My parrot lost his mate and he’s not doing good

[osklvste49]

No it doesn't upset me. Humans put meaning as to how they were raised. I was raised Native American. I put nature first. I try to see from nature's view point. Dogs being domestic don't want to leave their human. Even in mourning there is a bond. Chickens, duck and the like are domestic but there's no bond. There are exceptions with both. Parrots and companion birds aren't truly domestic. Again exceptions with breeding exist. They feel the wild. Even hand fed. The wild is there. In the wild flocks and others are present. Ways for comfort exist. In captivity we can only try. Different cultures we see the same but different conclusions.

 

[kme3388]

On top of parrot pair bonds they vary greatly. My Ekkie is fine with all females. He try’s to mate with all of them. In the wild it sounds like the males go female to female presenting food as a gift for mating all day. My sun conure right now is in a high arousal most of the time and has been for 5 months. I’d describe it as not being able to regulate himself without his mate. He will still interact with us. My mac daddy is pair bonded to me. When I boarded him I was informed they had to cover windows to try to soothe him. He was screaming the entire day like my conure because I wasn’t there caring for him. He was screaming sun up to sun down (no he isn’t like that at home). He wasn’t eating well. He was trying to bite people through the cage bars when they were trying to feed him. He was distressed. I thought he’d get over it within a few days. That was not the case. My Mac daddy forms very intense bonds with who he chooses. He tends to be aggressive towards others. Yes he dropped weight when I boarded him. The place does a tremendous job with parrots too. It’s just how our parrots are. I wish I could manipulate it as I don’t like to watch anything suffer.

 

[texsize50]

On top of parrot pair bonds they vary greatly. My Ekkie is fine with all females. He try’s to mate with all of them. In the wild it sounds like the males go female to female presenting food as a gift for mating all day. My sun conure right now is in a high arousal most of the time and has been for 5 months. I’d describe it as not being able to regulate himself without his mate. He will still interact with us. My mac daddy is pair bonded to me. When I boarded him I was informed they had to cover windows to try to soothe him. He was screaming the entire day like my conure because I wasn’t there caring for him. He was screaming sun up to sun down (no he isn’t like that at home). He wasn’t eating well. He was trying to bite people through the cage bars when they were trying to feed him. He was distressed. I thought he’d get over it within a few days. That was not the case. My Mac daddy forms very intense bonds with who he chooses. He tends to be aggressive towards others. Yes he dropped weight when I boarded him. The place does a tremendous job with parrots too. It’s just how our parrots are. I wish I could manipulate it as I don’t like to watch anything suffer.

I did see a documentary about Ekkie‘s in the wild.
Apparently they are unlike most parrots and not monogamous.
Females will mate with multiple males.
This ensures she gets enough food while incubating and staying with the young. Male Ekkie don’t incubate the eggs only the female. I think this is why Ekkie tend to be much less “one person birds”

 

[osklvste49]

I really wish someone or group would study grief in our companion animals. Movies and media only spins it to their profit positive or negative.