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[Grayway]

I recently, lost my handicapped Timneh. She died in her sleep. I got her at 2 weeks old so she wouldn't be culled. She was brain damaged, stunted, wobbled when she walked, could not talk or fly. I handfed her for the entire 2 years I had her. She was a physical wreck but perfect in my eyes.

Her gentle spirit and docile nature helped me to cope with being 24/7/365 caretaker for my husband of 36 years with dementia. I rarely leave home. She helped me more than I ever did her. She was my world. I have no family here, I can't get out to make friends. I needed her.

I am looking for another one who needs a special owner. I would consider any options. I am NOT looking for a free bird. I just want another best friend. If you know of one PLEASE pass my request on. Or contact me, I am devastated , please help me pick up the pieces.

Thank you

 

[bug_n_flock]

Sending hugs and support. I have a special needs budgie who is extremely dependent on me for survival. She is six years old and I'm thankful for every precious day with her. I'm going to give her some extra treats and head scratches tonight for your departed friend.

I hope you find another friend soon who needs the kind of love that you need to give. Big hugs

 

[Grayway]

My lil one would wobble as fast as she could to lay beside me if I laid on the floor. If I was sitting she's drape herself across my feet and if my feet weren't available she'd drape across my shoes. I can't tell you how devastated I am. I'd take a handicapped bird anyday after her. She showed me that she didn't need to be physically perfect to be the perfect bird.

When I got her I said I may only be a hospice home for her, but I'd be the best hospice home on earth. Little did I know.

 

[DonnaBudgie]

I'm so sorry. You gave her a good life like she deserved and all of us thank you for rescuing her.
It would help in finding you another feathered friend if we knew about where you live (Country state or provence).
Again, I can feel your grief. There is a lot of it going around right now. Another member, a young woman, just had her beloved cockatoo killed by hawks and she's devastated.
I hope we can help you find another special needs bird that needs the love you are so ready to give.

 

[TiredOldMan]

My deepest sympathies for your loss. Many of us here unfortunately know it all too well.
She knew that she was loved and cared for. In the end that is all any of us can hope for.
I believe she is in a better place where she no longer has the difficulties and challenges she faced here.
Bless you for the love and support you gave her and I wish you the best.

 

[Vampiric_Conure]

Sending hugs. Losing those beloved housemates hurts, no matter the species

 

[bug_n_flock]

My lil one would wobble as fast as she could to lay beside me if I laid on the floor. If I was sitting she's drape herself across my feet and if my feet weren't available she'd drape across my shoes. I can't tell you how devastated I am. I'd take a handicapped bird anyday after her. She showed me that she didn't need to be physically perfect to be the perfect bird.

When I got her I said I may only be a hospice home for her, but I'd be the best hospice home on earth. Little did I know.

My Hima can't walk on her own, only waddle. She can't fly, can't be in a normal wire cage, can't even have a water dish. I give her water from a bottle cap every day, and have done for her whole life. She can eat on her own tho. Until I got the puppy a few weeks ago, she slept on my bed with me. Right next to my pillow, in her plastic travel cage of a house. She will probably go back to sleeping on my bed soon, but right now things are too new with the puppy and he needs the extra attention. She still sleeps right nearby, and gets her special Himatime. Having some quality Himatime right now as I write this in fact. I know my other birds love me, but it is so incredibly obvious that I mean as much to Hima as she does to me. I can only imagine what you are going thru right now, and my heart breaks for you. I completely understand what your saying about how your buddy would always be touching you if possible. It's something I am very much used to with Hima. She may not be able to get around very well, but is always willing to go on an epic(Hima sized) adventure to get close to me. Call it a "flat safari" when she gets to waddling around to get to me, or cause trouble.

I wouldn't want another handicapped bird to be created if that makes sense, but I 100% agree with you that they are completely perfect and I wouldn't hesitate for a second to take in another "special" one.

I saw on Craigslist recently someone was giving away a cockatiel with a twisted foot. I did answer the add, but it was a "free to good home" add, so the bird went somewhere else already. Hope she went to a good home, but the pics didn't seem like she was very much impacted by the leg and mostly looked "normal"

Maybe keep an eye on your local craigslist and somebirdy special in need of help might pop up

Sending more big hugs

 

[DonnaBudgie]

I see you're in Arizona. Anyone know of special needs birds in or near Arizona?

 

[Grayway]

I have sent info to rescues, breeders, vets, try to post on Craigslist but I get flagged everytime. I am banned from FB but I do not know why. I sent one post only and it was a request to join a bird group. I've posted on every social media app I have. I get lots of atta boys but nothing. I am open to a normal bird, I am not looking for a free bird. I am hoping for the Timneh but would consider another. I realize most non-perfect babies get culled and this will be an uphill battle. I don't know about older birds... there just seems to be so few. My options are also limiting me as I don't think a 'tiny' bird would be safe with my husband. He can't tolerate super loud or a screamer. I know my needs may go unanswered. That’s how it is with dementia. I am invisible as a person.
I married him 36 years ago for better or worse in sickness or health. People tell me to put him in a home, he hardly knows you most days... but I know him everyday. I can't throw him away.

Hannah helped me when dealing with his dementia. She helped me to be more calm. I feel so anxious because I know this is likely a no-go. My grief is horrible and at times I feel like her passing was that straw. I thought I'd put the word out and maybe just maybe. It can't hurt.

 

[DonnaBudgie]

You are not invisible but I understand why you feel that way. Brain illnesses are the worst because they take so much away from away a person and their families with no hope of recovery. My family has had some horrible brain things lately. No dementia but strokes. My 89 year old mother had a stroke 3 years ago that took out her right side (dominant arm and leg) and her speech so she's in a wheelchair unable to speak but understands everything. My 89 year old father who took care of her had two strokes last fall and died in September leaving Mom alone, severely disabled and grieving. My only sister's husband, previously healthy, had a severe stroke at only 67 in February and died two days later. My sister is devastated. No one needs to be told how precious the brain is but until a close loved one has a brain problem like a tumor, dementia or stroke they don't realize how your life changes when it happens to someone close to you.
Your husband's dementia affects your life as much as it affects his, if not more, since it sounds like he's not always aware of you. Your life has value. I'm willing to bet that if he was the way he used to be he wouldn't want to see you sacrificing your life to take care of him. He probably wouldn't want to live like this himself. My sister and her husband talked a lot about their end of life wishes and she knew he wouldn't want to live the life your husband is living or the life he would have had if he survived his stroke and definitely would want my sister to be happy. I hope ypu consider placing him in a nursing home closeby so he can be cared for while you visit frequently and try to rebuild your life. Isn't that what you would want for him if the situation was reversed? Do it because that's the best way to honor the memory of the man he used to be.

As for getting another bird, I'm sure a bird in need is in your future. There are so many parrots is shelters. Why do you get "flagged" and banned? I don't understand.

 

[Grayway]

I'm so sorry. You gave her a good life like she deserved and all of us thank you for rescuing her.
It would help in finding you another feathered friend if we knew about where you live (Country state or provence).
Again, I can feel your grief. There is a lot of it going around right now. Another member, a young woman, just had her beloved cockatoo killed by hawks and she's devastated.
I hope we can help you find another special needs bird that needs the love you are so ready to give.

I am in Kingman AZ USA right now but in the fall go back to Mesa.

 

[Grayway]

You are not invisible but I understand why you feel that way. Brain illnesses are the worst because they take so much away from away a person and their families with no hope of recovery. My family has had some horrible brain things lately. No dementia but strokes. My 89 year old mother had a stroke 3 years ago that took out her right side (dominant arm and leg) and her speech so she's in a wheelchair unable to speak but understands everything. My 89 year old father who took care of her had two strokes last fall and died in September leaving Mom alone, severely disabled and grieving. My only sister's husband, previously healthy, had a severe stroke at only 67 in February and died two days later. My sister is devastated. No one needs to be told how precious the brain is but until a close loved one has a brain problem like a tumor, dementia or stroke they don't realize how your life changes when it happens to someone close to you.
Your husband's dementia affects your life as much as it affects his, if not more, since it sounds like he's not always aware of you. Your life has value. I'm willing to bet that if he was the way he used to be he wouldn't want to see you sacrificing your life to take care of him. He probably wouldn't want to live like this himself. My sister and her husband talked a lot about their end of life wishes and she knew he wouldn't want to live the life your husband is living or the life he would have had if he survived his stroke and definitely would want my sister to be happy. I hope ypu consider placing him in a nursing home closeby so he can be cared for while you visit frequently and try to rebuild your life. Isn't that what you would want for him if the situation was reversed? Do it because that's the best way to honor the memory of the man he used to be.

As for getting another bird, I'm sure a bird in need is in your future. There are so many parrots is shelters. Why do you get "flagged" and banned? I don't understand.

You are not invisible but I understand why you feel that way. Brain illnesses are the worst because they take so much away from away a person and their families with no hope of recovery. My family has had some horrible brain things lately. No dementia but strokes. My 89 year old mother had a stroke 3 years ago that took out her right side (dominant arm and leg) and her speech so she's in a wheelchair unable to speak but understands everything. My 89 year old father who took care of her had two strokes last fall and died in September leaving Mom alone, severely disabled and grieving. My only sister's husband, previously healthy, had a severe stroke at only 67 in February and died two days later. My sister is devastated. No one needs to be told how precious the brain is but until a close loved one has a brain problem like a tumor, dementia or stroke they don't realize how your life changes when it happens to someone close to you.
Your husband's dementia affects your life as much as it affects his, if not more, since it sounds like he's not always aware of you. Your life has value. I'm willing to bet that if he was the way he used to be he wouldn't want to see you sacrificing your life to take care of him. He probably wouldn't want to live like this himself. My sister and her husband talked a lot about their end of life wishes and she knew he wouldn't want to live the life your husband is living or the life he would have had if he survived his stroke and definitely would want my sister to be happy. I hope ypu consider placing him in a nursing home closeby so he can be cared for while you visit frequently and try to rebuild your life. Isn't that what you would want for him if the situation was reversed? Do it because that's the best way to honor the memory of the man he used to be.

As for getting another bird, I'm sure a bird in need is in your future. There are so many parrots is shelters. Why do you get "flagged" and banned? I don't understand.

I supposedly violated the TOS of FB according to the email I got from them. I have no idea how. I followed their rules to sign up and only sent a post to join the bird group before I was banned. I appeal and they still said I was permanently banned. IDK why.

My husband has requested in the past and now not to go into a home. I will hold on as long as I am able. I

in looking for another bird, I have contacted shelters and rescues. Its not like I am inexperienced either, I have owned a shelter vet office years ago. I did animal control as an animal control officer. I've trained under a state avian vet, have an animal science degree, my vet tech certification and many many awards. I am not a novice but also understand I am only one of many. It just hasn't worked out so far

 

[DonnaBudgie]

That thing with FB sounds ridiculous. Can you get a new email address and sign up under a slightly different name? Maybe sign up under your husband's name. There must be some way around it.

I'm sorry you're in this situation with your husband. I realize that a home isnt an option right now, but that doesn't mean you can't have a life. Can you hire a sitter to watch him while you go out? Can you volunteer at a shelter?

 

[Grayway]

That thing with FB sounds ridiculous. Can you get a new email address and sign up under a slightly different name? Maybe sign up under your husband's name. There must be some way around it.

I'm sorry you're in this situation with your husband. I realize that a home isnt an option right now, but that doesn't mean you can't have a life. Can you hire a sitter to watch him while you go out? Can you volunteer at a shelter?

If I hire a sitter I could get away a little bit. I have tried it a couple of times and his blood pressure went into the 190s. I've been afraid since. Even when he was in the hospital I tried to go out to the car and they called me to get right back in there.

 

[DonnaBudgie]

You realize this could go on for a long time. How old is he? Is he mobile? Does he have any other serious health problems? Does he have enough rational thought process left to discuss it with him and get cooperation with you going out for a few hours?
I'm trying to see what your situation is like so you can get a bird that suits it.

 

[DonnaBudgie]

I've read all your prior posts since ypu joined PF in 2023. Do you still have a conure you adopted? It seems like you had other parrots in your household, too. Not that it makes it easier losing dear Hannah who you obviously loved so much.

 

[Grayway]

I've read all your prior posts since ypu joined PF in 2023. Do you still have a conure you adopted? It seems like you had other parrots in your household, too. Not that it makes it easier losing dear Hannah who you obviously loved so much.

I do, she's sitting on my head as I type. The differenc between my Hannah and others is they don't like to be handled as much so the relationships are good, but not that extra-special one. Nika is extra active. I do love her.

 

[DonnaBudgie]

What a cutie! I understand. Nothing like having your own special bird friend that loves to be close. I have 19 budgies; 5 are very tame and super friendly but one is my own "personal budgie". Joey has defective feet from birth so I've given her extra special attention and she lives in our bedroom with us away from the others. She's not as challenged as Hannah was but she didn't fly well until she was 6 months old and her perches will always be padded because of her weird feet. She could sit on me all day if I let her.

 

[Grayway]

You do understand. It's not like I don't love my other birds, I really do. But I am a bonus in their lives, with Hannah, I was the center of her life. She made my day, every day.