Thank you guys so much for taking the time to give me suggestions!! I should have known that Cake (my green cheek) would be sensitive since he's so emotional:-)

I've been giving him treats for coming over to my hand and I'm sure it'll take a while but I'm hoping that he'll just come around after he realizes I'll never be mean again!! ;-)

Any suggestions for small treats that won't make him fat? (I have to give him a bunch if this is gonna work! ;-)

Does he like millet spray? I know cockatiels go crazy for it.

Also nuts are good, I give Rosie walnuts that I slice into bite size pieces. Most nuts are much healthier then seeds. Also noodles are great too.

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UPDATE:

First off, thank you SO much for all of the helpful suggestions! I've been doing a TON of training and positive response stuff and it's WORKING!!

It's been about 24 hours since I started and he's already 60% back to where we were before! I'm so excited that there is a light at the end of my tunnel and that my bestie and I can cuddle again soon:-)

THANK YOU!!!

I thought I would add to this conversation. My GCC Sophia is doing the same exact thing and I do not wear nail polish or have I changed my hairdo. I have had her for 4 years and have never experienced this. She loves to come to my shoulder, but is totally afraid of my hands. She's never had fear of hands before. She is fine once she's in my hand, and I assure her it's okay - yet it's getting her in my hand that is tricky. To make matters even more curious - at night, she is not afraid of my hands.

The only thing I can think is going on is that I use to groom/pinch her pin feathers with my fingers when I was holding her, sometimes a pit prematurely and this causes her pain. Of course I never meant to hurt her, be that as it may - my hand caused her pain. Either that or one time when she bit me when she was on my shoulder and had gotten scared of something I was holding, I grabbed her defensively - quickly and tightly, as I was reacting in much pain. I may have been too forceful. Finally, my last theory is that this has something to do with her hormones. She's been known to rub on my hand when she's horny. She only does this to me and nobody else. Maybe she has somehow sexualized my hand, and when I go to grab her now she is "not in the mood".

If we put our thinking and experiences together her maybe we can figure out just what is going on. To the OP, what is the status now of your situation? Has it improved?

I don't think it was the wing clipping, especially given the timing. People who trim their birds regularly generally just "make up" with them right away and don't report ongoing problems. I never had a problem when we were doing Scooter ourselves, but Scotty has a bit of an issue with being groomed, so I have caved and been taking everybody to the parrot store for trimming where I don't have to worry about being bad guy at all.

The putting one foot up and then being unsure... Scooter sometimes does this. I've not completely figured it out, but I think sometimes I get a little distracted or casual and take him out rather quickly or whiz his little head right by a toy or the door opening. Try slowing way down...

Just a thought...
you say you always wash your hands, have you changed the soap? Maybe it has a different perfume.

Alright here is another view maybe it has nothing to do with clipping his wings but let me just guess you are the one who gets him out and puts him away for night nite? You got him out the day of the clipping? It just might be that your hubby needs to be the one who gets him out and put him up for the night so he doesn't associate you with the one who spoils all his fun (i.e. Hanging out on the couch and flying) just a suggestion try the role reversal for a week or so and you be the one who does all the fun things with your bird. Couldn't hurt.

Does your conure love you again?

I HAVE THE SAME EXACT PROBLEM. AND ITS HEARTBREAKING.

My conure Kiko used to run to the cage door so i would take him out. Now he hides int he back. About a week ago i fell asleep with him under my covers and someone knocked on the door and he just panicked. Ever since he wont come out his cage, or let me grab him. I tricked him into coming out yesterday and he went into straight panic mode and flew against the wall. It was so sad

Iv ebeen giving him space and feeding him from my hand, but he still wont come to me.

I miss my bestfriend too. Im about to go to pet store and spoil him with lots of toys. hoepfully he will forgive me for whatever I did.


help!

alieng88, it may take more time than a week for your green cheek to settle down. Unfortunately, it sounds like he associated the scary knocking with you, so he needs time to learn you aren't a thread to him.

The best you can do is to give him time to settle down again and try not to appear threatening to him. Also, try to avoid putting him in situations that will result in him going into panic mode.

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