop holding her at all to help the situation.
Please give me suggestions. I appreciate it!
I adopted a 6 year old female U2 last month. This came after lots of soul searching, education and looking for the right bird. My original plan was to get a baby. I had a cockatoo 25 years ago, that I really loved. I had her for 8 years. I was newly married and pregnant with a child that was born with complications. My bird was strongly bonded to me and was getting aggressive with everyone. I sadly gave her to a breeder, but I couldn't have her charging at my newborn baby...
25 years later. Like I said, I was looking for a baby, but couldn't find one. Plus I succumbed to pressure on the board to find an adoptable bird, after comments about so many unwanted birds.....
Now my bird appears to have bonded very strongly to my 19 year old daughter. She is showing signs already of mating behaviors. I have cautioned her not to rub the bird below the neck, but she admits she does when the bird lifts her wing and gets all cuddly. I know that I have done the same thing. Pippa doesn't display mating behavior with me though. Now she charges at me with "crazy eyes" if my daughter is in the room. Its frightening and painful. If my daughter isn't in the room, shes a angel with me. I am the only one who feeds her, cleans her cage, etc. She is so loving with me when we are alone. Sometimes her eyes kind of go blank looking at me, and she just attacks my face. Up until today, I haven't been afraid of her and I handle the situation. I don't use negative discipline and I end each interaction on a positive note. Until today.
She attacked me twice, aggressively, at my eyes. My daughter had to get her off of me. We put her right in her cage where she turned all sweet and loving again. Grrrrrr....
So, I'm sad. I've wanted this bird for so long. I only want her to be happy, but my daughter is going to be moving out in 6 months to go to college. SHe can't take Pippa either. THe reason I wanted a cockatoo was to fill my empty nest. Now I'm afraid I'll end up with an empty next AND an angry bird in my otherwise empty nest.
Do you experts think that I can get her to lessen her bond with my daughter and form a strong bond with me? I know we've only had her a short time (1 month) My daughter is willing to stop holding her at all to help the situation.
Please give me suggestions. I appreciate it!