Mourning the tragic loss my Conure Anana

[picardk123]

Hello everyone, my heart is so heavy as yesterday my beloved birdie girl Anana of almost 10 years tragically died and I’m in so much pain dealing with her loss. My 16 year old son Erik was sleeping when he rolled over her and found her crushed at his side when he woke up. I had inadvertently left his bedroom door opened and she went to cuddle him in the blankets after I left for work. He’s so broken over her tragic loss and we’re both feeling deep pain for her loss. She truly was my birdie girl.She was so loving and our constant family companion. It’s surreal as i stare at her empty cage. I miss feeling her on my shoulder and the love she brought in our home. I don’t know how to make this void and pain I feel go away. All of my boys are grieving too ranging age 13-18.
Thank you for reading my story. Enjoy your precious bird, they are wonderful creatures.
My much sorrow,

Karen:

 

[mboundy]

I am so sorry for your loss. I still miss my beloved Lego and I didn't have her for a full year. You must be devastated, I am truely sorry.

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[Flboy]

I am so sorry for your pain and loss!

 

[ChristaNL]

So sorry this happened to you all. She sounds like she was a wonderfull bird.

 

[Allee]

Deepest condolences for your sad loss, I’m so sorry. It’s hard to get through the shock and pain of such a terrible loss. I hope in time the many memories you have of Anana will comfort you.

 

[itzjbean]

So sorry this happened. We've had several posts in the last year of members who lost their birds to the same situation... sleeping with our birds is a no-no and I'm so sorry you had to learn it the hard way. Hugs to you and to healing.

 

[wrench13]

I am sorry to hear of the loss of your sun conure. I am sure you are feeling it a lot, but more so your son. I would think he needs all the love you can spare right now, so he does not blame himself for this.

 

[ChocolateChipCookiez]

I am so sorry for the loss of your companion *hugs*​

 

[Terry57]

I am so sorry for your loss of Anana. Sending my deepest condolences to you and your boys.

 

[Aratingettar]

I'm sorry your first post here on the PFs is such a sad one. Anana must have been a great bird, so bonded with all of you it lead to her tragic death. I know how Sun Conures can be loving and loyal creatures, and I enjoy every day with Cytrynka.
Keep all the good memories with you, and keep in mind that Anana was loved by you and yours to her last day - let this ease your pain a bit.

 

[Scott]

Karen, please accept my deepest condolences for your loss of Anana. I know your family and especially Erik are heartbroken as result of tragic accident. May you be comforted by Anana's loving memories.

 

[EllenD]

Oh Karen, I'm so very sorry for your loss, and my heart is breaking for your poor son...We have had many, many people lose their pet birds because they were purposely sleeping with them every night, like they actually sleep with their little birds under the covers with them...That's bad enough, but your poor son didn't even know he was sleeping with her..

2 weeks ago I accidentally shut my beloved 3 year-old Green Cheek Conure, Bowie, in the bathroom door, as he follows me everywhere around the house, and I thouht that he had already left the bathroom when I pulled the door shut and heard his screaming as the door shut on the back of his head and neck...I thought I was going to lose him for sure, but we got incredibly lucky, and I've been thankful every single day since, and I'm also finding myself appreciating my guys more than even now, and trying to cherish every moment I have with them all, especially Bowie...So my heart goes out to your son, as I know how I felt...

I hope your son can forgive himself, I'm sure that your bird knows that he did not do it purposely, wherever she is, and is missing him as much as he is missing her, and as much as you are missing her...I hope your family can find strength and comfort in each other...

 

[dhraiden]

Mourning Anana

My sympathies and condolences for your tragic loss.


Readers, please ensure your beloved birds always go to sleep safely inside their homes with their cage-door closed and locked.


Farewell Anana! You are deeply mourned and missed. :smile040:

 

[Kalel]

I’m so sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you and your family.

 

[bug_n_flock]

I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. I know the shock and confusion and profound sadness that come with such a tragedy. Last year I had a lovebird loose with me in the room, and I ducked out for *maybe* 10 minutes. That was enough time for her to land on the cage of a group of pet rats... they took her head off. It was just so fast, so senseless.. The quiet and the empty cage were just so horrible, not to mention the profound guilt I felt. I agree with Salty's dad.. make sure to give all the love you possibly can spare to your son. He has to be feeling all that you are and then some.



I am so so sorry for your loss, I cannot even properly express. As for what may help to ease you and your family's pain, perhaps another bird when you are ready. It does not have to be another conure if that feels like trying to replace her. But you are clearly keeping a good healthy envirnment for pet birds, and perhaps taking in a bird in need would be a good way to honor her memory.



Please don't take my post as insensitive or pushy. I know that I didn't start to really heal after my losses until I had Legs to care for. It is amazing how well parrots do at healing a broken heart.



All my best,


Bug and flock

 

[LaManuka]

I’m so sorry for your loss of Anana, terrible accidents like this can happen in the blink of an eye, please tell your son he should not blame himself (though he probably does anyway)

I lost my precious green cheeked boy to illness last year and still cry over him. They’re so wonderful to have around but it’s devastating to lose them. I have a crazy little lorikeet now who keeps me busy but I will always miss my baby Baci. Little Lilly makes us laugh with her silly antics though so in time, if you do decide to get another bird, I know you’ll find that new feathery bundle will help to heal your hearts.

 

[Ellie777Australia]

Bonjour Karen,


Prenant part à votre douleur, je vous présente mes sincères condoléances, à vous et à votre famille.


Bien cordialement,
Debbie

 

[LeaKP]

All of us feel so for you! Sending love and hugs your way.


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[EllenD]

Karen, I was thinking that something that might help your son get through this horrible tragedy and profound loss, and maybe ease just a bit of his pain, is to let him know just how common what happened actually is (we must get at least one person a month posting here because they lost their bird this way), and to let him know that our Community/forum here is extremely active with who knows how many people trolling-through without registering, and that the loss that he and your entire family is feeling right now is actually going to help educate many, many others who are reading this post...

Many of our Community's long-time members have years and years of experience having birds as a part of their lives and their families, but the fact of the matter is that the average person who owns a pet bird has ZERO experience with birds, and the bird they have in their lives while they are reading this thread is their very first pet bird. So the average person reading this thread, who walked into Petco or Petsmart to get a fish or a hamster or some other type of pet, and who walked-out with a baby Budgie, Green Cheek, Cockatiel, Sun, or Jenday, has absolutely NO IDEA what the hell they are doing or what they've gotten themselves into (and you know this is going to be a popular thread, as sad and macabre as it is, we all know that people read the threads with a subject/title that mentions "tragedy", "loss", "accident", etc. first, before reading any other threads)...

***So the bottom-line is that the thousands of uneducated and inexperienced new bird owners who are going to be reading this thread, from now into the distant-future, and who will hear your story and feel your son's pain, their innocent, sweet pet birds are the ones who your son's story is going to save!!! I can see exactly how unaware and inexperienced bird owners reading this thread are going to react to it: "Damn, it never crossed my mind that I could kill him this way", and "Oh my God, we've gotta stop sleeping with her like we've been doing...Boy did we get lucky. She's going to be mad sleeping in her cage but she's just going to have to get over it!"...

So I just hope that your son realizes that the horrible loss and pain that he is going through is going to save the lives of thousands of other pet birds all over the world...And maybe knowing this will give him just a little bit of comfort...

 

[SailBoat]

Passing of a Feathered Friend

“All of us feel such deep sadness when our Parrot friends die, and because they are Animals and not Humans, we are at a loss for words. Often, it is only other Parrot owners who can understand the depth of the loss that we feel with this complex, loyal, and loving creature. Resulting from such a loss, I have placed feelings and emotions into words and found verse to console the loss of my Cleo and since her, other sweet Amazons, in turn; I hope it will speak for all of you.” - Steven

You left this world so quickly. I can hardly comprehend your leaving. Yet there, in my hands, your still body rested — no longer your home. So much I have learned, so much you have taught, your purpose a full measure beyond your size. Comprehensions of your loss still a mist but yet, I know you are whole and happy - now beyond Rainbow Bridge. And so busy you must be upon your [sweet] wings, guiding angles to those of us yet to cross. With in my ear, I still hear you, those special sweet sounds of comfort and contentment:

“Do not stand by my grave and weep my friend.
I am not here. I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am the diamond glint on snow.
I am the gentle summer rain.
When you wake in the morning hush, I am the swift uplifting rush of quiet birds in circling flight.
I am the soft starlight at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry my friend.
I am not there. I did not die.”

My pray for you my beloved feathered friend:

“May your body nourish this earth.
May your soul find release and contentment.
May you fly high and free upon wings of spirit.
Rest in peace little one.”

The love and tender warmth of you is a un-full-fill-able void.
I do so much thank-you for creating a space for another, a special place next to yours’.

In remembrance of Cleo, (Estimated) Spring 1959 - May 2003

Sources: Cheyenne Warrior Blessing, The Amazona Society’s Forum, Amazon Forum of Parrot Forums, Steven (SailBoat)


May these words bring warm feathered hugs to the both of you and provide comfort that Anana is not gone, but just beyond life's tree line.