How do I keep going?

I totally get it. When budgie Buddy died while having his beak trimmed about 35 years ago I was grief stricken. Buddy was my feathered soul mate. He also talked. It took me several years to get another budgie, Buddy II, who lived 13 years. My heart goes out to you.
 
DonnaBudgie said:
I totally get it. When budgie Buddy died while having his beak trimmed about 35 years ago I was grief stricken. Buddy was my feathered soul mate. He also talked. It took me several years to get another budgie, Buddy II, who lived 13 years. My heart goes out to you.
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Sorry for your loss. I had a Budgie ( non talker) Sheriff as a teen and didn't get another (Otto) for 20 years after his death Losing or feathered kids is so hard. 💔
 
I can so relate to this feeling @OttoVonRuthless316. Big hugs to you. I lost all three of my senior dogs this year. I'd had them all since puppies and there were/are my family. Grief is so very heavy and hard. It definitely impacts my day-to-day life. I make scrapbooks for all of them and it helps some to remember all the happy times. I also write letters to them and find that to be helpful. But, yes, it is indescribably hard. I certainly have days where I feel the same but I have to remind myself of the people and creatures still here who love and need me.
 
My sister was very happily married to her college sweetheart for 42 years when suddenly he died of a massive stroke last February. She has always been a strong, happy, successful, emotionally healthy person but she still calls me crying several times a day almost 10 months later. She's alone now for the first time in her life because her three adult kids are married and scattered around the country. She has more money than she will ever need but would trade it all to have him back. Grief is grief. Spouse, child, dog, cat or bird. The stronger and longer the bond the harder it is. But she will survive this even though sometimes she feels like she can't. So will you.
 
I know it's really difficult to get yourself together and move forward. I'm going through a difficult time myself and what is helping me is to volunteer at a bird rescue organization. They always need so much help. I clean cages and when I'm done I spend the time with various parrots that are scared or need to be handled so they become adoptable. There are so many of them that I bet you would bond with one eventually or just be a great way to give back.
 
I miss him so much! 😭💔 I hope he knew how much he was loved.
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**HUge Hugs**

I know he knows he was much loved. :)
 
Oh he most definitely knew! You could hear it in his sweet voice.

I feel your pain friend. I miss my dogs so much every day. :( it is hard
 
onamom said:
Oh he most definitely knew! You could hear it in his sweet voice.

I feel your pain friend. I miss my dogs so much every day. :( it is hard
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I'm sorry you're going through this kind of pain too. *hugs*
 
I read through your posts since Otto died and noticed that your family hadn't noticed Otto was sick, and you were still away when he passed. I can see why this makes losing him so much more difficult. However, many budgie illnesses are not "curable" by the time it becomes apparent that the bird is sick. Many budgies die from tumors, liver disease, or organ failure and these don't respond well to treatment. Otto gave you a lot of joy and he loved you, too. You ask how you can go on and that's understandable because that's how all people feel when the love of their life, human or animal, has left them, especially so suddenly and unexpectedly. You go on because you need to. You WILL survive this devastating loss. It WILL get easier with time.
 
DonnaBudgie said:
I read through your posts since Otto died and noticed that your family hadn't noticed Otto was sick, and you were still away when he passed. I can see why this makes losing him so much more difficult. However, many budgie illnesses are not "curable" by the time it becomes apparent that the bird is sick. Many budgies die from tumors, liver disease, or organ failure and these don't respond well to treatment. Otto gave you a lot of joy and he loved you, too. You ask how you can go on and that's understandable because that's how all people feel when the love of their life, human or animal, has left them, especially so suddenly and unexpectedly. You go on because you need to. You WILL survive this devastating loss. It WILL get easier with time.
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Thank you!. You're right about budgies and illness plus they're masters at hiding illness. I've cried every night since he passed, I miss him so much.
 
That's a long time for a budgee, they lived a good long life, sorry they passed, try getting a slightly different bird, build a new relationship that isnt a replacement :). I just got my 1st conure and I had a blue budgee as a child
 
The reason I ask is that you told us that Otto was a male but I noticed that his cere looked much more like a female in the last year of his life. Testicular tumors are pretty common in male budgies and they secrete hormones that can turn a male budgie's cere tan brown and wrinkled like a females. My female Lutino Elan has a cere that looks like Otto's before be passed.
This may have been why he died. If so, you couldn't have done anything about it.
This is my girl, Elan.
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