Goodbye Monkey

[BlinkingLizard]

I have not been a member of this community long, but I am sorry to say that my lovebird Monkey passed away this week. He was seventeen years old. It happened at home, and now I don't know what to do with his body. I don't want to put him out with the trash, but can't afford a pet cremation service. I don't own any property I could legally bury him on.

-Lizard

 

[GaleriaGila]

Oh, wow, Lizard... so very sorry. Even though I don't know you and never set eyes on your bird, I feel your loss deep in my heart. I'm glad you're reaching out.
I don't know what to suggest, but I bet others will. I'll do some more thinking, too.
Meanwhile, I'm just glad you're here.

 

[wrench13]

I am very sorry to hear this, and you have my sympathy. A donation has been made in Monkeys name to the Cornell Vet College, for Parrot relalted heath studies. Why not go to your local park, and bury Monkey at the base of a nice looking sapling of a tree, and you can visit him see how strong that tree is becoming, because of Monkey.

 

[Flboy]

I am so sorry for your pain!
When I was younger, I always did a 'burial at sea'. I would wrap them up and add something for weight. The nearest bridge was my site.
Otherwise a quick ride in the country?

 

[Kentuckienne]

I'm sorry for the loss of Monkey. Seventeen years is a long time.

 

[EllenD]

I'm so sorry, this is never an easy thing to go through and you and Monkey are in my thoughts, and I'm sending you positive energy.

I know this is a horrible problem to have to deal with after losing a family member, and not at all pleasant to talk about, but I certainly would not put him in the trash. As Sailboat already said I would wrap him up in a towel, blanket, or if he had a favorite hammock or sleeping hut you can use that, and then put him in a box that you can bury him in. Then I'd just find a spot that you know, maybe a place that is special to you either in a park or in the forest somewhere, and I'd bury him there, and mark his grave by putting a large rock over top of his grave. Or you could find a tree and bury him at the base. Either way you'll be able to visit Monkey and give him the memorial he deserves.

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[BeatriceC]

I'm so sorry about the loss of Monkey. I don't have any ideas of what you can do to bury him, but I will say you don't need to make the decision right away. We lost our beloved, elderly cockatiel in September and he's actually still in our freezer waiting for my stepdaughter, who lives on the other side of the country, to be able to fly out here for his funeral. We wrapped him well in a layer of plastic wrap, then foil, then in a ziplock bag and placed him in a safe place in the freezer to wait until we can bury him with all the kids present. You can do something similar with Monkey until you can figure out what to do with him legally. That might also take some pressure off you while you're still grieving.

 

[BlinkingLizard]

Thank you, everyone. He is currently resting with his fuzzy buddy in a tissue box (he always loved tissue boxes) and plastic bag in my freezer while I decide what to do. I live in NYC and don't have a car, so it's difficult to find anyplace appropriate to bury him.

-Lizard

 

[EllenD]

Thank you, everyone. He is currently resting with his fuzzy buddy in a tissue box (he always loved tissue boxes) and plastic bag in my freezer while I decide what to do. I live in NYC and don't have a car, so it's difficult to find anyplace appropriate to bury him.

-Lizard

Central Park somewhere? It is a beautiful area. As stated you don't have to rush your decision.

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[Scott]

My deepest condolences for your loss of Monkey. I know you have many comforting memories, and in time they will be brighter than grief.

If you have checked cremation prices and find them to be uncomfortable, might any relatives or very close friends have owned land for burial?

 

[wrench13]

Lizard, if you like, our house is on a 1/2 acre in Suffolk county. Monkey is more then welcome to join Maxie, Rasha, Mr. Duckie and a few other family pets ( only 1 is a parrot), that have passed in our family over the last 30 years, under the big boulder at the base of a strong Oak sapling. We will even inscribe is name on the boulder. Its a nice drive out and you can visit him whenever.

 

[plumsmum2005]

@ wrench13 What a lovely kind offer, a really lovely final resting place for a loved one. Bless you.

All that is needed now is some decent, reasonably priced public transport for BlinkingLizard to reach you LOL.

@ BlinkingLizard so very sorry for the loss of your little fuzzy one, fly free little one.

 

[wrench13]

LIRR for weekends is $13.25, from Penn Station to the stop in our town, about 2 min from me. Sorry Lizard, nothing cheaper then that besides hitchhiking.

 

[Mariar]

I'm so sorry for the loss of your little monkey.. When my quackers died..ren and stimpy...I didn't have money either. So I got a really big planting pot and buried them together. Planting wild flowers in the soil. To this day..the flowers still bloom..and that was about 20 years ago.letting go is really hard, and I'm sorry your going thru this. Sending you a big feathered hug.

 

[Scott]

Lizard, if you like, our house is on a 1/2 acre in Suffolk county. Monkey is more then welcome to join Maxie, Rasha, Mr. Duckie and a few other family pets ( only 1 is a parrot), that have passed in our family over the last 30 years, under the big boulder at the base of a strong Oak sapling. We will even inscribe is name on the boulder. Its a nice drive out and you can visit him whenever.

LIRR for weekends is $13.25, from Penn Station to the stop in our town, about 2 min from me. Sorry Lizard, nothing cheaper then that besides hitchhiking.

That is a wonderfully nice offer, Al. Thank you for caring!!

 

[RavensGryf]

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss .

Have you thought about getting a large (but not too heavy to be portable) pot with a special plant? You can bury your beloved there, then be able to always have them with you regardless of land space or not. Take care, I know it's rough.

Edit: If you like, you can make a little coffin. I'm not sure what kind of bird, but when I had finches (or if a small enough species) before I learned of cremation, I used to make a coffin from a toilet paper tube. The body packed in soft tissue or whatever, and sealed in foil or something similar.. you can even decorate and personalize the coffin before burying it. You get the idea. I wish you all the best.

 

[BlinkingLizard]

Salty, you are very generous - thank you so much for the offer. I'm trying to see if any relatives in Long Island might let me use their property.


-Lizard.

 

[BlinkingLizard]

I know it's been a while, but I wanted to come back and tell you about Monkey's final resting place. Being able to discuss options here with everyone really helped. I was able to borrow a car and drive to the house of some relatives. They are bird people, too, and had previously watched Monkey when I was on vacation. They let me bury him on the side of their house, and he has a decorate rock marking the spot. My children came and helped to dig the hole and say goodbye. I'm not always active in the forums, but I still have a cockatiel, so I'll be here. Thank you all for your condolences and suggestions.

~Lizarc

 

[GaleriaGila]

Beautiful ending to a beautiful life and times.
Congatulations.
You saw that bird out in style. I only hope I can do as much for the Rickeybird.
Please keep healing.
Thanks for the update.

 

[Scott]

I'm glad you found a resting place for Monkey with meaning, one you'll be able to visit as desired.

We're always here!